Why Are You Sad? (Video)

 

 

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Assalamu’alaykum (Peace Be Upon You)

If you are ever finding yourself lost, confused, not encouraged and not inspired to be the best you can, I have written an amazing book that helps motivate and inspires to help you become the best and “The Strongest Version Of Yourself.” I have also used many authentic hadiths and ayahs (verses) from the Qur’an to help show us that Allah SWT has shown us how to deal with whatever we are going through.

Some of the topics covered in the book are:

Accepting Your Blessings
The Past
Dealing With Negative People
A Hard Heart

And many other topics that you may be dealing with on a daily basis and may need answers for. I don’t think you’ll regret reading this book because it can be a life changer for you and help you see life in a very different but very positive perspective and help you overcome many things.

Book Reviews

Review #1

After reading ‘The strongest version of yourself’ I realized that I could be doing much more to reach my full potential. I think it’s a really good book for anyone who is looking for motivation of any kind, particularly those of us who are limiting ourselves. It definitely made me think further about the things I could do to help achieve my goals, and definitely made me appreciate the life that Allah has bestowed upon me. I also appreciate the fact that the author took verses out of the Quran and elaborated on them to suit the chapter and assist in getting the point across.

Derya Keles – Melbourne, Australia

Review #2

I have just finished reading your book. I love this book. I think this is a great inspirational book for anyone needing advice for situations that they have gone through or are currently going through. I don’t have any favorite chapters, as I thought they were all great chapters with great genuine advice. The two chapters that helped me are “The Past” and “A Hard Heart”. I learned to let go of my past and stop reliving the pain and hurt over and over again in my mind. To focus on now and look forward to the future Insha Allah. To not let my past prevent me from having a future. More importantly, I learned to not let my heart become hardened because of the actions of one individual, making me become someone whom I’m not but to continue to possess the attributes that Allah (SWT) has blessed me with. You are a blessing and inspiration to me. You are well on your way to becoming a great writer. May Allah bless you for your efforts and continue to bless you with more success.

Malikah Scott – Evansville, Indiana

Review #3

Woooow!!! just finished reading ur book a while ago. I knew it was going to be good but it turned out to be waaay good. Excellent book, honestly. Especially, as an American Muslim, thinking like us, having knowledge like this MashaAllah. May Allah bless u always. I liked all chapters really, especially using Hadith & using Ayat from Qur’an. Every chapter was different & useful, enjoyed it. It motivated me & how to be optimistic, and wanting to change things in life. And liked ur ending or conclusion.

Lamyaa Kandil – Dubai, United Arab Emirates

Review #4

Since my deen and mental-state have benefitted from your writings, I was very eager to read “the strongest version of yourself” And I must confess that my expectations have been fullfilled…
It’s pretty amazing that Allah (SWT) can change so much in your life through someone you haven’t even seen in real life. I feel like this book has been written for me because the topics touched many of my weaknesses that I have always wanted to change.
Without spoiling anything, all I wanna say is: If you are in a bad state of mind and feel a lack of motivation/inspiration, instead of spending loads of money at the place of a psychologist, first get yourself a hold of “the strongest version of yourself” and see how the buds blosson away. .
I mean after all this book isn’t just some “blah blab blah” by someone who is a stranger to you, but it is written by one of your brothers in Islam who made use of the best of suggestion about how to deal with life that is the Quran…

Fatma Kaganoglu – Wuppertal, Germany

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Life Lessons II

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I’d rather someone show me they love me through their actions, instead of the things they buy for me. I cannot be bought.

If you don’t pray your salah, your life will only become more difficult. In order to ease the pain and for your worries to go away, make your sujoods long, ask Allah SWT, give sadaqa and be patient. Allah is testing you because He loves you, so don’t become impatient with the answers for your duaas.

Teach people to value themselves instead of the value of things. Encourage them and motivate them to see the potential in themselves.

A beautiful face cannot make up for an ugly personality. If your personality is rotten, ugly, then you overall are ugly because it is your personality that will improve, while your face will not.

A lot of friends aren’t important nor are they better for you. Loyalty and truth is what matters in the end. You may have a lot but they only keep you company, never being there when you need. They are not your friends.

Lessons in your life should improve your character, mindset and only allow you to be the strongest version of yourself. If they do not, then you are not learning from the lessons in your life.

You can have everything in your life, you can make people laugh but if you are not happy, then you are a candle that lights others but extinguishes itself.

“Only in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.” [Surah Ar-Ra’d]

Money is not everything nor having the best of everything. If you are happy with yourself and what you have, you’ll be the happiest person ever.

