Don’t Be Discouraged

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Feeling discouraged about your blog?

 

Well, stop!

 

If you are a writer on wordpress, tumblr, blogspot and whatever else exists, please don’t stop writing if a lot of people aren’t visiting your page or liking what you have written. It’s not about likes or a lot of visits but it is how many people are reading your stuff and how it is changing their lives and what they have learned. You have the power to change people’s lives through the words you have written on these pages. Your writing will evolve, people will come, read and learn. Don’t be discouraged because it’s not happening as fast as you want it to. Allah, the creator of the heavens and the earth is in control of who actually comes to your page. People come because it is Allah that led them towards you. Just as people come into your life as lessons or blessings, people are coming to your page for the same reasons. Because you are a blessing for their struggles and a lesson for their struggles or whatever it may be.

Everything takes time and if it this is what you love to do, that is writing, keep going and write as often as you can. I suffer from writers block too, quite often actually but that has never stopped me from sitting here or walking around and then hours later i’ll come up with a topic. I’ll sit here, write something and delete it several times before I actually come up with something. A lot of times, I won’t even enjoy what I’ve written because I am my toughest critique but I still publish it either on WordPress or Facebook.

You are of benefit to others whether you know it or not. That 1 visitor that has read a certain topic on your blog has benefited from it, whether you know it or not. It has left an impression on their mind, their struggle, whatever it is they’ve come looking for. Just because they haven’t told you doesn’t mean you haven’t made an impact. Keep striving and keep writing.

You are changing someone’s life one day at a time. One visit at a time. Once again, it’s not about the amount of visits or likes your posts/entries receive but it is about how that post/entry has changed the person that has read it, in a positive way. Not everyone will agree with what you have written but don’t let that be a reason for you to stop or get intimidated by someone’s opinion. This blog is your world, so control it and write freely, passionately and with tons of positive energy. Even if you are writing something that has taken you years to speak about, write it but don’t expose your sins. Leave impressions on people in a positive way. Also, one important tip, use words everyone can understand. Anyone can use “big”, “fancy” words but if the reader does not understand them, then they are missing the essence. It’s not because they are dumber than you but it is because your words, your work, should reach as many people as possible, so use words that are common. Also, tag your work according to what you have written. Tagging is extremely crucial in reaching out to the viewers you actually want to reach out to.

Now, you’ve made your mark in the blogging world, continue with it. You’ve done what others aren’t courageous enough to do, that is to express themselves in a world where expression seems to be caged behind entertainment and being occupied with less resourceful things. Just tie your camel and leave the rest to Allah. Meaning, you’ve made the effort, now leave the rest to the creator of the heavens and the earth.

I hope this helps and encourages anyone that has not made their mark in the blogging world because they are afraid of what others think. Who cares what others think. Take control of your freedom and express yourself. Change someones life. Change your life by expressing what you’ve hidden inside for so long, that is a beautiful talent, a gift, a rizq (sustenance) Allah SWT has given to you.

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Young Women Looking For Love

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Young women, do not jump the gun wanting to marry men whom have just entered your life. This life is a long road and men will enter your lives and leave as fast as water drips from a tap. Grow into yourselves and love yourself before you think you are ready to love others. Relationship pains aren’t easy and the psychological impact will leave you confused and leaving good men hurt because your past is a wreck and you expect these men to fix them for you hoping they’ll make you forget.

Protect yourself as much as possible and only marry men whom you would only allow your daughters to marry. Do not put yourself in shoes that are too heavy to carry so you fall flat on your face. Meaning, if the guy is living a street life, you would more than likely not want your daughter to marry a man of that life, would you? Because your seeds protection is important and how she will be taken care of. No parent wants to worry of their daughter being in harms way because a man has taken a life to live that involves putting the entire family at risk.

Be not a person who just only thinks of the present but a be person who thinks presently in the shoes of others and what they have to deal with and what you may end up dealing with. Not everyone situation is the same but history does indeed repeat itself, it also doesn’t mean people can’t change but be careful with how you want your future to be. Indeed, everything is the decree of Allah SWT but we have been created to also makes choices, so make wise ones not ones you where you would regret years down the line.

Allah SWT has given you women responsibilities, just as he has given men. Read Surah An-Nisa (the women). Protect yourself. Don’t give yourself up so easy. In due time, things will fall into its right place but for now, concentrate on being an overall better person that is loving yourself and what Allah SWT has blessed you with.

