It All Starts With A Positive Mind

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We all are going to deal with negativity in our lives. Sometimes from our parents, sometimes from our siblings and sometimes from our coworkers but don’t ever, ever, ever, ever, ever let this deter you away from your goals. Negativity is going to come with success and negativity is going to come with those who are blessed with talents others aren’t capable of or they think they aren’t but don’t work hard enough to acquire that skill. One of my favourite boxer says “Hard work – dedication” and that is all there is to life. You have to put in time, put in effort and dedicate yourself to what you love in life. Some days, you’ll wake up and all the negative energy that you are surrounded by will break you down but you have to keep on going. Not because you have a lot of people to prove wrong but because this is your life and you are destined to accomplish these goals. Anything you want to do in life, it requires you to be positive. It requires you to plant a seed in your mind and believe you are capable of it. Not because you are arrogant or full of yourself but because you are confident in your talents, skills, abilities given to you by Allah SWT.

People in this world can assure you of your talents and skills but you must believe in them as well, in order for you to see them for yourself. Time is everything and everything happens at the right time but you must work for everything you desire in this life and the hereafter. Jannah (heaven) is not easy and shaytaan prevents you from that goal and dream and also, whatever your goals are in this life, people are going to prevent that too but you are your own person. The ideas you plant in your head, into your mind, you’ll live out. You see yourself as ugly and believe me, that is all you’ll ever be, is ugly. How you view yourself, how you speak to yourself, is how you’ll carry yourself and carry out your life.

Don’t carry yourself in a negative way nor view yourself in a negative way. Be optimistic about life and be optimistic about your capabilities and what is in store tomorrow. It’ll make living much easier and breathing much easier. Be confident and don’t surround yourself with those who are negative, they’ll do you more harm than good and don’t surround yourself with those complain about life either. Surround yourself with those who are positive as it’ll enable you to be positive and surround yourself with those who appreciate the blessings in life, it’ll help you appreciate yours too.

A positive mindset means everything to a person who wants to succeed and who wants to achieve their goals. This is you, a positive person but you must think of yourself in that manner. You must be confident. You must believe in everything you are capable of. Put your work in with hard work and dedication, make duaa (supplication) and insha’Allah, everything will fall into place. Either Allah SWT will protect you from an evil or bless you in this life or bless you in the hereafter. Whatever it is, it starts with a positive mindset, so be positive. 

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If you are ever finding yourself lost, confused, not encouraged and not inspired to be the best you can, I have written an amazing book that helps motivate and inspires to help you become the best and “The Strongest Version Of Yourself.” I have also used many authentic hadiths and ayahs (verses) from the Qur’an to help show us that Allah SWT has shown us how to deal with whatever we are going through.

Some of the topics covered in the book are:

Accepting Your Blessings
The Past
Dealing With Negative People
A Hard Heart

And many other topics that you may be dealing with on a daily basis and may need answers for. I don’t think you’ll regret reading this book because it can be a life changer for you and help you see life in a very different but very positive perspective and help you overcome many things.

Book Reviews

Review #1

After reading ‘The strongest version of yourself’ I realized that I could be doing much more to reach my full potential. I think it’s a really good book for anyone who is looking for motivation of any kind, particularly those of us who are limiting ourselves. It definitely made me think further about the things I could do to help achieve my goals, and definitely made me appreciate the life that Allah has bestowed upon me. I also appreciate the fact that the author took verses out of the Quran and elaborated on them to suit the chapter and assist in getting the point across.

Derya Keles – Melbourne, Australia

Review #2

I have just finished reading your book. I love this book. I think this is a great inspirational book for anyone needing advice for situations that they have gone through or are currently going through. I don’t have any favorite chapters, as I thought they were all great chapters with great genuine advice. The two chapters that helped me are “The Past” and “A Hard Heart”. I learned to let go of my past and stop reliving the pain and hurt over and over again in my mind. To focus on now and look forward to the future Insha Allah. To not let my past prevent me from having a future. More importantly, I learned to not let my heart become hardened because of the actions of one individual, making me become someone whom I’m not but to continue to possess the attributes that Allah (SWT) has blessed me with. You are a blessing and inspiration to me. You are well on your way to becoming a great writer. May Allah bless you for your efforts and continue to bless you with more success.

