The Strongest Version Of Yourself – On Sale!!

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I Love To Cook III

if any of you have liked my Facebook page, then you would know I post pictures of the things I cooked. Since I haven’t done that in a while on my blog, I’m going to share some stuff here. I’ love cooking because it makes me relax and takes my mind away from things. The amount of concentration and effort I put into this food is a lot, as you can see from the presentation in the pictures. Enjoy and don’t drool on your phones or keyboards

 

Double stuffed apple, banana, cinnamon and honey pancakes.

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Stuffed chicken spinach pasta shells with sweet potatoes and asparagus

 

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Cinnamon Crepe with Nutella, bananas and strawberries

 

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Chicken Pineapple Quesadilla with mangos and mixed vegetables

 

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Avocado Chicken Burgers With Sweet Potatoes & Mixed Vegetables

 

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Stuffed chicken breast, Garlic & Alfredo Sauce Pasta & Home made garlic dip…

 

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Mixed Vegetable White Rice & Marinated Chicken Breast

 

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Eid Innovations (Bidahs)

Since Eid is tomorrow, I want ALL of you to read this through carefully. If any of you are participating in ANY of these things or have to do things which are listed, then complete them and avoid the ones you need to avoid.

Mistakes related to Eid-ul-Fitr

By Asma bint Shameem

In the name of Allah, the Most-Merciful, the All-Compassionate

Mistake#1: Spending the night of Eid in worship.

Some people think that it is prescribed to spend the night of Eid in worship based on a WEAK hadeeth which says, “Whoever stays up on the night of Eid, his heart will not die on the day when hearts die.” This hadeeth is NOT saheeh. (Silsilat al-Ahaadeeth al-Da’eefah wa’l-Mawdoo’ah by Sheikh al-Albaani)

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah said: “The ahaadeeth in which the nights before the two Eids are mentioned are falsely attributed to the Prophet (pbuh).”

So DO NOT single out the night of Eid for Ibaadah, as this is a kind of bidah that is NOT proven from the Prophet (pbuh), unless it is part of you NORMAL nightly routine.

Mistake#2: Celebrating “Chand Raat”

Some people do the exact opposite of the above and spend the night before Eid, singing, dancing , listening to music, with free mixing of men and women, lack of hijaab and Hayaa’. They forget the promise they made to Allaah to stay away from haraam. Do you really want to throw away all your hard work and effort you put in worship during Ramadaan for just a few hours of utterly useless waste of time?

Mistake#3: Fasting on the Day of Eid

It is haraam to fast on the Day of Eid “He [the Prophet (pbuh)] forbade fasting on the day of (Eid) al-Fitr and the day of al-Nahr (Eid al-Adha).” (Bukhaari, Muslim)

Mistake#4: Visiting graves specifically on the day of Eid

Do not make it a point to visit graves on this day only. To do so is bid‘ah as it goes against the teaching of the Prophet (pbuh). It comes under the general meaning of the Prophet’s prohibition on visiting graves on a specific day and making that like a festival. (Ahkaam al-Janaa’iz wa Bidauha by al-Albaani)

However, if one visits the graves throughout the year, there is no harm.

Mistake#5: Women mixing with men in the prayer area and elsewhere

It is haraam for women and men to mix and mingle with each other if they are not mahrams, whether throughout the year or during Eid.

The Prophet (pbuh) said: “Beware of entering upon women.” They said, “O Messenger of Allaah, what do you think about the brother-in-law?” he said: “The brother in law is death.” (Bukhaari, Muslim).

Mistake#6: Women going out wearing perfume and makeup, and without hijaab

This is a problem which is widespread, and many people take this matter lightly, although it is FARD for an adult Muslim woman to wear hijaab and cover herself and her hair. Remember sisters, you will be asked about this on the Day you stand in front of Allaah.

“O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the believing women to draw their cloaks all over their bodies. That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allaah is Ever Oft Forgiving, Most Merciful” [al-Ahzaab:59]..

The Prophet (pbuh) said: “Any woman who puts on perfume and passes by people so that they can smell her fragrance, is an adulteress.” (al-Nasaa’i, al-Tirmidhi-hasan )

Mistake#7: Listening to music and attending Eid parties with haraam things.

