Muslims In 2015 – Lets Bring Change, Lets Inspire, Lets Motivate!

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Sisters, in 2015, please do something more than just make up tutorial videos. In 2014, it has been absolutely crazy how many Muslim women just popped up out of no where, showing women how to beautify themselves. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that but you are exposing yourself to men then you say, men should lower their gaze. Hard to do when you are looking beautiful. There are so many Muslim women out there who are looking for inspiration, motivation, leaders and Muslim women, not all but some can come up with is make up tutorials? You aren’t born stupid nor are you born followers. You are born leaders from the BEST, BEST, BEST, BEST, lineage of women who were leaders in their day, Islamic History proves it. Then you say, how come Muslim women aren’t leading conferences? How come Muslim women have to listen to men only? Why are there brother only giving naseeha (advice)? Well, it seems Muslim brothers are taking roles in inspiring, motivating and helping others further themselves as people and as a society, while Muslim women, once again, SOME, are worried about how to make other women look beautiful. Don’t be the ones to complain and say why are there more men leading conferences, brothers making YouTube videos on how to inspire others Muslims and Non-Muslims. It is pretty much your fault.

Brothers also in 2015, need to take a better approach with the videos they are making. Pranking, making people laugh is cool but there is a time for this and there is a time for that. Instead of concentrating more on pranks, why not teach the younger generation something? Most of the young men are falling into the wrong company, getting influenced by hip hop music and some even come from single mother homes who are looking male role models. Alhumdulilah, there are many that are doing it but those who have a fan base and a following, should take advantage of that. Brothers also need stop kissing Muslim women and hugging them, period. Not in selfies that are publicized, not in anything. If she isn’t your wife, don’t put your lips on her. Imagine if another dude kissed your sister? If that was me, I would more than likely hurt you.

As Muslims in 2015, lets take a better approach to things and lets get out there and help change this world. The media is always going to attack Islam for how beautiful it is and pick out the odd pair who have been misguided due to their own ignorance but you, right now, have a chance to do something about the people you surround yourself with. On social media, in schools, your family, whomever it is, you have a chance to inspire someone, to help them become better. Just because you aren’t where you want to be in life, doesn’t mean you can’t help others be where they want to be. While you help them, you will also help yourself insha’Allah.

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Changing The World

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How will you serve the world? What can your talent provide? Each one of us has something others don’t have and the world is in dire need of but we don’t deeply believe in ourselves enough to explore what it is the world needs from us. We may think we are never ready to offer the world what we have but how will we know if we never allow ourselves to stand in front of the world? You need to deeply think, reflect about a talent that you have, no matter what it is and offer it to the world. You may think, you are only one person, how can I change the world? The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) was also one person and look at how he has and is still changing the world? You are not a worthless soul but you are valuable and the effect you have on others is the most valuable currency there is and through that, you will insha’Allah make the world a better place. Believe in yourself

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Your Beliefs Become Your Thoughts

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You always say, I can’t, I won’t be able to, it’s not possible, just look at me, Im dumb, Im stupid, this life isn’t working out for me, they are doing better than me, I’m fat, I can’t lose weight, Im too tired, I didn’t get enough sleep, this world is against me and the excuses go on.

Do you notice that every single excuse made was about defeating yourself and not the world really defeating you? Do you know why you’ve always made these excuses? It’s because of the lack of belief inside of yourself. There is no one else telling you these things. Ask yourself how often you’ve heard people tell you those things to you? If you did, it is not as often as you told yourself. I can guarantee you, 95% of your self-esteem issues are from yourself. From what you’ve thought about yourself and not what others have told you.

If you started telling yourself positive things on a daily basis, instead of telling yourself negative, self defeating things, you would be a much better person. I can almost guarantee you that but you need to guarantee speaking to yourself and thinking of yourself in a much better way. You need to have a better approach in your life about yourself. Of course, you are going to worry about the world around you and how the latest trends are in dire need of boosting your self-esteem but ask yourself, has it ever fixed it? Maybe for a few hours, a day or whenever you’ve decided to wear that item but after that, you’ve gone back into not liking yourself.