Malikah Scott – Evansville, Indiana

Review #3
Woooow!!! just finished reading ur book a while ago. I knew it was going to be good but it turned out to be waaay good. Excellent book, honestly. Especially, as an American Muslim, thinking like us, having knowledge like this MashaAllah. May Allah bless u always. I liked all chapters really, especially using Hadith & using Ayat from Qur’an. Every chapter was different & useful, enjoyed it. It motivated me & how to be optimistic, and wanting to change things in life. And liked ur ending or conclusion.

Lamyaa Kandil – Dubai, United Arab Emirates

Review #4

Since my deen and mental-state have benefitted from your writings, I was very eager to read “the strongest version of yourself” And I must confess that my expectations have been fullfilled…
It’s pretty amazing that Allah (SWT) can change so much in your life through someone you haven’t even seen in real life. I feel like this book has been written for me because the topics touched many of my weaknesses that I have always wanted to change.
Without spoiling anything, all I wanna say is: If you are in a bad state of mind and feel a lack of motivation/inspiration, instead of spending loads of money at the place of a psychologist, first get yourself a hold of “the strongest version of yourself” and see how the buds blosson away. .
I mean after all this book isn’t just some “blah blab blah” by someone who is a stranger to you, but it is written by one of your brothers in Islam who made use of the best of suggestion about how to deal with life that is the Quran…

Fatma Kaganoglu – Wuppertal, Germany

 

Feeling Beautiful In The Hijab

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As you struggle with the temptations and how everyone will perceive you, you will constantly be reminded by the voice in your head or by people, you will not look beautiful in your hijab. If you cover yourself like every other Muslim woman or women who feel they shouldn’t show off their body, you will be viewed as someone who is not confident in themselves. There must be some imperfections in her, that she feels embarrassed to show, which is why she is covering herself. Often women say, “I am not ready to wear the hijab because I am not a good enough Muslim yet. I still want to do things before I commit to the hijab. Hijab is a commitment and I am not ready for that type of commitment. If I am to do things with the hijab on, it’s a big responsibility and I don’t want to be looked at as a bad muslim.”

The shaytaan will always whisper these things to you as you come closer to Allah SWT. He will remind you that your actions in front of others are going to be judged if you do something in public with the hijab on. Or don’t wear the hijab now, first become a better Muslim and then over time, wear the hijab. You don’t know when life will end, so why would you intend on waiting for tomorrow, when tomorrow is not promised?

Remember sisters, your beauty shouldn’t and cannot be defined by anyone other than Allah SWT. Allah SWT looks at believers heart, deeds, actions and not what society perceives you by. Society will always perceive what is not the norm to be abnormal. Never lower your beauty in perspective to what everyone else thinks because what everyone else thinks is always going to be nothing more than an opinion. Society will constantly come with trends to follow or you will be labelled as old school or not keeping up with the times. “It’s the future! Hijab was Prophets time.”

Never allow these things to make you lower your standards or how you will be perceived by others. Others will never be able to define your beauty, unless you allow them to define your beauty. Allah SWT has created everything beautifully and everything perfect. The reflection in the mirror is perfect because Allah SWT has created it that way. Once you allow yourself to believe you were created ugly or created with imperfections in the physical, you will remind yourself of how displeased you are with how you look, with how others will look at you and then either accept you or not accept you.

Don’t worry about that. First learn to accept yourself. If you are able to accept yourself, no one else will tell you whether you are acceptable in the physical form you are now or not. This does not mean, be careless with your health because your body has a right over your too but be confident in how you look. If there is something about yourself that you dislike do not just become depressed but look for ways through Allah SWT to correct it and then find the proper means to correct it. This is why, your body also has a right over you too. The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) once asked a companion: “(Is it true) that you fast all day and stand in prayer all night?” The companion replied that the report was indeed true. The Prophet then said: “Do not do that! Observe the fast sometimes and also leave (it) at other times. Stand up for prayer at night and also sleep at night. Your body has a right over you, your eyes have a right over you and your wife has a right over you.” – Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 7, Hadith 127

Sisters, never despair because Allah SWT has created everything through His wisdom and His knowledge. Be confident and keep your head high. You do look beautiful in your hijab, even if others tell you you are covering your beauty. Remember the beauty of a flower is covered before it is uncovered to the world. When a flower is growing, it comes through the dirt first, grows and then through time it uncovers itself. This is how you must view yourself. Through time and through the right person, meaning your husband who will appreciate your beauty.