It is haraam to listen to music, yet people take this matter very lightly. It is on TV and radio, in cars, homes and marketplaces, and even cell phones. This confirms the words of the Prophet (pbuh), “There will be among my ummah people who will regard adultery, silk, alcohol and musical instruments as permissible.” (Bukhaari)

One should always observe the limits prescribed by Islam. Although it is from the Sunnah to enjoy the celebration of Eid, one should avoid parties that contain free mixing, and flirting, instruments of the devil, or staying up late to the point of missing Salatul Fajr, etc.

Mistake#8: Shaking hands with non-Mahrams

It is haraam to shake hands of non-mahrams, EVEN if it is Eid!

read more: Ruling on shaking hands with the opposite sex Here

Mistake#9: Not praying the Eid prayer.

Some people think it is not a big deal if they don’t pray Salatul Eid. However, it is unanimously agreed that the Eid prayer is prescribed in Islam. So much so that some Ulama say that it is fard ‘ayn (an individual obligation), and that not doing it is a sin. The Prophet (pbuh) commanded even the virgins and women in seclusion, i.e., those who did not ordinarily come out, to attend the Eid prayer place.

Mistake#10: Not saying the Takbeeraat out loud (for men) or at the right time

Saying the takbeeraat out loud is one of the greatest Sunnahs on the day of Eid because Allaah says: “(He wants that you) must complete the same number (of days), and that you must magnify Allaah [i.e. to say Takbeer (Allaahu Akbar: Allaah is the Most Great)] for having guided you so that you may be grateful to Him” [al-Baqarah:185]

The time for takbeer begins when it is proven that the new moon of Shawwaal has been sighted or thirty days of Ramadaan have been completed. And it ends when the Eid prayer begins. (Majmoo’ Fataawa Ibn ‘Uthaymeen)

One of the most common forms of takbeer used by the Prophet (pbuh)was:
Allaahu akbar, Allaahu akbar, Allaahu akbar,
laa ilaaha ill-Allaah,
Allaahu akbar, Allaahu akbar, Allaahu akbar,
wa Lillaahi’l-hamd

(Allaah is Most Great, Allaah is Most Great, Allaah is Most Great,
there is no god except Allaah,
Allaah is Most Great, Allaah is Most Great , Allaah is Most Great,
and all praise be to Allaah).

Men should raise their voices reciting this dhikr in the marketplaces, mosques and homes, but women should not raise their voices.

Mistake#11: Thinking that one is released from the “Prison of Ramadaan”

Once Ramadaan ends, one is not “free” to go back to his old sinful ways, free from the constraints of Ramadan. Rather, we celebrate Eid because Allaah blessed us with the opportunity to worship Him and ask for forgiveness. Also, we celebrate with the hope that we are from the ones that will be freed from Hellfire and rewarded with Jannah.

Mistake#12: Delaying Zakaat al-Fitr

One of the rulings on the day of Eid al-Fitr is that Zakaat al-Fitr is due on this day. The Prophet (pbuh) enjoined that it should be paid before the Eid prayer or one or two days before that. Ibn ‘Umar said: “They used to give it one or two days before (Eid) al-Fitr.” (Bukhaari)

If it is paid AFTER the Eid prayer, it DOES NOT as Zakaat al-Fitr.
“Whoever pays it before the prayer, it is Zakaat al-Fitr, and whoever pays it after the prayer, it is ordinary charity.”

Parents, Wali (Guardians) Please Be Open Minded

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Parents have a responsibility of at least meeting their children’s potential spouse. The refusal could lead to cutting off ties of kinship (which is not permissible in Islam) and the children running away together simply because you aren’t open minded about their wants and needs. Parents think they are always right in the end and what I want for my children is always best. That may be correct but at the same time, you are only looking into your wants and needs which differ from your children’s, as they are created differently.

Many times children are put into difficult situations, where it is my family or my spouse to be? Eventually, the ego within the refusal of the parents, turns into marriage happening secretly, zina (sex) where the woman ends up getting pregnant or the ties of kinship getting broken.

Parents should be open minded about meeting the individual. This is their future, as you’ have done your best to shape theirs. Not everything will go your way and they will not do everything as you have dreamed of. Islam is more than just skin colour, traditions and cultures. It is firstly, eman (faith) and good character. If that individual, spouse to be has that, allow the marriage to happen by putting your ego aside and being open minded. You have done your best to protect your best investment, which is your children but refusals after refusals and giving you an understanding will led to things that will hurt your children and hurt you.

