The Correct Du’aa (Supplication) When Breaking Your Fast

Assalamwalikhum (peace be upon you)

Alhamdulilah (thanks to Allah), we have reached another blessed month of Ramadan. On many of our Ramadan timetables there is a du’aa that has been passed around for years as the correct du’aa to break your fast. I have recited it for years, you have and so have many of our family members and friends. The du’aa, “Allahumma inni laka sumtu wa bika aamantu wa ‘ala rizq-ika aftarthu” (O Allah! I fasted for You and I believe in You and I break my fast with Your sustenance). Did you know this hadith is weak? Yes, the du’aa printed on Ramadan timetables every year, that we recite is actually from a hadith that is weak, which has been graded weak by Sheikh Al-Albaani (may Allah have mercy upon him). I bet you didn’t know there is another du’aa that you recite and you’ve probably never come across before and this du’aa is authentic! The correct du’aa to recite is: Dhahaba al-zama’ wa abtalat al-‘urooq wa thabata al-ajr in sha Allaah (Thirst is gone, the veins are moistened and the reward is certain if Allaah wills).” [Abu Dawood]

May Allah make this Ramadan easy for us and keep us on the straight path

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The Coolness Of The Morning

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I would like to share something personal with you all. I’ve been dwelling on this topic for a few days now and I’ve been going back and forth with it in my head. I didn’t want to write it because, I don’t want to seem as if I am a better Muslim than you all or I am showing off but I am writing this because after that morning, something inside of me has told me to write about my experience. Maybe it is the shaytaan that has prevented me from penning, well penning is not the right word but typing my feelings out. It’s still heavy on my chest and on my mind, kind of weighing me down and has only made me want to share my feelings or to say, experience. Here it is…..

I cried like a baby a few days ago. You are probably thinking, that’s it? You cried? You do know, just because you are a man doesn’t mean you can’t cry. Yes, I know but that’s not the reason why Im sharing this with you. Let me tell you…

I had finished my suhoor a few days ago and I was waiting for fajr salah to begin with the congregation at my local masjid. I made my way there through the coolness of the morning, walking quickly hoping I don’t miss a unit of prayer. Joining a brother of African American descent beside me, made me feel great as a Muslim because it shows unity and Islam is not only a religion for Arabs but Islam is a religion for all of mankind. Through out the salah, I kept saying to myself for some odd reason, his recitation is very beautiful how come I won’t cry? But every time he recited certain words which I understood, I got goosebumps and it would instantly hit me.

He had begun the second unit of prayer and Im still standing there, listening to the beautiful recitation of the Quran. As we came out of rukoo, stood up, the imam had started making duaa, as this is the qunoot which is sometimes recited at the times of affliction when the Muslim ummah is affected by a calamity. It was then my heart just shook, my body felt weak and the tears were falling from my eyes. As I write this, tears are forming in my eyes. I don’t speak arabic but a lot of the duaas which were recited, I knew the meanings of them, so it shook me even more. It made me cry even more. The tears were just forming, dripping down my face, while the brother beside me was crying too.

All that i’ve been through in my life. All that I have seen these past couple of weeks with the people of Palestine being afflicted hit me like nothing I’ve ever experienced. The tears just kept on coming down my face. Nothing could have prepared me for crying in front of a crowd of people but it wasn’t a crowd of people that I was crying in front of but it was Allah SWT, the creator of the heavens and the earth. Never in my life had I cried the way I had cried during the duaa in fajr salah. Everything in my life, which Allah SWT had tried me with I accepted knowing it was best for me but it hurt a lot. Sometimes, you can accept the things in your life that keep happening or the tragedies in the world, knowing it is the decree of Allah but deep down, you are hurt from everything.

After the salah had finished, I quickly wiped the last couple of tears off my face, recited Ayatul Kursi and walked out the masjid. A great deal of weight that was on my heart and my mind was removed. I felt so relieved but I was questioning myself as to why I cried? I still ask myself, why did I cry that morning in fajr salah? The only logical reason I could come up with is because Allah had softened my heart in order for me to cry. In order for His words from the Quran to soften my heart. A lot of us have hard hearts and no matter what we do, how we live our lives, we cannot cry but crying, especially in front of your creator, when making duaa or listening to the Quran or reciting it is a mercy from Allah because His words are supposed to change your life, make you a better person.