If you have any questions, feel free to ask.

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I’ve Come To Realize Something

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You know what? I’ve realized something in this almost 26 years of life of mine that… Im not a type of person to be confined to something. Im not the type of person who likes to be told what to do and just follow what is being told, except of course, what is already established in Islam. Im the type of person who likes to experience life first hand. I like to go out and explore things, whether I succeed or I fail. Whether I come out on top with the best trophies or I come out with nothing. I like to experience life for what is given at that moment. I noticed that, I don’t fear much in my life, except Allah SWT. I like to go out and do things with confidence. With the belief that what I am about to do, I am going to do it to the best of my abilities. I am going to go there and give everything I have. Thinking that I failed is not an option because I believe experience is the best type of “schooling”, learning a person can receive. A lot of people in my opinion would rather just learn through memorization and say, “I am smart!” or “i’ve learned such and such.” Im not that type of person. I’ve noticed through out my life, I am a person who starts something, an idea, a goal and do my best to at least give it a shot or finish it, whether I succeed or not. I make sure I go through everything that has been put there before I say, “hold up! this isn’t for me.” The most I can come out with is experience.  It’s something I can live to tell others about. It’s something I can go back years from now and say, I did such and such. Of course there are things in my life which I am not proud of and may Allah SWT forgive me but it has shaped me into the individual I am today. Am I pleased with who I am today? Alhumdulilah, I can say proudly, I am pleased with who I am today but there is so much more that needs to be worked on. There is so much more that needs to be shaped and formed until the day I am put 6ft deep and meeting Allah SWT.

Nobody can live your life for you. Nobody can tell you how to live, except of course again, what has already been established by Allah SWT already and the Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him). I love to experience life! I love to be put out there and just be who I am. Im a very social person and anybody, literally anybody I come across I will start a conversation with them. I don’t have a massive circle of friends but I’m a very social person. I LOVE EXPERIENCE! Which is why I guess, i got fed up with school and never finished college. This does not mean, I am not an “educated” person. People often at times misuse the word educate as if, the only people who are educated are those given a certificate and spent hundreds and thousands of hours in school, sitting in front of someone telling them what to do and how to learn. You and I know this is incorrect because there are floods of people who are successful without the degrees and diplomas. You know why? It’s because they didn’t fear what they were about to do. They would rather have experienced life, instead of being told they weren’t going to be successful. They never jailed their mind to a person telling them, they will NEVER, rather they already made a pledge, an agreement in their mind, “I will do, might fail and then live to tell it and succeed!” This is how I view myself. In always a positive light. In always a way of experience, rather than “well this person told me this and this person told me that!” No, that is never me! I like to put be put on the spot. I like to feel, touch, taste. Now don’t get any perverted thoughts by those words you sickos! Get your mind out of the gutter!

My philosophy is experience life. Do your best to keep things in a halal manner but this does not mean, go out commit zina, get a woman pregnant or get pregnant and then say “well… this was definitely a bad experience.” No, that was a dumb one because you already knew what Allah SWT had already told you but you went even further. Experience life! There is soooooo much to do but you disable that program you call brain and just fear for your life because you are afraid of failing! You are afraid of being embarrassed. You are afraid of being told, you are weird or crazy or different. Why don’t you do what others do? No one can live for you! They will talk about you even if you didn’t do it and if you did do it, they’ll criticize you for it but who cares! You are living for yourself and living to attain jannah! Never for others.

I live for me and I live to experience life! Not through anyone else. Not through a television set or books but first hand experience with myself in the picture. Never confined but free and able to use my mind as I please. Allah SWT has blessed me in a unique way, just as He has be blessed you in a unique way. Why want to be like others, when everyone else is trying to be like them too? Be unique! Stand out but be smart with your actions. Live for experiences not for what ifs and what is that person going to say. It doesn’t matter! Love who you are because no one except Allah SWT is going to love you as much as you do. That’s the way I see it. I might sound like a narcissist but eh, again, who cares! Im proud to love myself and I always will. I’ll never allow another person to lock me in a box and think like them. I am a FREE person, just as you are! I think outside the box, not in it. Thinking inside the box is thinking just like others. Thinking outside the box, is broadening your horizon. Pushing the limits which you’ve set or what others have set for you. Not being comfortable. Not being afraid to fail. Not being afraid to be criticized by others. Not being afraid to stand up for yourself when you don’t believe in something but others do and follow it blindly.