Don’t ever allow it to lead to that point. Please, be open minded. Meet them, so your children feel as if they are important even though you made them feel that way their whole life. They want to create a future which is fitting for them, so allow them that choice as you can’t protect them their whole life. Tie your camel and leave the rest to Allah SWT.

*This article is only a follow up to another article I’ve written*

https://mshabazz33.wordpress.com/2013/04/11/can-i-marry-in-secrecy-think-reflect/

How To Love According To Malik Shabazz

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1. Love will never be equal. You and your spouse cannot love each other equally no matter how much you try. One will always love another more than the other. This does not mean, they love you less but it means, we all love each other different and show it differently. When attempting to love each other equally or always trying to show the same type of affection, we will feel uncomfortable because we are trying to match them for what they are giving. You should never do that. Love from the inside and what you feel is right. There is never a wrong way to love someone but there is not loving at all and this is wrong. You cannot be given love but not return it, as this will create doubt, create separation and create friction. You should love to the BEST of your ability and nothing but that. When looking for equality, especially when seeking love, it does not exist. I will love my spouse to be differently and my spouse to be will love me differently. She will show me love differently, in manners, different actions, different words and I will do the same. Keep the love strong and keep it pure. Never be ashamed to show it. Always express it.

2. Expression and actions are more important than words. When wanting to show someone love, we cannot only talk about it because speech needs to be followed by the action, in order for those actions to be fulfilled. Expression is important as this will progress your relationship in many ways. It will strengthen the love between the two of you and your relationship will grow. If your expression is limited and your words are piling up, this will also cause doubt in the person hearing those words and the person being with you. There is nothing wrong with being expressive. It will not make you less manly and it will not make you weak. Your spouse is of importance to you, not your friends. No matter what they say because of the way you are expressing yourself towards your spouse, you shouldn’t stop. Be expressive in more ways than one and be expressive through your actions as well. Your words are secondary but also important as well but not as important as your actions. The words, thank you, I love you, I appreciate you, kind words that will put your spouse heart at ease when trying to please you will further the relationship and will not make your spouse doubt themselves when doing things for you.

3. Learn to compromise. It is important to compromise with each other when things seem to be turning into arguments over who gets what and who doesn’t. The rights Allah SWT had ordained for the two of you must be respected and not be abused. Sometimes, it is difficult to love each other the way we want to when power is abused and everything the other wants, always gets. It is not correct to want your rights 100% of the time because we are created weak by nature. You are not spouses authority or as if you are a dictator or a boss. It is okay to let things go and it is okay to not always have your way. Learning to compromise will make things easy and make arguments less likely to happen. Arguments are going to happen regardless but it’ll be less likely. A lot of times arguments happen when one person wants something and the other does not give in or agree. This is the moment where you have to sit down, calm each other down and compromise in the situation. One thing though cannot be compromised is Islamic rights and Islamic obligations. Anything else, can be compromised and should be at times. If what you want cannot be agreed upon on that day, perhaps another day or sometime down the line but do not lie just to end the argument. Learn to keep your word. Compromising in a kind manner will not ruffle anyones feathers. You may want your spouse to do something but they do not want to. Maybe your spouse would like to eat something or go some where but they are tired and you pouting or putting up a fit will not make things work. Compromise in this situation, understand each other and agree to a certain day or another time within the week or month, so both of you are happy. This is one of the main ingredients to a healthy and loving relationship.

4. Go on dates, dress nice, look nice and smell nice. Why does it seem the woman is more likely to dress in the latest fashion or dress beautifully but the man seems to dress in what seems to be most comfortable? It is as if the man is not into looking his best and his wife should just accept him as he is, dressed as if he just came from work or from the gym, unclean and doesn’t smell too good. It is important to dress well and smell nice as this sets the tempo for a lot of things within the relationship. If you’ve ever dated or seen people who date, you see those couples are always dressed to impress, they smell nice, haircut is nice and everything looks good but when they are married, the belly sticks out, one of them is over weight and just dressed as if, the clothes were put together with their eyes closed. They stop going on dates and sometimes just sit at home, pretending they don’t exist and it is not important to be attractive for each other. Be attractive for another and go on dates. Do not stop dating, if you’ve dated. Weekly, bi-weekly, monthly or whatever your budget can afford, go some where nice. It doesn’t even have to involve money, just alone time, so it’s a special moment for the two of you. Sometimes, it can be as simple as laying on the couch and being together. Buy the best smelling cologne or perfume and get the input of your spouse as this will be used to attract your spouse and no one else. Also get input on what should be worn as well. Ladies do know a lot about putting clothes together compared to men, so men, get your wife input on what should be worn. You want to be attractive for her and she wants to be attracted to you, no one else. You want to smell nice for her and she wants to smell nice for you.