May Allah SWT softens all our hearts and does not harden our hearts through out our lives and when they are softened, they remain that way.

Ameen.

Ramadan Mubarak To Everyone

 

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With Ramadan starting tomorrow for me, I’d like to say, well, write, If I have said or have written anything wrong to anyone on this page, then I apologize. My intent is to not offend anyone but for my writings to benefit others, to uplift, inspire and motivate people. I just want you all to make du’aa for me that if one day, I happen to become successful, famous, well known or whatever it may be for my writings, that it does not change me but it helps me become the best version of myself.

Make this Ramadan your best one ever because it may not come again. Read the Qur’an, make lots of du’aa (supplications), give zakat if you are able to, give sadaqa, feed others, help your parents as they are fasting and maybe working. If you know anyone that has converted to Islam, make them feel welcome this Ramadan. Invite them into your home so they can experience Ramadan as you have for many years. Make the experience memorable. If you have broken any ties of kinship, go ahead and call up a family member and apologize even if you were hurt by what they did. It may be your last Ramadan or theirs. There is no need to hold grudges over something that has ruined something great like family. And most important of all, strive to be best you can be and take this experience, lesson in Ramadan as to improve and keep up with that improvement. Continuously polish on what you’ve taken from this Ramadan.

Ramadan Mubarak to everyone who has continuously supported me. 

Appreciating The Qur’an & Du’aas (Supplications)

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Ramadan is literally around the corner, depending where you are in the world. For some it is Saturday and for some Sunday. Many are anticipating a new month which introduces us to our version of “ The Hunger Games.” (Well, not really because you get killed in that movie/book from what I heard.) For several Ramadans, well for several years, my mother would always nag me to complete as many Qur’ans as possible. She would say “If you would finish it this many times this Ramadan I will give you double the money I give you on Eid.” I never finished it during Ramadan but my mother would still reward me and my siblings any way because of our efforts through out the month. As I got older and started recite the Qur’an in English, everything just made sense to me. It just flowed naturally and I understood every single word being read. I appreciated how Allah SWT spoke to me. As the scholars say or I believe I have heard someone say; “If you want to speak to Allah, make du’aa and if you want Allah to speak to you, read the Qur’an.” How true were those words? Anytime we wanted to speak to Allah, all you had to was supplicate and no matter how many times we sinned or slacked on our salah, Allah was granting our du’aas whether we knew it or not. Sometimes we would want our du’aas to be answered instantly and when Allah delayed them for a time being because He knows best, we would only increase in our du’aas and try to be even better Muslims. There is wisdom and knowledge in what He does, so we get closer to Him and that is our ultimate goal.

Whenever we are in sujood, making supplications, we should take our time. Don’t rush it, thinking I have things to do, I better go here and there. No, take your time in sujood and supplicate as long as possible. This is our time to speak to Allah directly. Use the duaas of the Prophets (Peace Be Upon Them All) as these were the duaas that have been granted and used by our Messengers, then after, make duaa in our own language if you want, to pin point the details. The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) said: “The closest that a servant is to his Lord is when he is in prostration, so say a great deal of duaa then.” [Muslim] This is a time when your duaa is accepted so don’t hold back!

I’ve also noticed that when we read the Qur’an, if you’ve ever experienced this, you probably have. You open it reciting and within a few verses whatever problem you were going through that day or the day before, it is revealed right there in the verses. How beautiful is that? It just instantly grants you relief. You think to yourself, wow! I was just thinking of this or went through this yesterday and here it is in the Qur’an explaining to me how to handle that situation. Whether you know or it not, there is a reason why we stop at certain verses, close the Qur’an and read it the next day only to be relieved of a certain thought or problem we are going through.