This who I am and this what I’ve come to realize this after all these years. Maybe I do change but insha’Allah it is for the better! I only and always want to change for the better and never for the worse. The purpose of change is to go for something better, never worse. You come out of poverty to live in middle class and then to luxury if Allah wills. You move up in life. You go from McDonalds that makes you feel like crap to something that makes you feel extremely energetic and happy. Be proud of you!!!!!! Alhumdulilah (Praise be to Allah) I am….

 

Shaping Your Mind Towards Thinking & Being Positive

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When you are willing, dedicated and determined to change something in your life, you will change it. Leading up to that change, you will shape your mind, your body towards that change. Once you’ve shaped it, you’ve hyped yourself up, you are mentally ready, you will begin that process of change. People always say, “Oh, I’ll do it next week or next month.” You know how say it’s in that college commercial, “how about you do it now?” Well, you should do it either way. If you really want to change, you’ll change. You wont wait for something magnificent to come into your life to help you change or something bad to happen in your life for you to change.

Time is short. Use it as wisely as you can. People say, I’ll pray salah when I am ready to pray or women will say, I’ll properly wear hijab when I am ready to wear it. Or a smoker will say, I can’t quit because I am addicted and I need it to help me ease myself. It’s all in the mind, baby! You don’t let your mind control you, you control your mind! You tell your mind, I am the boss, I am the one in charge of how certain things will change in my life. It’s about action! We all know about decree of Allah but how many people will say, my life is supposed to go this way? My life is supposed to be bad? I am supposed to be depressed? When you say all these things, you’ve come to believe all these things.

I am not pretty with the hijab. If I pray my salah, my boss will fire me or they’ll cut my pay. If I don’t smoke today, I will go crazy. You’ve come to believe it, so you become it. Take control of what you can take control of. Each person is responsible for their own actions and how they are also able to shape their mind. Don’t become the negative, become the positive.

Say, I am beautiful with my hijab. If my boss fires me from my job because of me praying salaah, Allah will replace this job with a job that is much better than this job. I don’t need smoking, smoking needs me. Without it, I can live insha’Allah longer and prevent certain diseases or cancers from entering my body. When I kiss my wife, she wont feel like she’s kissing the bottom of my ash tray.

It’s about setting your mind to be positive in situations, where you believe, you can’t live without certain things. You are unable to do certain things. Set your mind in way where the decree of Allah is everything and whatever is to be is always going to be positive. It’s always going to be about action and effort. It’s always going to be if you are determined or not. it’s always going to be about who is in control of who you are. Who is going to determine whether you are unattractive or not? Whether you can succeed or you cannot? Do not let no one else determine whether you can’t do something. They don’t hold your legs or your arms or most important of all, your mind. You hold your mind. You know what enters your mind and what exits your mind. Always do something with determination and with 110% effort! With the positive belief that it is going to be good. Don’t do something with a negative thought in mind. It will make you give half the effort. When you put 110% of your mind into being determined, into the effort that is about to be put forth, you will gain so much out of it and be happy with the outcome. Positivity is everything! If you can get hold of your mind, the whispers, the negative friends, choke them, not literally but be able to steer your life in a positive direction, with the belief of good outcomes even if it didn’t go your way, Insha’Allah, life will be easier to accept and being positive will be as easy as turning on the tap for water. It will constantly will be there.

And Allah SWT knows best

Didn’t Meet Your Expectations This Ramadan?

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Didn’t meet your expectations this Ramadan? Didn’t accomplish what you had in mind? Ramadan is over or almost over? Do you give up or continue to strive? Just because Ramadan is over doesn’t mean you stop striving to fulfill those same expectations do you? Whatever you wanted to achieve this Ramadan, you have all these months to fulfill them and as the next Ramadan approaches, you will have fulfilled those same goals, expectations you had in mind only to get better. You don’t stop learning about Islam because the holiest month has passed or you are rewarded more. Who knows, the more you strive after Ramadan makes you a better person, you come closer to Allah SWT and you may even teach people about Islam which others may have not known about.