5. Be considerate and understanding. Your spouse and you have different interests and hobbies. They cannot be around you all the time and you continuously setting time limits on them, while they are some where with people you know and trust is not right at all. This does not mean, you come home late or whenever you want but the spouse needs to understand, interests and hobbies have been there before you two got married. Sometimes separation and having a refreshed mind while you are away from the spouse will make you miss each other. Be considerate in their interests and hobbies, as this may make them relax, while they are having a stressful day. It’s important to be understanding of these things. Your spouse is not your property and does not need to be around you 24/7 working away for you, cleaning for you, cooking for you. They have apart of their life, which they want to enjoy without you as well. It is fine getting away from one another, having your own space, doing your own thing but this does not mean, you go out and cheat on your spouse while taking advantage of the freedom you are given. Your spouse has shown a lot of trust within the relationship and trusts to be with you for the rest of their life, just as the parents do as well. If your spouse decides to want some space, give them that space. Let them blow steam off or whatever is on their mind and let them come back refreshed. After they come back is when you offer your comfort and love, so they know you care about them, despite them having their own space and feeling better.

6. If you have to use a megaphone to speak, then speak and communicate. It is very hurtful to a relationship where a spouse keeps what they have on their mind trapped in a bottle because you’ve chosen to get angry or react as if you’ve heard the worst thing in the world. You and your spouse are probably best friends by now, if not, insha’Allah later on. When your spouse is afraid to speak to you about the problems they are dealing with, you are closing the doors on their behalf and opening the doors for others to come in and listen to their problems, which may lead to them cheating on you. As a spouse who has taken the trust of the parents, it is extremely, extremely, important to be open minded and listen to each other. You may not be a problem solver but you listening to the problems which bother them, will help lessen the burden, relieve stress and make the relationship grow stronger. You may not be someone who is a listener but it is important to listen to what your spouse has to say. Take some time out of your day and ask, “how was your day?” They may talk for 5 minutes and your head might want to explode but just smile. This is extremely important for the men because the women love to talk. When your spouse is having a tough time and you see them struggling to say what is on their mind, as a man, you go over to your spouse, put your arm around her ask her, what is wrong? If she says nothing, be playful with her, as this will cheer her up and eventually, later on in the day, she may want to speak to you about it. If you are soft with your spouse, your spouse will have an easy time communicating with you because the doors are wide open, you welcome conversations and you allow problems to be discussed without lighting up like a fire and burning everything in sight.

7. Spend time with each other, not on your phones, with friends or video games. Spending time with each other is another important aspect of couples having longer lasting relationships. It helps keep communication open and it strengthens the relationship. If you are the type of person who ignores their spouse, while spending the entire day on social networks, playing video games or always out with friends, once again, you are opening the doors for infidelity. Your spouse wants to be loved, cared for, listened to. They want your attention and they want to share their love with you. If you are sharing all your love with your friends, video games and social networks, when are you going to be able to have time for the one you promised to give your life to? It is important and I do use the word important a lot but it is important to spend as much as time as possible with each other. Listening to each other. Speaking to each other. Being playful. Enjoining in activities together. Playing sports with each other. There is nothing wrong with spending time at home but once again, if you are in one corner of the room and she is in the other, this isn’t spending time with each other, this is spending time alone. Go out with each other and spend a day together. Shower each other with your love. Be romantic, say sweet things to each other, even if it may sound corny. Also pray salah together, read the Quran and listen to each others recitation. Increase your knowledge about Islam. Your time is valuable and what is a better way to spend your time on someone you value, such as your spouse and grow this love together, which insha’Allah, lasts forever.