This Ramadan, make du’aas and read your Qur’an patiently. Don’t rush through it. It isn’t a competition where you recite it and finish it as many times as you can to earn a reward from your parents or anyone else. Appreciate the words, every verse and do your best to understand them. If you have to read the English translation or whatever the language you speak to understand it, read it. It reveals the Qur’an in a completely different light and at times, bringing tears to your eyes, giving you goosebumps and relieving your worries. Anytime you’ve rushed through something in your life, you always felt weird about it after, especially a test. You reflect back on it a few minutes later saying, I should have spent more time on it, gave it more understanding and re-reading my answers. The Qur’an needs the same  application and appreciation. It may not be a test but is the answers for the tests in your life. Take your time to read it and go through it, doing your best to understand what you are reading. You’ll end up loving it and it will most likely become your favourite book in the world.

Didn’t Meet Your Expectations This Ramadan?

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Didn’t meet your expectations this Ramadan? Didn’t accomplish what you had in mind? Ramadan is over or almost over? Do you give up or continue to strive? Just because Ramadan is over doesn’t mean you stop striving to fulfill those same expectations do you? Whatever you wanted to achieve this Ramadan, you have all these months to fulfill them and as the next Ramadan approaches, you will have fulfilled those same goals, expectations you had in mind only to get better. You don’t stop learning about Islam because the holiest month has passed or you are rewarded more. Who knows, the more you strive after Ramadan makes you a better person, you come closer to Allah SWT and you may even teach people about Islam which others may have not known about.

Always be positive with how you think in the present, so it’ll prepare you for your future. A lot of people put a stop to a lot of things after Ramadan only to lose all the benefit and work they’ve put forward. It’s like getting a job and within a month of getting the job, you stop working the way you used to work. You stop striving for a better position in the company and you are only miserable being stuck in the same place. Keep on striving even after Ramadan so you don’t have to worry about “I missed this and I missed that.” You didn’t miss nothing. You only think you missed so much, when in reality you missed nothing because you’ve been blessed to live another day. Many people have died this Ramadan. Some people died on the first day, some people died the first week and weren’t able to accomplish anything, while you’ve been blessed to complete the month with learning or being a better person insha’Allah for the sake of Allah SWT.

It’s like climbing a mountain and as soon as you get to the top, you decide to go all the way back down and say, ill wait another year to try and climb it again. No, you’ve almost reached the top, so continue to get to the top no matter how hard it becomes. No matter how cold the weather is up there. No matter what you have to go through, KEEP ON STRIVING! The finish line is when you die. That is it! When you die is when you rest. Right now, during these last few days of Ramadan or even 1 last day left, you keep on striving. You accomplish what you can and continue to accomplish more and more. Do not give up! Do not waste away all your effort because you’d rather do something which is less important. If you were reading the Quran consistently this Ramadan, keep on reading it. Even if you don’t do it everyday or read as much as you were reading, read as much as you can and as often as you can. If you were praying your salah 5 times a day, 3 times a day, 2 times a day, keep on striving. Do not let your salah go. Make that effort to pray in congregation. Make that effort to pray on time as you were. Make that effort to pray before the time for that salah is up. You began wearing the hijab this month, do your best to keep it on and remind yourself how beautiful you look in the hijab and the person you are only pleasing and doing it for is Allah SWT. You must remind yourself you are beautiful in it. If you were giving sadaqa (charity) continue to give charity, do not put an end to what you’ve worked so hard for.  It’s like an athlete whose trained for several weeks or months and when it is time to compete, the athlete just gives up and doesn’t want to compete anymore. You are that athlete and you are competing for the love of Allah SWT. If you were asking for forgiveness everyday, continue to ask. Do not leave what will make you better for what will make you possibly goto the hellfire. You want Jannah (heaven) not jahanum (hell).

So whatever you are able to learn even after Ramadan will be beneficial for you, insha’Allah. Don’t stop walking towards the straight path. Don’t stop walking towards Allah SWT. Don’t stop learning the religion which will enter you in jannah, insha’Allah. Your work is only done when your time is called to meet Allah SWT. As of today, you have today, tomorrow and insha’Allah more days to come. Take advantage of them.

Men: “I Own You!” Think & Reflect

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*Authors Note* I’ve written an article titled “Women: I am Independent.” I knew when i was writing that article, quite a few people would be offended and in awe and others would be in support of it. I think it is time, I write an article “Men: I Own You!!” So here is the article I was supposed to write a while ago but had other things to write.