People don’t know your battles, won’t fight battles but are quick to judge your life and your efforts.

Everything is the will of Allah. No matter how bad you want something, no matter how much duaa you make, if it is not your time, it is not your time and Allah will only give it to you, when that time has arrived. This does not mean you stop making duaa but you are persistent with your actions and daily with your good deeds and your salah.

Be as you would like your future spouse to be, don’t expect them to be something you are not.

And lastly, be happy no matter what is going on in your life. Someone has it worse than you but can still wake up and appreciate what they have and smile, you can too.

I am “unattractive”

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There are no “unattractive” people in the world. Each person’s attractions are different and the only thing that can make a person unattractive is having the belief you are unattractive. As long as you hold onto the belief you are “unattractive” the more you’ll come to acceptance of this false belief, which in turn, turns into the truth only to you but nobody else. The thought often stems from a person not liking us, our physical selves but this does not mean you are unattractive, this just means their taste are different than yours. A person may find purple clothes attractive or whatever it may be but you may not and this is due to us being born with personal preferences. Your “unattractive” self may be attractive to others and you don’t even know but since you hold onto that belief, hold yourself with little confidence, it follows you every where. You are more attractive than you think so believe that and accept it. Just because one or few find you “unattractive” doesn’t mean it is a fact, it’s a personal choice based on personal preference. Hold yourself with confidence and others will hold you to that level. Also, no one else can have the power to tell you are unattractive unless you’ve accepted it already. Only thing that may make a person unattractive is their personality and even that is a personal preference.

What Inspires Me To Be Positive?

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To be honest with you I really dislike having a negative state of mind. I always want to push in a direction which is more fitting for the mind, the body and the soul. I’ve also been through things in my life alhumduliah, which has allowed me to be a certain way, to be the person I am.  You know, things happen in your life and you can either stay the way you are, bitter, sad, depressed, worrying about what has gone and was not ever meant to be or you can move on and be with what is meant to be and know that Allah is controller of the affairs. When you become upset about things that aren’t in your control, because in reality, we do have choices in our lives but you also have a choice to progress with what you go through.  Some people don’t do nothing with their experiences, they stay in them believing everything that has happened was to harm them and people are only out to get them. People are not really in that sense. Many come as lessons to teach you about yourself and the character, the person you really are.  Some are there to test your patience, every aspect of it. Some are there to test your eman (faith) and would you be willing to sell yourself to the shaytan and doubt everything Allah has created,  so I never think that way, never negative. Allah has created us as very intelligent individuals and it is sad to see that we don’t see ourselves that way. We always look for others to reassure our skills and abilities. We always look for acceptance. Who is willing to accept me and my ability? My beauty? My car? My job? When all these things have been a gift to you but you have not yet discovered it and I do believe, we as people waste our potential on petty things. When you teach one person, you teach the masses. That person learns from you and teaches someone else, whether they consciously know it or not. It’s like a mother and the children. The mother, the parent, is one and the children are many but so many lessons are being taught from that single form of creation, which Allah has blessed with intelligence and experience. I’ve always wanted to be a writer and it’s has been the best form of expression for me. It has helped me a lot whenever I went through things. What you notice is people look at the results,  the instant results. What can I get instantly? But the long term effects are the results you really need. It’s like having a vegetable garden to feed your family and you want it to grow so quickly as soon as you plant those seeds but through the months or years or whatever it may be, it feeds more than just 1 family cause there are enough in that garden to go around. Those are results that matter. Of course, short term results are satisfying but if you always got them, what would be the point of even working your butt off? What would the point of always trying to challenge yourself? If the results came instantly, we would never see the potential we have. We would never grow or develop a solid experience from the struggles and hardships. I know many people will not agree with everything I’ve written or said whether in this piece or many other pieces. Some people may think I’ve lost my mind and some people will agree but that is the matter of your opinion. I am only here to share ideas, experiences, here to help you to be, as one of the people who inspire me says “the strongest version of yourselves.” This is what inspires me to be positive. Life is short and you’ve always been blessed compared to someone else. Someone below you, so why not be positive? What don’t you have? If you are alive today, reading this, doing many things, then you have no reason to have a negative state of mind no matter what has happened in your life thus far. Im sure the people who are dead, would agree with me because they no longer have a chance to taste, touch, feel, see while you do. Be positive, smile, it fixes the heart and makes it beat a bit slower and slows you down from thinking negatively.