Getting The Solutions For Your Problems

This is the first of many videos to come insha’Allah. It took me a while to finally get the video done, so I’ve added a bunch of bloopers which Im sure you’ll enjoy. Give me feedback on my first video attempt and let me know what I could do better. What you enjoyed and what you disliked. Thanks for reading and watching…

Dealing With Issues With Beautiful Patience

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Whenever you are dealing with issues in your life, you never want to just push aside problems in life as if they don’t exist. That is being careless about your situation and those who are involved as well. There should always be as I’ve stated many times in my previous articles a proactive approach in bettering the current situation(s) you are in. Of course, some people have situations in their lives that they unsure of or they ask themselves, what could I have possibly done to be in a situation like this? Did I deserve it? That is one the underlining problems within ourselves that is doubting the decree, qadr of Allah SWT. When we constantly doubt the decree, when we perceive things as negative, whether it has to do with loss of health, loss of a job, death of a family member or friend, we surround ourselves not physically but mentally with these thoughts of negativity. Assuming the end of things but rather, it should be a reminder of the continuous blessings we have in our lives, in this current moment, the blessings we’ve had for all those years and the blessings still yet to come. It’s beautiful when you think of how Allah SWT revealed the story of Prophet Ayyub (Job) Peace Be Upon Him and his life was full of blessings. Had wealth, had kids, he had everything. This was on going for 80 years of his life and then eventually, his health started to decline. He had lost all of his wealth. He had lost his kids but he would say to himself how could I possibly be in a state of sadness, depression when it has only been 7 years of my life but I’ve received blessings of wealth, good health and children for 80 years. Sometimes we don’t concentrate on the blessings we had or have and still to come but instead, we look at the things we are currently losing or lost and just dwell on them when everything else we have or had has been beautiful. It’s beautiful patience, acceptance of life as it comes, while being proactive and being thankful for everything given and still to come.

Life will not always go in a direction you want but life is being in those critical moments being directed to a life that is better for you. We must constantly remind ourselves instead of putting ourselves in the state of mind where everything just seems so out of place. You ever tried working on a puzzle and each piece you’ve picked up in the beginning would simply not go in the right place? But as you kept trying, as you kept progressing, as you were correcting your errors, the pieces started to fall in the right place. Things are never easy in the beginning but it requires patience. It requires belief in Allah SWT and in yourself to overcome these obstacles in your way. We would ALL like life to pan out the way we’ve imagined or planned but it simply does not workout that way. Progress, consistency, accepting the decree and being patient through the issues in your life will make them easier to accept and will insha’Allah allow you to be happy with what is going on. Will help you comprehend that what is happening is better for me, rather than what I thought was better for me. Allah SWT will continue to guide you to better things as long as you remind yourself that Allah SWT has revealed in Surah Al-Baqara: “O you who have believed, seek help through patience and prayer. Indeed, Allah is with the patient.

Be patient and smile. It doesn’t hurt to crack a smile. Work at what you want but know what it is you need is being planned and has been planned before you were born. Allah SWT IS the BEST of planners, so nothing that will come your way is because He wants your destruction. Rather He wants you to come closer to Him and succeed.

Go Easy On Yourself

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At times in our lives we have everything going for us. We have just graduated from school, we have a job, we are about to get married, we have a car and everything just seems so perfect! We have imagined days like this for months or even years, where everything just feels so right. All the years of being patient, all that hard work has finally come to close and a new chapter in our lives has begun. In these moments we are so happy, that we can’t even imagine things going wrong because everything is in the right place and we accept them with open arms. We begin to celebrate and even imagine all the things we will do in years to come with the new found blessings in our lives.

We also seem to forget that Allah SWT says in Surah Al-Baqara V:155: “Be sure we shall test you with something of fear and hunger, some loss in goods, lives and the fruits.” So how come when things are taken away or things don’t seem to go the way we imagined, we become impatient with the test in our lives? We seem to withdraw ourselves from the closest people in our lives and close all the doors that were once open. The things that we imagined that were to be is no longer happening. We crawl into this hole of misery and constantly ponder over these things that have been taken away or have never come to be. We hold onto these moments that have just passed or directly in the past and never let them go.

In these moments of our lives, we seem to find these moments the most precious moments in our lives. They seem to be golden moments or opportunities that have just slipped our hands. We can’t seem to wrap our minds around what has happened. We continue to doubt everything that we worked for and everything we put effort into. Everything we sacrificed and everything our blood and tears were shed for.