To the men who think that your wives can’t live without you, that they need your support, that have to bow down to you or else you’ll threaten them with divorce or you’ll use the hadith which the Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) said: “If the woman performs the five daily prayers, fast the month of Ramadan, maintains her chastity and obeys her husband, she will enter paradise through whichever door she chooses.” [Al-Musnad] How dare you use a hadith to take advantage of your wives? The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) also said: “The best of you are those who are best to their families, and I am the best of you to my family.” [Tirmidhi] These hadiths are for you to think, reflect and understand, not there for you to take advantage of them. The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) was the best to his family, example his wives. Many men come from a background where they have done absolutely nothing, while their mothers have taken care of them, cooked for them, cleaned for them, basically they’ve been spoiled or they’ve been told “this is not a job for you, this is a woman’s job.” So they’ve formed a belief, a mentality that only their wives are supposed to do these things, the house work. This is far from a culture issue and many people will say, this stems from cultures but it does not. It comes from how they are raised in a home.

Now, you’ll have a man say, “well, in Surah An-Nisa Allah SWT says, I am in the maintainer and protecter of the women, He didn’t say, I have to cook and clean!” This is where you come to the belief that you are only supposed to do as you are told and you are, masha’Allah, if you are maintaining and protecting your women but you also forget, that we as an ummah, men and women, follow also The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him). It was narrated by Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) that the Messenger of Allah used to “sew his own clothes, mend his shoes and do whatever other work men do in their homes.” [Al-Musnad]. So how come you’ve come under the belief that your wives are only to do all the house work and them alone? Isn’t the Messenger of Allah an example for us? Allah SWT says in Surah An-Nisa: “O, Mankind, fear your Lord, who has created you from a single soul and created from it, its mate and from them both, many men and many women and fear Allah through whom you demand your mutual rights and indeed Allah is ever watchful over you.”

But instead what you do is either abuse your wife verbally or physically or never appreciate what is done. Just because you are the maintainer and protecter of your women, your wives, this does not mean you oppress them. Allah SWT did give the men rights over their wives but He also has given rights to the wives over their husband but you often forget these things and only abuse your power for your benefit.

Allah SWT has given you a responsibility for your wife, just as her parents have given you that responsibility and trust that you will love her, take care of her and do your best to keep her happy. Imagine one day, your daughter was to marry a man, you would have the same belief in mind that he is going to love her, take care of her and do his best to keep her happy, right? But instead he didn’t. How much would it hurt you to know that your daughter was being physically and verbally abused, to only be married as a slave for him? You would be hurt to the point where you would want to hurt this man! Allah SWT didn’t create women as slaves, so why speak and order your wife as a slave? Would you allow another man to do that your daughter, of course you wouldn’t. It would anger you to watch that take place or hear about it.

As men being the maintainers, this does not give you the right to abuse your power because you may be the bread winner in the home. None of the Companions (may Allah be pleased with them all) did that. Where did the Companions learn the treatment of the women from? From the book of Allah, the Quran and the Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him). Allah SWT also says in Surah An-Nisa “live with them in kindness.” So where did the harsh treatment of women come from? Where did you believe it was right for you to undermine your wife efforts in the home and to not appreciate her? Why be unjust to your wife or your wives, when Allah SWT says also in Surah An-Nisa to “deal with them justly

Men, whatever you do in your home to your wife, your daughters may marry a man who may do the same to her and whatever you do your wife, your sons may do the same to their wives. You are a role model for your children, so shape them, mould them to the way the Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) and his treatment to the ummah (nation) and his wives. You will be questioned for your treatment of your wives and how you also raised and took care of your family. The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) said: “Beware. every one of you is a shepherd and every one is answerable with regard to his flock. The Caliph is a shepherd over the people and shall be questioned about his subjects (as to how he conducted their affairs). A man is a guardian over the members of his family and shall be questioned about them (as to how he looked after their physical and moral well-being). A woman is a guardian over the household of her husband and his children and shall be questioned about them (as to how she managed the household and brought up the children). A slave is a guardian over the property of his master and shall be questioned about it (as to how he safeguarded his trust). Beware, every one of you is a guardian and every one of you shall be questioned with regard to his trust. [Shahih Muslim] So be careful as you will questioned for what you do and their treatment and how you’ve helped raised your kids.