My 4 Keys To Happiness

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4. The Gym

The feeling when you step into the gym and see all those weights, it’s probably one of the most beautiful feelings. You go into a whole different mindset when you step in there. Your mindset is onto your goals and everything that was in your head before you came to the gym is gone. Lifting those dumbbells, pressing that bar, squatting that weight as heavy as you can, feels so good! Pushing your body to the limit. To see what you got. Do you have the will to keep going even after that last rep took everything out of you? Are you going to complain, it’s too heavy? NO! You are going to go there and give EVERYTHING YOU GOT! Your heart is pumping, you are sweating, feeling great and everything just connects and clicks. I don’t think there are many things that can replace this feeling. The gym has you feeling great and looking great. Now, I know I have women that follow my blog and women, read carefully. Lifting weights does not make you big, bulky. Lifting weights and then eating a lot of food makes you big. Those muscular women got to that stage because their intake of calories and macronutrients went way over than what they were usually eating. Lets say for example, she ate 1200 calories a day and she increased that, she would obviously put on size. Lifting weights does not make you big. Eating garbage food, sitting on the couch, lifting the remote to change the channel makes you big. Be active!

3. A Healthy Lifestyle

People in my family like to call me grandpa with the discipline I have over what foods go into my body. Im not a junk food person. Im not a cake person. Im not even a person with a sweet tooth, considering my entire family has one. If I told you, I could eat junk food all day and I’d lose weight, you would say you are lying! but that is the truth, it happens to me. While my siblings will eat something sugary, I’ll be eating fruits. While they eat something high in trans fat, I’ll eat something in good fats, like an avocado, eggs or walnuts. The thing about a healthy lifestyle is, what you put into your body, is what you’ll get out of your body. I remember whenever I ate Popeyes, it taste good but the feeling after in your stomach is not worth it. You also have to understand, your body is an amanah (trust) on to you. Your body has rights over you so why not give it, its proper rights and treat it with goodness. If you want to feel good, eat the right foods and trust me, you’ll feel energetic, happy, positive all day long, insha’Allah! Eat that garbage and you are in for high and then a crash! Don’t take me the wrong way, I love burgers but I want my heart to feel great, so I eat it sometimes. My kids in the future, insha’Allah will hate me lol! Im not writing insha’Allah for them hating me, Im writing insha’Allah for having kids when I am married.

2. Tawakul (Trust) & Qadr (Decree)

Trust in who? Allah SWT! Whatever affairs are happening in your life, know it is from Allah SWT who has decreed this for you and believing in the decree without a doubt in your mind, without a thought of negativity puts all your worries to rest. The moment you start thinking of things going bad or negatively, you start to worry, you start to panic and where do those worries come from? The whispers of shaytaan. He makes you worry about your rizq (sustenance), he makes you worry about things out of your control, as it is says in Surah Al-Baqara: “Satan threatens you with poverty and orders you to immorality while Allah promises you forgiveness from him and bounty. And Allah is all encompassing and knowing” [2:268]

As long as you continue to make an effort in your life, remember that everything is the decree of Allah SWT. The progress you are making, nothing can go wrong . Only thing you’ll have everyday is a smile on your face because you’ve put your trust in the creator of the heavens and the earth.

1. Salah (Prayer)

This is my number 1 key to happiness. Now, I don’t know how anyone can live their life without salah. The moment you hear Allah-Hu Akbar (God Is The Greatest), no it doesn’t mean, someone is coming to kill you, it means Allah Is The Greatest, that is it. You fold your hands and stand attentively in the salah listening to the beautiful recitation of the Quran. I don’t know how many times I’ve stood in salah and my eyes would start watering, my heart would feel the words of the Quran. As soon as the imam recites something I understand, it’s really hard to hold back tears. Salah is vital organ for a believer. I can’t live without it and you shouldn’t either. No matter how much I may struggle at times, salah is something I will ALWAYS turn to in happiness and in sadness.

These are my 4 keys to happiness. Insha’Allah, you benefited from it and you learned something. JazakAllah khair for reading. Have any questions? Feel free to email me: mshabazz33@gmail.com

If You Ask Me …..

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If you ask me how my life is going, I’ll tell you with confidence and a smile that it is going how Allah SWT has intended it for me to go. Things may have not gone in my favour. Things may have fallen apart but through all I’ve been through and going through, I still know the best place for me to find peace and happiness is in my salah. 

If you ask me, how I stay positive through everything that has been going on or is now in the past? I will answer you and say, I live for today. Whatever comes my way is what will happen and is for the best. Whatever doesn’t come my won’t and it is for the best.

