Be The Director Of Your Movie, Your life

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One of the biggest mistakes of my life has been realized too late. I do believe, I’ve taken a very long time to realize this. It’s been 28 years where I’ve only wanted people to rejoice in my happiness with me. To jump for joy with me when things went right and when things went wrong, I wanted them to share a shoulder. As we all know, life isn’t this way. People you think are close to you, wont rejoice in your happiness with you and those who you think would give you a shoulder when things went wrong are only bringing you down. That is far too unrealistic in this time, especially these days. It shows how far we are from Al-Islam and the teachings of the Prophet Muhammad (peace & blessings be upon him).

When you get people too involved in your personal life and matters, they feel the need to have a say in everything. They feel they have to direct your life according to their imagination. It is not their beliefs but imagination because they are not living as you. They end up draining life out of you because somethings you do are just not enough. As a matter of a fact, nothing you do will be enough. We all think certain individuals are there to bring us up, encourage us, and help us be grateful with the good things that come forth in our lives. But that doesn’t always happen. They always find a hole where they can hammer their nail of negativity in and kill your happiness, as this is from the whispers of shaytaan, and lack of faith and trust in Allah subhanawata’ala.

This is why, I keep my circle of friends, family, very small. Even then, people who are really close to you, if you notice, are destroying the goodness in your life. When a calamity happens, they worsen the situation by adding their own negativity to it. It’s very important to keep your personal matters and life to only those who you truly trust. Those individuals who emulate the lives of the companions of the Messenger of Allah. They are there for you in the time of need and bring positivity when something good happens for you and help you celebrate it. Not everyone needs to know the goodness that is happening in your life and what trial you are going through today. Keep your circle as small as possible. The smaller it is, the easier it is to toss out the ones that drag your life into a hole. The better your life remains and the happier you are. It will allow you to be the director of your movie, your life, instead of others attempting to direct it for you, only for them to potentially screw it up.