Stop putting everything, your beliefs, your heart, into a single item, into a belief that doesn’t uplift you. That reflection in the mirror doesn’t define you because it is only there temporarily, while your soul, how you feel about yourself on a daily basis is something you will live forever with. This does not mean, you need to let yourself go, eat everything and then say, it is in the inside that only matters, when that is not true because what you eat makes you feel a certain way.

Im sure, most of us has had McDonalds at some point in our lives, just to fill ourselves temporarily but what had happened after that? Did we feel good? How did our body react? Didn’t you feel lazy? Why would you put something into your body that doesn’t give you something positive back? Just as you feed your body good food, positive food, you need to feed your mind positive thoughts, in order for you to have positive energy.

Boosting your self-esteem isn’t in nobodies hands nor in anybodies book but it is within yourself. There are books and people out there that can tell you how to achieve it but they are only reminding you how you are limiting yourself and how you can go beyond what you think of yourself. You need to make that effort and not only think positively about yourself but feel that way as well. There isn’t something you can’t do unless you tell yourself and once you’ve begun to tell yourself, you begin to accept it slowly, only to eventually believe it for it to become. But if you tell yourself you can do something and you are adamant, consistently believing you are able to, insha’Allah (if Allah wills) you will be able to.

A better life begins with you believing in yourself. Believing you are beautiful despite your flaws. Believing you are amazing. Believing you are capable. Believing that not everything given to others was by mere luck but by hard work, patience and by the will of Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala. By also believing they can. By believing in themselves when no one else in the world did. You can have that same feeling and same belief but it needs to begin with you working on yourself, accepting yourself and allowing time, patience and consistency to work a way for you.

Insha’Allah, this article has helped you feel better about yourself and has helped enable you to understand that you are limiting yourself and only way to break those limitations is by believing in yourself. Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala created you for a purpose and one of them was not to put yourself down and think of yourself as low as possible but to be optimistic about tomorrow, about yourself, about your goals and insha’Allah, one of them is definitely jannah (heaven).

If you know someone who is dealing with self-esteem issues, share it with them so they can benefit and break themselves free from a feeling that is destroying them and a feeling that will replace and encourage them to be better for themselves.

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Start 2015 Being The Strongest Version Of Yourself

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Solutions: Moving On With Life

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Life isn’t going how you hoped and a lot of things didn’t go your way. You worked extremely hard for that test, exam, projects and many other things. You had hoped to marry that individual after having nothing but good feelings and signs, as you thought, Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala was allowing the marriage to happen but it didn’t go your way. Today, you feel like your life is a mess and you can’t seem to understand what is going on or how it happened.

Insha’Allah (if Allah wills), I will give you some solutions on how to get over it

1. Everything is by the permission of Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala

You might be thinking in your head, how come? Why did this happen to me? What could I have done to prevent this? As long as you did your best to make things right, you should be proud of yourself not and kick yourself over it. Everything is by the will and permission of Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala. Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala does say in the Qur’an:

Not a leaf falls but that He knows it. And no grain is there within the darknesses of the earth and no moist or dry [thing] but that it is [written] in a clear record.” [6:59]

Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala also says:

Indeed, all things We created with predestination.” [54:49]

This does not mean Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala wants something bad for you but in something not going your way is good and a trial itself. Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala tests those whom He loves and He wants you to turn to Him.

The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) said: “The greatest reward comes from the greatest trial. When Allah loves people, He tests, and whoever accepts it gains the pleasure of Allah and whoever complains earns his wrath.” [Tirmidhi]

Take it as a sign that Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala loves you, accept it with gratitude and be humble. You are a chosen in this hardship which you perceive is bad for you but will only increase your ranks in jannah (heaven). Turn to Him and only He will help you out of this situation.

