Be Patient, Stay Strong & Smile


Whatever you are going through, do your best not to cry so much. It’s okay. It is just a test, a trial in your life and you have been through so many. This isn’t any different than the others, it just feels different. Just as you have passed all the other tests in your life, you’ll get past this one too. Your days may feel cloudy with lots of rain but it is temporary. No rain last forever. The downpour is temporary. In your mind, you think it feels like it is an eternity but it is not. Nature changes and people change too and as nature changes, so will you. You’ll be what you are supposed to become and this test is going to make you that person who is already loved by so many. So don’t cry, things will be okay, no matter what you are going through today.

Allah SWT says in Surah Al-Baqara (The Cow): “Allah does not burden a soul beyond that it can bear”

And also Allah SWT says in Surah Ash-Sharh (The Relief): “With hardship comes ease”

So be patient, smile, make du’aa (supplication) and know, these days are not here to stay, just as the rain is not here to stay. After every storm, behind the clouds, there is the sun and just as the sun brings ease and happiness in many people’s lives, after this test in your life is over, it’ll do the same for you. You’ll be revised, renewed, a better individual. A wiser, stronger, more patient and blessed individual who conquered the soul and the mind to be where they are supposed to be. Don’t hang your head low but keep it up and be hopeful because there are much better days ahead. It begins with you walking towards a better life with patience, commitment and knowing this is only a test and these days are numbered and it to shall pass and after hardship comes ease.


Feeling Beautiful In The Hijab


As you struggle with the temptations and how everyone will perceive you, you will constantly be reminded by the voice in your head or by people, you will not look beautiful in your hijab. If you cover yourself like every other Muslim woman or women who feel they shouldn’t show off their body, you will be viewed as someone who is not confident in themselves. There must be some imperfections in her, that she feels embarrassed to show, which is why she is covering herself. Often women say, “I am not ready to wear the hijab because I am not a good enough Muslim yet. I still want to do things before I commit to the hijab. Hijab is a commitment and I am not ready for that type of commitment. If I am to do things with the hijab on, it’s a big responsibility and I don’t want to be looked at as a bad muslim.”

The shaytaan will always whisper these things to you as you come closer to Allah SWT. He will remind you that your actions in front of others are going to be judged if you do something in public with the hijab on. Or don’t wear the hijab now, first become a better Muslim and then over time, wear the hijab. You don’t know when life will end, so why would you intend on waiting for tomorrow, when tomorrow is not promised?

Remember sisters, your beauty shouldn’t and cannot be defined by anyone other than Allah SWT. Allah SWT looks at believers heart, deeds, actions and not what society perceives you by. Society will always perceive what is not the norm to be abnormal. Never lower your beauty in perspective to what everyone else thinks because what everyone else thinks is always going to be nothing more than an opinion. Society will constantly come with trends to follow or you will be labelled as old school or not keeping up with the times. “It’s the future! Hijab was Prophets time.”

Never allow these things to make you lower your standards or how you will be perceived by others. Others will never be able to define your beauty, unless you allow them to define your beauty. Allah SWT has created everything beautifully and everything perfect. The reflection in the mirror is perfect because Allah SWT has created it that way. Once you allow yourself to believe you were created ugly or created with imperfections in the physical, you will remind yourself of how displeased you are with how you look, with how others will look at you and then either accept you or not accept you.

Don’t worry about that. First learn to accept yourself. If you are able to accept yourself, no one else will tell you whether you are acceptable in the physical form you are now or not. This does not mean, be careless with your health because your body has a right over your too but be confident in how you look. If there is something about yourself that you dislike do not just become depressed but look for ways through Allah SWT to correct it and then find the proper means to correct it. This is why, your body also has a right over you too. The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) once asked a companion: “(Is it true) that you fast all day and stand in prayer all night?” The companion replied that the report was indeed true. The Prophet then said: “Do not do that! Observe the fast sometimes and also leave (it) at other times. Stand up for prayer at night and also sleep at night. Your body has a right over you, your eyes have a right over you and your wife has a right over you.” – Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 7, Hadith 127

Sisters, never despair because Allah SWT has created everything through His wisdom and His knowledge. Be confident and keep your head high. You do look beautiful in your hijab, even if others tell you you are covering your beauty. Remember the beauty of a flower is covered before it is uncovered to the world. When a flower is growing, it comes through the dirt first, grows and then through time it uncovers itself. This is how you must view yourself. Through time and through the right person, meaning your husband who will appreciate your beauty.

If you have any questions, feel free to ask.