Men & Educated Women

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Men do not have a problem with educated women but they have a problem when women try to over power them, are arrogant, egotistical due to their education. Just because you’ve decided to get your certificate/diploma/degree/masters doesn’t mean you are superior, it means you’ve committed enough time and dedicated yourself to something you’ve wanted to achieve so congratulations!
Now, on the other hand, you do have some men, culturally influenced men who dislikes a woman that is smarter than him, then this man is someone who is not confident in himself, as intelligent individuals should be comfortable around those who are also intelligent as well. It creates intelligent and stimulating conversations, where two people can learn from one another.

No man or woman should feel superior due to what they have achieved in life, instead they should be supportive of one another and not feel threatened by the opposite sex. Your rizq (sustenance) is going to be provided by Allah and what people often at times forget or don’t know, is that sustenance not only deals with money but it deals many others thing and what you’ll earn in life, intelligence, being smart is one of them.

Don’t feel threatened because a sister has decided to get an education. The first person to found a higher learning system was actually a woman, so remember, if it wasn’t for a woman, many of you wouldn’t have a university/college to go to. This also doesn’t mean women should stick their chest out and be egotistical or arrogant because of what they’ve earned because remember, Allah SWT guided you to earning that, so be humble.

Men, be supportive of women and be accepting of a woman who earns more than you, if she decides to work, that earning is from Allah and not from you, it is also her money according to Islam. If she is smart, alhumdulilah because you honestly don’t want a dumb woman who will raise your children one day.

Men and women need be balanced with what they are learning. Learn about worldly matters and things that will benefit your deen (religion), eman (faith) as well. It will make your dunya (world) and akhira (hereafter) easier to attain.

Just be humble and be accepting of one another achievements in life. It will benefit both of you in the end. Be happy, stay humble and never be arrogant of what you have because it can be taken away.

Set Your Kibr (Pride/Arrogance) Aside

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I could never comprehend why some people think their culture or race is superior to others? Wouldn’t you think if your race or culture was superior compared to everyone else’s, you wouldn’t have to work a single day in your life and you would just lounge all day because you are the “chosen” people? You wouldn’t have to worry about a single thing because you are superior compared to everyone else because you are the “chosen” people? The reality is, you are not superior to anyone, so why are you so full of pride over your skin colour, race or traditions compared to everyone else’s? Do you not see that you live just like everyone else? That you turn for help to the creator like everyone else? That the creator made you nations and tribes so you may recognize one another? Isn’t that what Allah SWT says in the Surah Al-Hujurat? So where do you get this idea that your race, culture or traditions are better? Does a person’s skin colour matter more than their character? Seems so in people’s minds. Someone could have the worst of character but since their skin colour matches theirs or the language is the same, they seem to be better. How illogical is that? Do you not understand that thinking this way, while living in a diverse society makes you look like a fool? How closed minded can people be? They want you to accept them for their skin colour, traditions or race, while at the same time rejecting yours but when you don’t accept theirs, they scream racism and want to seek “justice” against your doing. Hypocritical!

Im fed up with how society treats minorities, when the same minorities are doing what the majority do to others. I thought we got past all the racism? I guess not. People still pride themselves over their skin colour, when x-rays show our bones are white, facts say, we are really the same. So why are you obsessed over your skin colour? Why are you obsessed with your culture? Why are you obsessed with your traditions? These things do make you different but reality is, we are really the same.

Doesn’t Allah say in Surah Al-Hajj

We created you from dust, then from a sperm-drop, then from a clinging clot, and then from a lump of flesh, formed and unformed – that We may show you. And We settle in the wombs whom We will for a specified term, then We bring you out as a child, and then [We develop you] that you may reach your [time of] maturity.

So please tell me, how you are superior to anyone else when you are formed and created the same? Then when you die, you are shrouded and buried the same.

Let go of your pride over your skin colour, culture and traditions. All it does is hurt you and especially your children the most. You are nothing but a soul in a body with an appointed time on this earth. Live it without pride and live with an open mind. It’ll make your life easier.