Young People Wanting To Be In Love



This is the same advice I gave to my younger sister who is no longer “young” and my younger cousins:

If you are 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, there is no need for you to be in a relationship. All that will do to you is break your heart over and over and over again, only for you to grow bitter in age, become insecure and hurt yourself in the process. At the same time, you expect these men after them to fix what has been broken and that is your mind and especially our heart. Not a single individual in this world can fix that for you except Allah and yourself. At such a young age, there is only a need to work on yourself and nobody else. You have so much potential at that age that can be ruined because of a man whose only need at that age is sex.

Grow to be a better person. Grow to love what you want to do. Grow to be a better Muslim. Men will come and go all your life and you know this. Im not telling you anything that you already don’t know. You think, what most people think, “there isn’t another guy out there like him.” You are right, there isn’t because there is someone better than him. At this age, you see other people’s happiness because you can’t find it in yourself, so you want what others have. Understand, you cannot have what others have, you can only have what you have been given and can only appreciate what you have been given and that will only happen when either you realize it or it is taken from you. If you work on yourself now, I can guarantee you, in years time, that right person will come into your life when you least expect it because you’ve worked on yourself all this time.

Read the Qur’an everyday, if not, as often as you can. Pray your salah and make that connection with Allah. If you have Allah there is nothing else you need. In due time, the right person will come, in the mean time, put yourself at the forefront of your own life, take control of it and work on yourself. If you don’t, as you get older, you will become insecure. You will become bitter. You will hurt yourself and hurt other great people who try to be with you. Don’t let this happen to you. Be smart. Be wise and know that you have a long journey in this life. Don’t let a person ruin it because they never appreciated you. Learn to appreciate yourself. Love yourself and be ready for anything in life. The right person will come but you need to be right and happy with yourself. Marriage is there to protect you so only seek marriage and not boyfriend and girlfriend fling as this is temporary and with no guarantees.


Young Women Looking For Love


Young women, do not jump the gun wanting to marry men whom have just entered your life. This life is a long road and men will enter your lives and leave as fast as water drips from a tap. Grow into yourselves and love yourself before you think you are ready to love others. Relationship pains aren’t easy and the psychological impact will leave you confused and leaving good men hurt because your past is a wreck and you expect these men to fix them for you hoping they’ll make you forget.

Protect yourself as much as possible and only marry men whom you would only allow your daughters to marry. Do not put yourself in shoes that are too heavy to carry so you fall flat on your face. Meaning, if the guy is living a street life, you would more than likely not want your daughter to marry a man of that life, would you? Because your seeds protection is important and how she will be taken care of. No parent wants to worry of their daughter being in harms way because a man has taken a life to live that involves putting the entire family at risk.

Be not a person who just only thinks of the present but a be person who thinks presently in the shoes of others and what they have to deal with and what you may end up dealing with. Not everyone situation is the same but history does indeed repeat itself, it also doesn’t mean people can’t change but be careful with how you want your future to be. Indeed, everything is the decree of Allah SWT but we have been created to also makes choices, so make wise ones not ones you where you would regret years down the line.

Allah SWT has given you women responsibilities, just as he has given men. Read Surah An-Nisa (the women). Protect yourself. Don’t give yourself up so easy. In due time, things will fall into its right place but for now, concentrate on being an overall better person that is loving yourself and what Allah SWT has blessed you with.