2. What Has Being Sad Done?

You may have been sad for a few days, weeks or months but what has it done for you? Has it helped your situation or made it worse? Did it change the situation you were once in? No, it hasn’t. While accepting the qadr of Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala, you need to start being positive about this outcome. You may say, I can’t, my body won’t let me. Im too sad to get over it. This is too hard. You are only saying that because you’ve allowed yourself to believe that. I know you want to get over it and move on with your life but you need to pick yourself up and start moving your feet. You can’t be negative thinking this has been bad for you. Maybe if you moved on with your life and accepted this, good things starting happening? Just because one door closes, doesn’t mean another door isn’t opening. And just because you may have failed in something, doesn’t mean you won’t succeed in something else. Behind every successful person, there’s a lot of unsuccessful years. Everything will take time but it is time for you to move on with your life.

3. Life Is Going On With Or Without You

Tomorrow is going to come, the date is going to change, the sun is going to go up, then go down and the moon is going to appear. A minute goes by without your permission and then an hour, and then a full day. Do you see, life doesn’t need your permission and the universe doesn’t need your permission to change. In a few weeks, months or next year, you will get older without your permission. Every single day is precious and you are wasting it by sulking in something that you cannot no longer change. What you can do though is change the condition you are in now. You can start moving on with your life and start to plan for better things. You can be optimistic about better things to come. Don’t wait until you are 40 or 60 or even close to death, wishing you moved on with your life, instead of being broken up about something that was out of your control. You have the ability to change your condition, your sadness by looking at things in a positive way and moving on with life, just as each day is moving on without you.

4. Say Alhumdulilah (thanks to Allah)

Say Alhumdulilah (thanks to Allah ) for guiding you away from possible harm in which you thought was a blessing. Your life may have even turned for the worse if that particular thing did happen. Maybe it would have led you away from Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala and instead, it has brought you closer and this is increasing your ranks in jannah every single day you are alive. How beautiful is that you are being rewarded with what Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala has promised in his glorious Quran? The fruits of jannah, the rivers of jannah and the house in jannah, all because you stayed patient and you thanked Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala for it. There is no better reward in this life ever and the reward in the hereafter is much better so aim for that.

Insha’Allah, this has helped you overcome or even helped you feel a bit better about what you have went through in your life. Take advantage of every breathe, take advantage of every single day you are alive. You aren’t going to be able to press rewind on it, so live it like it is your last. Don’t let life bring you down and don’t allow your failures to prevent you from being successful and don’t allow the hardships of this life, take you away from the blessings you have been given.

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You Can Walk Away

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Learn to let go of negative people in your life. If the individual isn’t bringing you up but constantly putting you down, then they shouldn’t be apart of your life. Why be around people or be with someone who doesn’t help you grow but keep you depressed? Why be with someone who constantly takes advantage of you? Do you enjoy being a doormat? It doesn’t take much courage to walk away, it just takes you knowing you deserve better than what you are receiving now.

You may think, there isn’t someone better but the truth is, there is ALWAYS better. Stop thinking you don’t deserve it when you know, you do. Walk away, let go of misery and depression that comes packaged in a person. You weren’t created to be abused and misused but you were created to be loved for the sake ofAllah subhanahu wa ta’ala and grow with those individuals to be successful, to grow in eman (faith) and to insha’Allah, enter jannah.

I’ve learned to let go of those who put me down because they were doing me no good. Everyday, surrounded with people who would suck the energy out of me. Would call me worthless or would call me a bum. I knew, I was neither of those and I knew, they weren’t deserving of me. I’ve learned to go towards what I deserve in life. Everything is the decree of Allah but you have a choice whether you want to endure pain and hardship from people. People you choose to keep in your life. This is something you CAN make better, so don’t settle for the abuse nor settle for hearing cultural backlash. You are allowed to walk away despite what your culture thinks or what your parents think. They aren’t enduring abuse, you are.

Learn to walk away. There is never too late, there is just now. You are the now.

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Accepting Yourself

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We care too much what others think about us, without actually accepting what we think about ourselves. We value other people’s opinions of us, instead of what we think of ourselves. Sometimes, people are right about us but not all the time. If you are always waiting for someone’s opinion of you, to make you feel valuable, to make you feel loved, then you are in for many years of downs, rather than ups. Learn to accept yourself and be confident about who you are becoming. You’ll see things in yourself that you’ve never seen before because you’ve always expected people to see something in you first, then you accepted it.

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