Muslims Inspired – Story #3 – Leave Your Mark On This World

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Asalamwalikhum, I’d like to share an inspiring story to all of you about a man who has changed my life. Who has inspired me and changed my life for the better. Now, we all have these types of people but this man, was strong and committed no matter the circumstances. He is my grandfather.
My grandfather an Egyptian man. He wasn’t your typical aged man, who ends up sitting around after working his life away, he was different. He was active and liked to spend his day from morning to evening, but would take his rest in the middle. He was always committed to keeping ties of kinship, by visiting family members whether in other cities or other countries outside Egypt. Many of us, when our relatives move away to different cities, or even down the street, we hesitate or make execuses to visit them,  or to even pick up the phone and ask how they are doing, unlike my grandfather, he loved to travel and meet relatives. He loved to paint portraits as an hobby and also give them as gifts to relatives. He may have been old but to me, he was strong and always had time for the sake of Allah subhana wata’ala, praying salaah in his old age and reading the Qur’an daily and books to gain knowledge. He wasn’t lazy and he didn’t rely on his wife to do everything for him. Men, whether young or old, rely on either their mother or wives to do things for them but grandfather did not. He would make fresh meals all the time, without the help of others. He was neat, well mannered and loved to stay in shape. He would walk daily for salaah or even in his spare time just to stay healthy. If you ever met him, you wouldn’t know he was a middle aged man by the way he conducted himself and carried himself through out day.
Eventually, time passes and father time as people like to say, catches up to you and things begin to get taken away. In his 70’s he began to lose his hearing but that still didn’t make him stop from doing what he did all those years. People think, the elderly like to depend on others but not my grandfather, he was still independent after things starting being taken away by the permission of Allah subhana wata’ala. In his 80’s, his wife passed away. My grandmother(May Allah have mercy on her), was the kindest, nicest person you would ever meet. Of course that’s another story to tell, but unlimited words describe how amazing she was.
Few years later he was diagnosed with alzheimers and began forgetting things. In Ramadan, he wouldn’t know when suhoor started and when iftar started, and sometimes the praying times too, and so he had to be reminded by his children. Even then, he stayed strong holding onto the rope of Allah subhana wata’ala. He wouldn’t use a chair to pray salaah as many elderly do but he would insist on praying standing as if he was still young. As time went by, his alzheimers got worse and he was forgetting everyone around him, but Subhan Allah, the strangest thing he did not forget was the Qur’an and the duaa’s which he learned. My grandfather would pass away a few years later at 92 years old , May Allah have mercy on him.
What I learned from him?
My grandfather has taught me a lot of things through out his life. He would pretend as if, he was still young and still did things like any ordinary person.He did not rely on his wife or children to do everything for him. He exercised, he cleaned, he cooked, read Qur’an daily and would pray his salaah. My grandfather (May Allah have mercy on him) would spend a lot of time learning and educating himself about this world and about Islam. In other words, he would spend his time wisely.He didn’t waste opportunities that were given to him, nor did he use his age as an excuse to not do things as if he knew the blessings Allah has given him and so he didn’t want to waste them and that time is precious.
How will you leave your mark on this world?
My grandfather has left a permanent impression of my life for the better.
We all have a limited time on this earth and my grandfather taught me, no matter your age, you use the opportunities given to you in the present moment and you don’t use your age or health as an excuse to give up in life. Try to do the positive things and be a successful person in your job/position or in what you do,and always fear Allah and don’t use your power or authority in a negative or illegal way to gain money or other things in life. Like my grandfather used to say, feed your children with Halal (permissible), so that Allah will bless you more. You work in this dunya (world) and you build for your akhira (hereafter) by being a slave of Allah subhana wat’ala, reading Qur’an, keeping ties of kinship, looking after yourself as your body has a right over you. Having hobbies and never limiting yourself because of your age or because things start being taken away by the permission of Allah subhana wata’ala. We are all different, and Allah has blessed us with things diferent than others. Just take a good look and you will know them.You work with what you have and you make the most of it because many others don’t have what you have today. So just enjoy your life and and always have faith in Allah (SWT), and be optimistic because you never know what the future will bring.
Allah (SWT) says:
{But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not.}    [2:216  AL-BAQARAH]
It is not your disabilities that matter nor your skin colour or race but it is the person you want to become and how you want to leave your mark in this world.
Allah (SWT) says:
{Indeed, it is We who bring the dead to life and record what they have put forth and what they left behind, and all things We have enumerated in a clear register. }     [36:12  Yasin]
And finally, don’t forget to spend time with your relatives or your loved ones while they are still around and learn from them the positive things and do it like them and take thawab.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
” After the death of a person, his actions stop, except three things that he leaves behind: First, continuous charity, Second, a knowledge from which some benefit may be obtained, Third, a virtuous son who make dua (pray, supplicate) on his behalf.” Related by Muslim.
Thank you for reading and letting me share it with you. Insha’Allah, it has inspired you to spend your time wisely.
Please don’t forget to make duaa for my grandparents (May Allah have mercy on them)”
Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihii raji’un ( Indeed we belong to Allah, and indeed to Him we will return)
– L.K

Just A Random Thought

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Our parents want us to be a reflection of them, proud, eager, almost like trophies held up in the air, pounding their chest but at the same time, many parents want us to reflect their dreams and their goals which they did not accomplish due to the way they lived their life. It is in this dream, their goals, they also want us to reflect that and in that we lose ourselves. We lose the value of our gifts, we lose our skills and abilities, while they push us to pursue theirs subconsciously. Parents of course want us to succeed but what is it we are actually succeeding in? Are we just succeeding in pursuing their goals and dreams, which they weren’t able to attain due to certain circumstances? Doctors, lawyers, dentists or whatever it may be that seems to be tied to the word “success”? What is success if that is just tied to certain careers based on other people’s perception? If the perception is all that mattered, attaining this title just to reflect or embody their goals which they dreamed of finally came true through their children, what is success to you? Has success been tied to their dreams and their goals? What about you? How do you feel about success? What is success to you? What is that you love to do or is what you love to do based on what your parents want you to do? Have you ever learned to think of what makes you happy in a career that no matter the money involved or the life involved, it will matter to you in the end? It will put a smile on your face or what your parents have influenced you into doing is really what you want to do? Have you been able to find your potential or have your skills, your God given talents and abilities lost in this transition which have been influenced through a perception of success based on their goals and dreams? Ask yourself, are you living out theirs or are you living yours? What is it that you really love to do, sit down and think about it. Ask yourself is money the only thing that matters? It is true we need money to attain a living. To feed and shelter our family or ourselves but money is never tied into permanent happiness, so if you live for the dollar, then you are not truly living for yourself and will never find what you are trying to attain because the goals never end. Ask yourself, are you doing what you love to do today or are you doing what has been taught to you, influenced through a career which is perceived as successful?