The reason why we concentrate on only these things it is because we have made these particular things a crutch in our lives. We have for so long depended on that person or that car or whatever it may have been. We have expected so much from things that we can only work and plan for but only our Creator knows what is to be. As Allah SWT says in the Surah Yasin: “Be! And It Is.” No matter what we do and how we do it, if it is not decreed by Allah SWT, it will never happen. So why is it that we can’t accept these trials and test that continue to happen in our lives? Why do we continue to put ourselves in misery out of things that are out of our control? We can only do our best each day and that is all we can do. We can constantly make duaa (supplication) to better our lives but it is Allah SWT that allows your duaas to be fulfilled at His given time and not ours. I do recall Adam (Peace be Upon Him) made duaa for 300 years before his duaa was accepted and forgiveness was accepted. But the moment our duaas are not answered within our time frame or things don’t go as planned, some of us leave our salah (obligatory prayers), some of us doubt Allah SWT and some of us sadly do consider suicide.

Never get to a point in your life where you except everything to go as planned because even you and I from a logically thinking perspective, nothing will ever go as planned every single time. That person we are seeking to marry, whom we dream about, think about and can’t live without may not end up marrying them. That job we had dreamed about after graduating and getting your masters degree may not be there after you graduate nor that car you expected to buy with that money you were going to make. We can plan every single day our lives, we can even take initiative in those plans but If Allah SWT had not decreed it for you, it won’t happen.

We need to learn to accept the good and the bad as it happens. As the bad happens at first our reaction is, “it is horrible! My life is over! I was not able to marry the person I wanted to or I was not able to get the job I wanted, I had asked Allah SWT every single day and it has not happened, why?” I remember a woman who had made du’aa every single day, hoping and praying that she would have a baby girl after she had already had given birth to a boy. She had hoped Allah SWT would answer her prayers with a baby girl but Allah SWT had planned for her to have another boy. Allah SWT had tried her with that baby boy she had and even then, she pondered as to why Allah SWT had given her boy and not a girl she had made duaa for constantly? Perhaps that son of hers will enter them into Jannah (Heaven) or provide for them when they are old in age or assit them with things they need help with as he gets older or provides them wisdom and experience.  Allah SWT blesses us in so many ways and Allah SWT protects us in so many ways. Just because our duaas have not been answered the way we wanted them to be answered, it does not mean, Allah SWT had intended something bad for us. There is always wisdom behind what Allah SWT creates and there is always going to be wisdom behind everything He does. It is for you and I to accept and understand these things as they transpire over the years.

That person you wanted to marry was not meant to be because there was someone better for you and if you had happened to marry that person, they may have mistreated you or hurt you and Allah SWT always wants to best for you. Now, some may ask, well I’ve been married to this person for so long and if Allah SWT wanted the best for me, why did I marry such a bad person? You may have not done ishtikhara (guidance prayer) or the person you had married is a trial for you itself. There may also be communication issues or things you two may not be doing to please each other for the Sake Of Allah SWT or also you two may not be praying your salah, it is a very broad issue. Allah SWT did make divorce halal for you but this does not mean, when things get tough for the first few times or whatever it is, you file for a divorce. Even that job you had attempted to get numerous times can be applied with the same logic and understanding.

Do not think bad as soon as it happens. Think of all the scenarios that could have been and think of all things that are still going to happen in your favour, in so many forms of blessings that you are yet to see in this life or the next life. We have grown accustomed to thinking negative with everything that doesn’t go our way but we don’t sit and think of all the things that have may have been prevented from what we have wanted. Always do your best to think positive in every situation and always think and know Allah SWT knows best and what is to happen is either maybe a trial for you or a blessing.

Umar Ibn Al-Khattab (May Allah Be Pleased With Him) said: “No amount of guilt can change the past, and no amount of worrying can change the future. Go easy on yourself, for the outcome of all affairs is determined by Allah’s decree. If something is meant to go elsewhere, it will never come your way, but if it is yours by destiny, from it you cannot flee.”

The Decree Of Allah SWT & Being Positive!

