26 To 27 – Lessons I’ve Learned

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Yesterday, I turned 27. Please don’t write happy birthday. Here are some lessons I learned.

Im too nice and eventually that gets the best of me. Im too forgiving but I learned it’s best to let people go who aren’t a positive force in your life. If they break you down now, they’ll always break you down later.

Your heart and mind will always conflict, so you look to outside sources to reassure what your mind has made up, even then, it is difficult to do what is right, even if it is hurting you.

An ugly personality with a beautiful face, is still ugly. No amount of products or surgery can change that.

Wisdom does not come from age but it comes from experiences.

Extract lessons from your hardships to teach others on how to be the strongest version of themselves. Your ability to teach is undermined by the ability of your mind.

No one in this world is ugly. No matter how many people will tell you that, it is up to you to believe it or not. Be confident in your looks and how you were created.

Your body is an amanah (trust) so treat it with care. The better you take care of it now, the more it’ll benefit you when you are older. Go workout, get in shape and stay determined. A flower does not grow in a day and your body will not change in a day. It takes time and a lot of effort.

Keep your circle of friends small and keep those who are loyal in. Everyone else is just to keep you company.

Hardships are never to break you down but to make you stronger. Tough times don’t last, tough people do.

Pancakes are the best

Learn lessons from those who have been through more than you. You’ll learn from what they did right and you’ll avoid what they did wrong.

We are all selfish in some ways. Lessons are learned through realization not from those who are judging you.

Learn to love yourself first because self love will always exist, while a secondary love is temporary.

Always encourage those around you. Help them overcome their fears. Not because you expect them to return the favour but because Allah’s blessings are greater.

Always smile, joke around and enjoy yourself. There are others in this world who have less than you but appreciate everything more.

Everything is by the will of Allah, so no matter what you decide in life, if it is not meant to be, it wont be but best believe, it’ll be replaced with what is meant to be.

If your hardships aren’t bringing you closer to Allah, then your hardships will always exist. Get closer to the one who created you by putting your head on the floor and see your hardships depart.

Choose your life partner wisely. If they don’t pray salah, if they drink and understand the Qu’ran differently, then they aren’t for you.

Any woman can wear a hijab and any man can grow a beard but it is the actions that count, not the image presented.

And finally, be in service to others but not as a slave. You are a slave to Allah and not a slave to money. Correct your relationship with Allah SWT and you’ll be successful in everything you decide to do.

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Food For Thought II

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I think a lot of times, we let our emotions blind us when things don’t go our way or from things that have fallen apart. What we need to do is open our eyes to all the things we have been blessed with and things that are currently going good in our lives. We also need to think of all the evil we have been protected from and how merciful Allah SWT has been to us, even though we disobey Him constantly. The blessings we currently have in our lives should be more than enough to keep us happy and the blessings to come, should keep us optimistic of what Allah SWT has in store for us.

Look at the bright side of things when things don’t go how you hoped or expected. You live to breathe another day, while others may not. That is by far the biggest blessing each one of us are given every single day of our lives. Every single day is an opportunity for you to overcome something in your life. For you to recreate yourself in so many ways. For you to overcome fears. For you to create a better way that has been presented with the blessing called life. If you constantly keep yourself down and remind yourself of things that have fallen apart and you repeat that memory in your head, you will keep yourself from all that is beautiful currently happening in your life.

People come, people go but you, YOU, yes, YOU, exist and present yourself with a lesson to take on and to smile, while those around you, those loyal to you, those you live with, those who have struggled and battled with you have been there all along.

Life is indeed beautiful but we remain hopeless from things that were never meant for us or things that have broken us down. You remind yourself you are broken when you are not and even if you are, somethings are recreated, rebuilt even stronger than before. You have that opportunity to do so much with your life but it begins with taking the emotions from your eyes and also from your heart that weighs so heavily on your soul. Reminding yourself of the constant blessings in your life and all that you have been protected from.

You see, behind those lips lays a beautiful smile that cheers someone up and behind that skin lays a beautiful soul so many appreciate but we take for granted and never appreciate. Take a moment to remind yourself of what you have in your life currently. Just remind yourself of one thing. Whether it be your children, your parents, your siblings, your chance to live another day. Whatever it may be and appreciate that. These are beautiful blessings that been given to us every single day of our lives and some day, may not be with us anymore. Don’t let your emotions blind you from all that is good in your life.

You may not have what you want because you aren’t either ready for it or it is not good for you, that is Allah SWT protecting you and indeed giving you something better and that knowledge only exists with Him. Be patient. Your just due will come. In the mean time, appreciate what you have and I promise you, you’ll live a better life without all the worrying and all the past you’ve been holding on to. It’s doing you no good and just blinding you from what is currently going on in your life. Breathe, smile, say Alhumdulilah and go have yourself your favourite dessert or something that makes you happy because you deserve it, you earned it. Now, stop worrying. Make duaa, put in effort every single day and let Allah SWT work. Everything will work with perfection if you have complete reliance in Allah SWT. Don’t worry, you’ll be fine…… you will be fine, smile.

You Make Who You Are

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Social media has become a tool of acceptance of others, rather than the acceptance of yourself. If you look how big of a role social media plays, you’ll notice, most people are utilizing it for acceptance. This is a dangerous thing because if you don’t accept yourself first, then you’ll constantly rely on the acceptance of others. No matter what others will tell you. How you look. How you dress. What you eat. What they think of you. All this does not matter at the end of the day if YOU cannot accept what you have, what you are, what you are doing. People’s acceptance of you plays a very minor role in our lives but it has become major for other people due to the lack of confidence and a belief in themselves. Your self-esteem, your self belief, the way you perceive yourself shouldn’t depend on others. Those people will disappear. Those people only care for the physical and what you own. Who you are, character, personality, the battles you face, are more valuable than what is shown. Learn to accept yourself because no one is greater than who you’ve become and how you’ve grown into this person. You must learn to accept yourself and be happy with who you are. Do not perceive yourself as ugly, stupid, ignorant, lazy as you what you believe is who you’ll become and you know you are neither. Push aside the acceptance of others, say Alhumdulilah (thanks to Allah) because all things come from Him and Him alone and love and accept who you are. Do not fall into the praise and acceptance of others because it means little. They don’t make who you are, YOU make who you are.