Dream Killers


How often in our lives do we come across people who are dream killers? You are over joyed, optimistic, positive about the future, explaining the good things you dream of accomplishing then a person or people say, that’s not possible. Your skills are not good enough. You are not cut out for the work. How could you possibly do it? Then negativity sets in and it sails through the currents that are strong enough to drown your dreams. Eventually, you give up! You throw everything away. Sometimes, even throwing away years of work and progress because someone would rather you be average. A C level player, when you know in your heart, in every breath you take, you are one of a kind, last of a dying breed, who just wants to succeed.

Dream killers come from every aspect of our lives. Sometimes, it is ourselves but many times, it is the people you surround yourself with. Can be your parents, your siblings or your “friends.” Who have aimed low all their life and cannot fathom you ever being able to accomplish your dreams. They’ve never seen such hard work nor have they seen someone who is not able to give up. They lack patience and they would rather results now, instead of them coming to fruition. They wish and I do mean, they wish, they had the same work ethic and drive as you. Soon enough, their envy, their hatred, negativity, failures in life, dreams set so low that it could be stepped over, crush yours.

One thing I’ve learned in life and Islam also teaches is to keep things to yourself. If you have a gift, don’t tell others about it. Don’t speak too highly about it. Keep your success and your goals to yourself. The Prophet Muhammad (peace & blessings be upon him) said: “Resort to secrecy for the fulfillment and success of your needs for, verily, everyone who has a blessing is envied.” [Tabaraani]

Not everyone is going to be overjoyed at your success or your dreams. Sadly, some people have two things these days. Sick hearts because they can’t bare the shine of your optimistic drive and positivity. And two, envy, thus leading to your dreams crashing when you don’t know why. The Prophet Muhammad (peace & blessings be upon him) warned us about envy and how it could it destroy someone and even kill someone, he said: “Don’t be envious of one another.”[Muslim] in another hadith a companion was afflicted with envy by another companion due to admiration and the companion fell to the floor. He did not know what happened and brought over the Messenger of Allah. In order to revive the man, he was told to do wudhu (ablution) and with that water, pour it over him.  Amir bin Rabi’ah passed by Sahl bin Hunaif when he was having a bath, and said, “I have never seen such a beautiful skin.” Straight away he (Sahl) fell to the ground. He was brought to the Messenger of Allah and it was said, “Sahl has had a fit.” He said, “Whom do you accuse with regard to him?” They said, “Amir bin Rabi’ah.” He said, “Why would anyone of you kill his brother? If he sees something that he likes, then let him pray for blessing for him.” Then he called for water and told Amir to perform ablution, then he washed his face and his arms up to the elbows, his knees and inside his lower garment, then he told him to pour the water over him (Sahl). [Ibn Majah]

It’s best to keep dreams, success and goals to yourself. Share them with only those whom you trust and are very close to you. Those who have been there for you through thick and thin. Who advise you with sincerity and goodness. Who want you to see you further yourself in life and when it is achieved they celebrate and become overjoyed with you and when failure occurs, they become sad with you and encourage you to keep going. This is what a true friend is and this is what someone who is not a dream killer.


Ibn Al-Qayyim – Don’t Be Sad

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Ibn Al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy upon him) said that the word sadness does not appear in the Qur’an except, in the form of forbidding it or form of negating it and the reason for this because there is no benefit for having sadness in the heart. The most beloved thing to shaytaan is to make the believing slave sad by taking him off track. The Prophet Muhammad (peace & blessings be upon him) sought refuge in Allah from sadness.

Ibn Al-Qayyim (may Allah be have mercy upon him) said, sadness weakens the heart and diminishes determination and wanting to go forward. And there is nothing more beloved to the shaytaan than the sadness of a believer. For this reason, be happy, optimistic and think good about Allah. Have trust in what Allah is able to do and depend on him. You will find happiness and pleasure in all situations. Ibn Al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy upon him) also said, don’t ruin your happiness with worry and don’t ruin your mind with pessimism. Don’t ruin your success with deception and don’t ruin the optimism of others by destroying it. Don’t ruin your day by looking back at yesterday.

If you think about your situation, you’ll find that Allah has given you things without asking, so have trust in Allah that he doesn’t prevent anything you want except there is goodness for you. You could be sleeping and the doors of the heavens are being opened with du’aas (supplications) being made on your behalf, subhana’Allah, perhaps from someone poor whom you’ve helped or someone sad whom you brought joy or someone passing by and you smiled at them or someone in distress and you removed it, so don’t ever underestimate any good deeds.

One of the righteous predecessors said, I make du’aa to Allah for something I want and if He gives it to me, then I am happy once and if he doesn’t, then I am happy ten times because the first was my choice and the second was Allah’s choice. As-Sadee (may Allah have mercy upon him) said, life is short, so don’t shorten it with worries, grief and sadness, so be the owner of a heart that breathes happiness and satisfaction.

Be Not Stationary But Be Progressive



Lately, everyone has been sick due to the change in weather here in Toronto. We’ve had a really odd winter where the first half was pretty warm compared to last year. When I mean pretty warm, I mean really warm. Last year was insane! We had -45 degrees celsius weather. When you stepped outside even for a few minutes, if you had nose hair, it would freeze. This year, it’s been a breeze. You could wear a light jacket and walk around. Then the weather started being funny again these past couple of weeks. Warm, then cold, then very cold, then everyone gets sick. I am still currently stick with a throat infection. But, this isn’t about my sickness and the weather here in Toronto. It’s about something else.

