Not Interested

NotInterested

 

If someone is not interested in you, please don’t continuously approach them using different reasons for them to like you. If they liked you, you wouldn’t have to explain who you are, they would just accept you. Every time you go ahead and make up different reasons or explaining why they should be with you, you look desperate every time.

There is no point investing your time, your heart, your sleepless nights wondering why they don’t want to be with you. You are worth more than explanations, reasons and justifications. If they abuse you, move on. If they broke your heart, move on. Stop leaving yourself open for them to take advantage of you because believe me, they will and you will allow them to because you are vulnerable thinking, they will finally love you, which they wont.

Now, if you want to continue going back to that individual, then that is your choice. You can get all the advice in the world and each person will tell you, “Stop doing that! Move on!” And you will more than likely agree but will continue to pursue that individual, this is desperation and you are not desperate for them. You can say it is difficult, I want to so bad but you keep deciding not to. You have given them too much power over you. You need to get a hold of yourself and find yourself going in the direction YOU WANT, which is BEST FOR YOU!

Protect your heart and find someone who is heavily interested in you, as you are to them. That way, you aren’t wasting your time nor are they wasting their time. Marriage can be established this way insha’Allah and you two can be together as often as you like.

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What Is Love

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Love is about appreciation, patience, care, compromise, sacrifice, understanding, support, positivity, affection, team work.

Love is not about oppression, discouragement, negativity, anger, slavery, physical abuse.

Love is about sweetness in words, actions, a look in the eyes, a kiss, a hug, embracing one another.

Love is not about adultery, cheating, lying or stealing.

So why is it so hard to love one another, when it all so easy? We are all out chasing those who don’t love us but those who love us, don’t get our time and when we lose their time and patience, we hope to have it back. Love whomever you want to love but love them with sincerity and trust. Love them unconditionally. Love them as if tomorrow will never come and make amends to arguments and fights, as those are destructive and making amends heals. Do not delay being affectionate to one another, showing each other “I love you.” Each individual has put in time and effort, hoping to never lose you and understand that time is valuable and could be spent else where. Learn to appreciate them before tomorrow never comes or they want to leave and never want to come back. Show yourself, prove yourself, never be hidden in a glass bottle hoping to escape for air, as that air keeps you tight in your lungs and leaves a tightness in your chest. Be open with who you are and be free from criticism because those who love you will never criticize you for who you are but will rather accept you and help you improve. Love is so vast it is as vast as the ocean deep with beautiful creatures each uniquely created. As beautiful as the coral reef with it’s vivid colours just flowing freely in the waters. Love is so much more than we know but we grow to hate it because our experiences in life make us bitter, as if we tasted the end of it. Love will never end but it ends when you think it’ll end. Everything about love is mental and actions. If you think it, it’ll become it and you can do it, so think positively about love as Allah did put love and mercy between our hearts. Don’t give it away cheaply or freely but give it to those who deserve it because not everyone who comes into our lives are deserving but each individual deserves a chance to prove themselves to you. This also doesn’t mean, each individual deserves your time and if you are not feeling it, then it’s best not to mess with their love which is truly genuine as it will create an experience which will lead to bitter beginnings, as this may not be an ending for them. We all are created to give love and have love but not to be taken advantage of the love given. Be intelligent and never wear your heart on your sleeve. Wearing it on your sleeve is like holding meat in front of a pack of lions and everyone will want a bite of it, while you receive nothing but scars. Love can be taken past mountains and past the stars but the question is, do you want that? How much do you want to prove your love to someone but you never did because you were scared of commitment or scared you’ll never get it back? You can be scared all your life but if you don’t choose to experience life itself, you’ll never know what love and life feels like. And heartbreaks aren’t easy and they never will be, they come with love but those who cherish you, will never intend to break your heart but rather heal it from the form it was left in by those who never appreciated you. Love is not evil and never has been. We have just been in situations that have given a misconception of love and how it should feel. Love should never be defined by those who ruined it and love should always be defined by those who are genuine enough to show it and live it. Each tale of our lives, defines what love should be and what it will be. Love is about better beginnings, never about bitter endings because after the bitterness wears off, we always look for something sweet to repair it. Love with every part of you and never give half of yourself but give yourself fully. Commit, appreciate, show what you mean and be who you are. Love is going to be tears and love is going to be sleepless nights but a love that is meaningful wipes aways those tears and helps you sleep at night. Love can be explained in many different ways but to me, this is what love is and probably more.

Question: “I Don’t Think Love Exists Anymore……

I don’t think love exists on earth anymore. there is more bad than good from love and love IS evil most of time

Your perception of love may have come from your falling out with people whom you thought you were in love with and vice versa. For you to say, love is evil, may also come from the lack of trust you may have for another in order to come to a thought like that. Love should not be defined from bad experiences because that’s all you’ll receive and look for is bad experiences. In order to love, fully, whole heartily, you must not look at every situation as the past situations because they are your past. You must learn and adapt from those experiences, in order for you to become a better overall person and for you to love with the intent of loving for the sake of Allah SWT. Allah SWT has divided mercy into 100 parts and kept 99 for himself and sent one part down to Earth. The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) said: “Allah divided mercy into one-hundred parts and He kept its ninty-nine parts with Him and sent down its one part on the earth, and because of that, its one single part, His creations are Merciful to each other, so that even the mare lifts up its hoofs away from its baby animal, lest it should trample on it.” [Sahih Bukhari] So love comes from the mercy He has given us. Genuine love may be hard to find because some individuals talk about it, rather than be about it. We as Muslims must be honest with our feelings and be truthful about them. As the Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) said: “None of you will believe until you love for your brother what you love for yourself.” [Bukhari & Muslim] If we look at that hadith, it says to us, what you would like to be done to you, do to others as well. So treat others in a manner that would not hurt you or against your morals or beliefs. So do not define now, as you would define 2 years ago or 5 years because people grow in wisdom and eventually mature. As Muhammad Ali said. “The man who views the world at 50 the same as he did at 20 has wasted 30 years of his life.” So continue to grow everyday, be mature, be open minded, continue to learn and move on from your past.