All and everything is the qadr (decree) of Allah. No but or if I had done this or done that. The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon) said: “Seek the help of Allah and do not succumb to feebleness. An when an affliction strikes you, say ‘Allah has decreed this, and He does as He wills.’ Do not say, ‘Had I done this or that, this or that would have happened’, because ‘if’ opens the door wide for the work of Ash-Shaytan.” – [Shahih Muslim] Always turn to Allah and continuously ask for whatever it is you want. The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) said: “The closest that a servant is to his Lord is when he is in prostration.” [Shahih Muslim] So ask Allah as when you are closest to Him in sujood. If it goes your way, it was meant to be no matter what. Nothing would have changed it because that is the decree of Allah and if it didn’t go your way, it won’t and nothing won’t change it either because that is the decree of Allah also.

Maybe what you wanted to happen didn’t and saved you from a calamity or hardship. Be thankful for now. Others may want the position you have now and you aren’t thankful and others have less and are thankful. Alhumdulilah (Thanks to Allah) for everything. Be happy!! Always do what is best and is permissible. InshaAllah… Allah knows best.

You Will Be Tested Just As The Prophets Were – Be Patient

Ya Rabb! So many test are coming my way in such little time. My patience being tested with things that are unreasonable and unjust, that many would think, “you for real??? That’s stupid!” But this is all the will of Allah SWT!! The tests are much closer to home and so close that, this is apart of you that will end up leaving one day and there is nothing that will prevent it. May Allah SWT give me the patience and give us the patience who are going through many things in our lives, which aren’t even close to what we are going through. It’s tough holding on, when things around you are falling apart. Then I remember the comfort Khadija (May Allah Be Pleased With Her) would give the Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) and after she passed away, he was down, then Allah SWT revealed the salaah, so he wouldn’t feel so down. Then I remember the story of Prophet Yusuf (Peace Be Upon Him) and how his father stayed patient and had faith in Allah, when his brothers threw him into a well and years had passed, he came back. Then I remember Prophet Ayoob (Peace Be Upon Him) who had wealth, children and everything was taken away but still remained patient even after all that. Allah SWT has revealed so much to us and so many examples that should keep us strong but us as humans, we are weak and eventually will fall into weakness due to attachment of family or whomever it maybe. Allah SWT will continue to test us just as the Prophets were tested.

May Allah SWT keep us strong with all the tests and hardships we are going through.

The Value Of Time

The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) advised to take advantage of 5 things before these five happen. He said: “Take benefit of five before five: Your youth before your old age, your health before your sickness, your wealth before your poverty, your free time before you are preoccupied, and your life before your death.” – Narrated by Ibn Abbas in the Mustadrak of Hakim & Musnad Imam Ahmad. Sahih)

So why have we become accustomed to expecting we will have time for everything later? Why have we become accustomed to sleeping in late, only to say “I’ll do later” but end up wasting away our day doing absolutely nothing at all. Why is that we end up regretting things we should have done when we actually “had” the time to do it?

You will first need to learn to understand the value of time. You will not know how valuable time is until you wasted all those hours doing what you really should have been doing instead of sleeping in. Sleeping in late is great but do it too often and you will become lazy. You will become a person who is unable to do even the most simplest things. You will become a person whose motivation becomes nothing at all.

Learn how valuable time is. Use it to your advantage even if you have nothing planned through out the day. Sleep early and wake up early and you will eventually find yourself more motivated to complete things which were in the back of your mind. You will notice how much energy you have through out the day.

Set for yourself some goals and work on them. You may not be able to accomplish them today but writing them down and continuing to contemplate those goals and working towards them will eventually make you feel better about yourself.

Time is extremely valuable. You may not value it now but as the years go on you will begin to understand what you should have been doing, instead of what you should have been doing less of. 24hrs in a day. What you invest into those 24 hours, you will get in return. You invest your time into doing nothing at all, being lazy and in return you will get nothing. You invest your time into your goals, even working out or doing something little, you will get back your return investment.

I will repeat, you may not understand the value of time now but you will soon come to understand it. Don’t come to understand it when you have fallen into a deep hole and you are miserable, regretting your past. Learn the value of time now. Work on yourself and learn to manage your time. There has never has been such a thing as, “I don’t have time.” Everyone has time but not everyone knows how to manage it or they just don’t want to do it. Learn to manage your time and you will be able to manage and command your life to be in a certain position, Insha’Allah. If you really want to do something, you will have time as you have made time through out this day, even after you are tired to sit here and read this. You do have time and you are able to control it. Anything is possible, as long as you put your mind to it and learn how to efficiently with effort do what you will make the most of in this world and in the hereafter.

And Allah knows best.