Always be positive with how you think in the present, so it’ll prepare you for your future. A lot of people put a stop to a lot of things after Ramadan only to lose all the benefit and work they’ve put forward. It’s like getting a job and within a month of getting the job, you stop working the way you used to work. You stop striving for a better position in the company and you are only miserable being stuck in the same place. Keep on striving even after Ramadan so you don’t have to worry about “I missed this and I missed that.” You didn’t miss nothing. You only think you missed so much, when in reality you missed nothing because you’ve been blessed to live another day. Many people have died this Ramadan. Some people died on the first day, some people died the first week and weren’t able to accomplish anything, while you’ve been blessed to complete the month with learning or being a better person insha’Allah for the sake of Allah SWT.

It’s like climbing a mountain and as soon as you get to the top, you decide to go all the way back down and say, ill wait another year to try and climb it again. No, you’ve almost reached the top, so continue to get to the top no matter how hard it becomes. No matter how cold the weather is up there. No matter what you have to go through, KEEP ON STRIVING! The finish line is when you die. That is it! When you die is when you rest. Right now, during these last few days of Ramadan or even 1 last day left, you keep on striving. You accomplish what you can and continue to accomplish more and more. Do not give up! Do not waste away all your effort because you’d rather do something which is less important. If you were reading the Quran consistently this Ramadan, keep on reading it. Even if you don’t do it everyday or read as much as you were reading, read as much as you can and as often as you can. If you were praying your salah 5 times a day, 3 times a day, 2 times a day, keep on striving. Do not let your salah go. Make that effort to pray in congregation. Make that effort to pray on time as you were. Make that effort to pray before the time for that salah is up. You began wearing the hijab this month, do your best to keep it on and remind yourself how beautiful you look in the hijab and the person you are only pleasing and doing it for is Allah SWT. You must remind yourself you are beautiful in it. If you were giving sadaqa (charity) continue to give charity, do not put an end to what you’ve worked so hard for.  It’s like an athlete whose trained for several weeks or months and when it is time to compete, the athlete just gives up and doesn’t want to compete anymore. You are that athlete and you are competing for the love of Allah SWT. If you were asking for forgiveness everyday, continue to ask. Do not leave what will make you better for what will make you possibly goto the hellfire. You want Jannah (heaven) not jahanum (hell).

So whatever you are able to learn even after Ramadan will be beneficial for you, insha’Allah. Don’t stop walking towards the straight path. Don’t stop walking towards Allah SWT. Don’t stop learning the religion which will enter you in jannah, insha’Allah. Your work is only done when your time is called to meet Allah SWT. As of today, you have today, tomorrow and insha’Allah more days to come. Take advantage of them.

Question: “I Don’t Think Love Exists Anymore……

I don’t think love exists on earth anymore. there is more bad than good from love and love IS evil most of time

Your perception of love may have come from your falling out with people whom you thought you were in love with and vice versa. For you to say, love is evil, may also come from the lack of trust you may have for another in order to come to a thought like that. Love should not be defined from bad experiences because that’s all you’ll receive and look for is bad experiences. In order to love, fully, whole heartily, you must not look at every situation as the past situations because they are your past. You must learn and adapt from those experiences, in order for you to become a better overall person and for you to love with the intent of loving for the sake of Allah SWT. Allah SWT has divided mercy into 100 parts and kept 99 for himself and sent one part down to Earth. The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) said: “Allah divided mercy into one-hundred parts and He kept its ninty-nine parts with Him and sent down its one part on the earth, and because of that, its one single part, His creations are Merciful to each other, so that even the mare lifts up its hoofs away from its baby animal, lest it should trample on it.” [Sahih Bukhari] So love comes from the mercy He has given us. Genuine love may be hard to find because some individuals talk about it, rather than be about it. We as Muslims must be honest with our feelings and be truthful about them. As the Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) said: “None of you will believe until you love for your brother what you love for yourself.” [Bukhari & Muslim] If we look at that hadith, it says to us, what you would like to be done to you, do to others as well. So treat others in a manner that would not hurt you or against your morals or beliefs. So do not define now, as you would define 2 years ago or 5 years because people grow in wisdom and eventually mature. As Muhammad Ali said. “The man who views the world at 50 the same as he did at 20 has wasted 30 years of his life.” So continue to grow everyday, be mature, be open minded, continue to learn and move on from your past.