8. Finally, number 8 will be the final one for the first part in this series on “How To Love.” Be with your spouse as if tomorrow is not promised. Learn to forgive each other and always reconcile over petty arguments which do nothing but tare your relationship apart. Forgiving is important and if you cannot forgive each other and over look each others short comings, what are you counting in the relationship? All the times they messed up or all the times they’ve appreciated you, loved you and cared for you? We are human and we are going to make mistakes. We are going to be late at times. We are going to forget what we said and we are going to do many things that may upset one another but learn to over look things within the marriage. If you cannot forgive your spouse, you will carry this relationship, this marriage as if, it is the heaviest thing in the world and you will constantly remind yourself of what they have done. This is not a way to have a relationship and it is definitely not a way to love each other. Love each other with a clean and big heart because we all have one. Being able to reconcile after serious arguments or serious mistakes may make the relationship stronger and allow your spouse to appreciate you more. This does not mean, you continuously look to take advantage of your spouses kindness, forgiving ways and do things which will destroy the relationship and destroy their trust. If there is no trust, there is probably no relationship and it is very hard to earn back. It may take years. Do your best to value each other and forgive one another, if you would like this relationship to workout. Most importantly, love each other always for the sake of Allah SWT.

There is plenty more but I thought I’d write this down before my mind floats away into another part of space. Until part 2, insha’Allah. Hope you enjoyed what is written here and it helps you with your marriage or when you are married. If you enjoyed it, share it with others, so they can benefit. If you have any questions, feel free to ask. You can email me at mshabazz33@gmail.com

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I Love Pancakes & Crepes

Im the type of person who never skips breakfast because breakfast is the best start to your day. Your body needs that kick of energy. Sleeping 6-8-10 hours without food and then going on with your day with no food for several more hours is killer. I don’t know about you all but I LOVE to eat. I just love to be in the kitchen trying different things. I especially for breakfast love pancakes, eggs either boiled, scrambled or an omelet and oatmeal. Fruits could be either an apple or banana. Since I do LOVE pancakes/crepes these are some of things I’ve created so far… Just don’t drool on your keyboard or your phone.

#1 Simple chocolate chip & banana pancakes

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#2. Banana & Apple Crepe with Nutella & Honey. Scrambled eggs and more apples

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#3. Chocolate Pancakes with bananas & nutella

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#4 Tropical Pancake – Coconut stuffed pancakes with pomegranate, coconut & bananas

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What are your favourite things to eat for breakfast? If you don’t eat breakfast, why do you skip it? You do know ramadan is over. You are ALLOWED to eat. I feel sorry for your stomach. Im always hungry, even now….

 

 

Eid Ul Adha Mubarak & I Love To Eat II

 

I know it is kind of late, probably really late for some but eh, Eid Ul Adha Mubarak to everyone! Whether you celebrated on Tuesday or you celebrated today. On top is a picture of a poser, which is me and lamb which was sacrificed for the sake of Allah SWT and delivered. Insha’Allah, one day, Im able to slaughter a lamb or goat myself. Each and every one of you is invited to my crib to eat this lamb. Come to Toronto and it is for you. Taqabbal Allah Minna wa Minkum! (May Allah accept it from you and us)

Also, one of the things I also enjoy doing is cooking! Im not a master chef or anything, even though it was something that I always wanted to do when i was younger, become a chef. Over the past year or so, I’ve taught myself how to cook. You never know where you’ll end up or who you’ll end up with and you may even end up eating fast food everyday. That’s a heart stopper right there. I do my best to at least eat and cook as healthy as possible. Don’t really have a sweet tooth. Long essay short, here are some of the things I’ve done with salmon. One of my favourite fishes, especially if it is sitting on my plate ready to eat… delicious!!! Actually, anything that is cooked, ready and sitting on my plate I’ll eat.

Dish #1

Marinated my salmon with garlic, lemon and a whole bunch of herbs with melted cheese. Steamed broccoli with mushroom gravy and sweet mashed potatoes

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Dish #2

Salmon burgers & Chicken Soup

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Dish #3

Baked Salmon with sauted mushrooms, green onions and steamed broccoli with a lemon on the side

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Dish #4

Honey baked salmon with mixed vegetable pasta

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Oh, you thought there was more? Made you drool? You wish you had some? Oh, I know you did… don’t even deny it now. I’ll tell you, it was DELICIOUS! If you have any of favourite salmon recipes, drop them below and I’ll try them insha’Allah.