I can only smile and progress through life. I think it is pointless to constantly doubt yourself. To doubt your ability. To be unhappy while you have more than others or you have skills that others don’t have. To be unique is a gift and all of us are unique which sets us apart. Life is beautiful, no matter how bad it may seem. You make up for so many other people’s happiness and joys but you don’t see it in yourself. Learn to love what others love about you, so you see the beauty within. 

Allah SWT creates everything beautifully and everything according to His wisdom and His knowledge. All I can do is smile and accept because there is nothing more draining than being sad, depressed, unhappy about things that aren’t totally in your control. 

Life at times can be like chess or checkers. You make your move. You move forward while thinking it is the best decision but there is always someone making you move the other way or changing up your plans. Life is unpredictable just how unpredictable competition can be. No matter how prepared you are, it is going to come at you in so many different ways. 

Being prepared is only half the battle. The other half comes when things happen you never prepared for. That is what will test your mind. That is what will test your body. That is what will test your strength and your faith. 

No matter how bad life is, I believe there is always going to be room for a better tomorrow. There is always room for a smile. Life cannot be as bad as you have perceived. No matter the battles you face on the daily. No matter the words that are being said. 

You can overcome any obstacle that is put in your way. Any obstacle that enters your mind. Any obstacle that you fear you cannot conquer, you can. One must believe with sincere faith that Allah SWT will guide them to victory through prayer and patience. 

Life is easy. Just perceive it in a positive light, smile, make progress and be patient. Allah SWT is the best of planners for the affairs in your life. No matter the outcome, it always leads to better things, as long as you perceive these things as better things and not dwell on them in negativity. Even under the dirt, there is beauty. That is where the most precious minerals and diamonds are found. You are it. Just believe with sincere faith that things will get better. Insha’Allah 

 And Allah SWT knows best. 

 

Be The Solution For The Change You Deserve

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We all have choices in our lives when people began to enter our lives. We have a choice to either let them stay or let them go but in some situations, we let them stay because we have those thoughts and feelings, even when they screw up, they will change. The mistake we seem to be making too often, is allowing those same types of people entering our lives all the time. In hopes, they change. In hopes, that our fantasy of a fairytale ending will come true. In hopes, that things will go over smoothly and life will begin to bloom beautifully like a flower.

Nothing changes, except the condition of our hearts and minds. Each time you cry over this person, your heart aches. Your mind begins to create a scenario where you’ll end up lonely. Those sleepless nights only extend for a much longer period of time as you think of the person, who is not thinking of you. We all are able to control somethings in our lives. Some signs are given through ishtikhara (seeking goodness in Allah) and some signs are there as soon as they become apparent but we become blind over this lust, that we call love.

Walking out of a bad situation, when you know your heart aches, your pillow is wet, and your days become more depressing because that person, is the only one you want and it is their attention you crave. While your attention is only noticed when they want to be noticed and then they get angry, when you dish out what they’ve been offering. Do not be the door in their lives. Rather be the exit that leads you to more doors and more signs. That will allow you to be loved the way you feel, you need to be loved and appreciated .

No one deserves to be taken advantage of. No one deserves to be thrown aside, then picked up and dropped again as the other person pleases. You are in control of certain situations. You are in control of who should exit and enter your life. The person who causes misery, hurt and only needs your comfort when their life is boring or dull, does not deserve to be there. You are better than that and you know you deserve better than that. Don’t give your tears away to a person that does not care. Don’t sacrifice your sleep for a person who doesn’t want to be apart of your life. Don’t chase a person who doesn’t respond, you are not beggar. You are a person built with qualities that are golden in the eyes of so many but you only think being gold in front of one, who doesn’t deserve you. You are a person built with unique gifts that would be accepted and loved by so many but the one you spent your unique gifts on, doesn’t appreciate you.

Be the solution for the problems. Don’t cause them to pile up for someone who doesn’t neatly pile them sort them with you. You deserve better. Walk out of that persons life and be the reason and solution for your happiness which you deserve.

Allah SWT will provide for you. Don’t EVER lose hope because one is lost while billions are waiting to be found and touched by you. You are the cause of hope, happiness, excitement in other people’s life. Don’t lose it all because of one person who doesn’t deserve you and never has appreciated you. Chin up, smile and say you can do it. There is nothing like reassuring yourself when life is falling down and you are staying positive.

Insha’Allah, things will pass over just as rain passes over and then there is sunshine. Behind every cloud. After every night, there is sunshine. Don’t ever lose hope. Love who you are.