May Allah protect us from these bad manners, ill treatments and guide us to the way The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) treated the ummah, his family and his wives. Ameen.

Ramadan Mubarak!

Ramadan Mubarak suckkkkkaaaas(Nice, aren’t I?) !!! So Ramadan is finally here! Many people cannot wait for the month of Ramadan to come around and somee people’s eyes light up and say “OMG! THIS HEAT! I CANNOT SURVIVE WITHOUT WATER! I NEEEEEEEED WATER!!!” Bunch of sissies! Suck it up! Im just joking. It takes strong individuals to fast through out the day and abstain from many things, which we do a regular basis and now concentrate to improve ourselves and improving our connection with Allah SWT.

Here are just a few tips to help you, insha’Allah! This is going out to me first and foremost and then the rest of you all. So before someone comes and says or thinks “MR. PERFECT!” No, I am not him, he has died and I’ve love to Perfect Plex someone one day but I am not perfect.

So here we go!

If you haven’t been praying your salah as often as you should, then today is a great day to begin to slowly tread that path which gets you closer to your Creator everyday.

If you are a female and you haven’t been wearing the hijab and you struggle to wear it because of the whispers in your head about who is going to critique you and who is going to watch you… as The Rock says “IT DOESN’T MATTER!” If you feel comfortable doing what you do everyday and you don’t care what others are going to say about your job, the car you drive, whether you take public transport, the tv shows you watch, the sports you play, whatever it is you do and people say something anyway and it doesn’t bother you, then “thinking” people will say you are “ugly” in the hijab or “you never used to wear it, is it going to part-time for Ramadan?” It shouldn’t bother you. This is a relationship between you and Allah SWT and not them. If they truly are your friends and they care for you, they will encourage you with positive words.

If you have habits which really affect your eman (faith), review them and see what is blocking you from becoming better everyday. If you have a girlfriend/boyfriend, playing video games for hours, smoking, drinking alcohol, going to the clubs, listening to music, things that affect your eman (faith), that you know in your heart that, “man, this right here is really hurting me and my relationship with my creator” then learn to let it go slowly. Anyone can drop a habit when they want to but the psychological part plays a huge role in people’s lives that is why, a lot of those people when they let it go with a snap of their fingers, they do eventually come back around doing the same thing. Im not saying, let it go when you are ready because death doesn’t tell when it is ready to come, so know what you are leaving with when it is your time. Minimize your sins and do not expose your sins either. It’s tough but do your best.

Continue to do good deeds and work on doing those good deeds all year around and keep them to yourself. Do not go out and brag to your homies and tell them, “yo, I just gave this person $20 and I felt good today.” Keep it to yourself. The left hand shouldn’t know what the right hand does in charity. Meaning, keep these things to yourself. Yeah it does feel good to give someone charity and it uplifts you spirits knowing you are in a better position than that person but keep it to yourself. This doesn’t only mean giving out money, but sadaqa (charity) can be for many things for that matter. Even smiling at someone is charity, shaking someone hand is charity, saying something nice is charity (I don’t say nice things, im EVIL!). The list is massssiiivee!!

Ask forgiveness for your sins. Sincerely repent for your sins. Just do it every single day! Allah SWT is Most Merciful, Most Forgiving. No matter what sins you have committed, Insha’Allah, you will be forgiven. Allah SWT is Al-Ghafoor, He is forgiving. so what do you have to lose? All you have to do is ask Allah SWT, so turn and repent and do your best to not to commit the same sins.

Again, everything I write is a reminder for myself first! I can keep going cause I love to write but im just going to say, write, just do your best this ramadan to IMPROVE! When you want a better job or a position in a company, what do you do? You IMPROVE yourself to be elevated to that position, so they take notice of your IMPROVEMENTS. You and I are capable of all this but are you/we willing to go that extra mile to IMPROVE, as you/we are willing to improve our lives to get a better position in life? Well that better position in life, with Allah SWT can start today and you are that change and you have it in you, to do it…..Insha’Allah!

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