My routine even though I’ve been sick, has been going to the gym and spending at least 2 hours almost every single day. Today, I met an individual who I see almost every time I am there. We talk for a few minutes, spot each other when there is a need and just talk about random things. He approached me as he entered the weight area and I seen that he had a very long face. It was really unusual for him to approach me without a smile and a “hey what’s up? What you doing today?” I read his face and I thought he was sick. I asked him and he replied, “I have cerebral palsy.” It really caught me off guard. He’s a really healthy looking person and even younger than me. He’s in his early 20’s so it did catch me by surprise how it ended happening to him. He said “the entire right side of my face is paralyzed, I can’t move it. I can’t even feel it.” I did feel bad for him but there isn’t much I could do.

I went closer to him and I told him, don’t worry about it. This is nothing. Look at you, every single one of your limbs work. You are able to come to the gym still and do what you love doing. To relieve stress, to relieve tension and to let go of this world and be in your own. Don’t let it hold you back. Keep doing what you love. Others have it worse than you, who have no limbs and still make use of themselves and still see the positive in it.

It was in that moment, he looked at me and said, “you’re right.” I seen the look of encouragement on his face. The look of disappointment was fading and I seen the confidence he once had, rise up again, as he loaded the bar for his squat routine.

What had happened to him, also gave me a reality check. There is no “too young” for anything. It could happen to any one of us. Our health is important but once we start getting sick or getting an illness, we start to remember how healthy we once were. The Prophet Muhammad (peace & blessings be upon him) said: “Take advantage of five before five. Your health before your sickness. Your youth before your old age. Your wealth before your poverty. Your time before you are preoccupied and your life before your death.” [Al-Hakim]

And even if we are sick, it should not hold us back from anything we want to do with our lives. Sickness is real and it could burden us and prevent us from a lot but it’s how we want it to actually paralyze us. If you think of any sickness and you think how bad you have it and you do nothing, it will actually destroy you. That’s why, in every moment of our lives, we need to take advantage of the things we have before us. Life is going to be an obstacle course. No one said it’s going to be easy. Your life isn’t going to be paved out a smooth road for you because eventually, that road needs to be paved against due cracks and breaks. It shouldn’t prevent us. Obstacles are a part of life and each and every single of us today is dealing with something. Some with money issues. Some with family problems. Some with depression. None of these things make us look down and hold us back.

Life is written in many various and mysterious ways. We don’t know what type of situation or life event will happen before us. No matter the obstacle, no matter the trials that befall us, we shouldn’t fall victim to these things. It’s all but a test for a major reward in life, if we want that reward. If we want to past that test and overcome these trials and tribulations, we must first remember our blessings. When we begin to remember our blessings, we remember less of what is taken away and what is actually before our eyes. Secondly, we continously progress with our lives. Not everything is going to go as planned. You may not get the car you wanted. You may not get into the university or college you dreamed of. This shouldn’t be a reason for you to stop progressing in life. Continue to progress with your life. If you continue to push yourself. If you continue to see yourself in a better position in life, you will be insha’Allah because you have a positive mindset. Persistence is a key to success. No one becomes a millionaire over night. Even lottery winners were persistent in winning  by paying money almost every single day to win the big one.

Whatever is going on in your life. Continue to push yourself in a better direction. You may not see the results now. Next week, in a few weeks, in a few months but you’re creating something with continued progression. You are actually fulfilling your dreams because you want it so bad by pushing towards it. Don’t ever let a sickness, depression, your skin colour, hijab, niqab or whatever it may be hold you back in life. You are the biggest obstacle and only you can overcome it with a positive mindset about tomorrow and what is to come.


Better Than Anything In The World



This particular matter that I am going to write about is an issue that most of the ummah (nation) think only is a speciality of ramadan. Yet, it’s such an important issue of ibadah (worship) that it will tell you if you love Allah and if Allah loves you. It is the matter of qiyam and tahajud (night prayer), also in ramadan called, taraweeh. It is the school of the richest people. Night prayer, qiyam, tahajud, is the tranquility of the believers. Night prayer and qiyam is the solution to your problems when you have a problem.

Many times you see those who claim to love Allah and the Prophet Muhammad (peace & blessings be upon him) and Islam. They’ll put it on their websites. They’ll click like on a Facebook. They’ll probably have a bumper sticker. But this will determine if they truly love Allah because Allah in the Quran says: “Is the one who is obedient to Allah, prostrating himself during the night time, fearing the hereafter and hoping for the mercy of his Lord, is he like those who don’t do that? Disbelievers or whoever doesn’t do that. Is he who knows like he doesn’t know?”

Allah is saying basically, don’t ever compare one who makes tahajud and qiyam with one doesn’t. Night prayer and qiyam is the best prayer after the five daily prayers. Night prayer and qiyam is the honour of the believer. Night prayer and qiyam is brightness on the day of judgement. Night prayer and qiyam is the characteristic of a believer, like Allah says in Surah Furqan:” And those who spent the night hours worshipping their Lord, bowing and prostrating to Allah, and standing.” Night prayer is the golden moments of the night time for those who long to be close to Allah to spend that time in privacy with Allah the AlMighty.

In Musnad Ahmad and Abu Dawud, Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) said that, the Prophet Muhammad (peace & blessings be upon him) said: “May Allah be pleased with a man who gets up at night and prays and then wakes up his wife, but if she refuses to wake up, he sprinkles water in her face.” And look at the other one. He says:” And may Allah bless a woman who gets up at night and prays, and then wakes up her husband, and if he refuses, she sprinkles water in his face.” Amazing hadith, Such a unique hadith, that encourages a family to worship Allah together and encourages each other. A family, a romantic family. She’s not waking him by forcing him nor is he, their consensus is that we both want to wake up. I dare a husband and a wife who does this consistently and faithfully for the sake of Allah and not have the happiest marriage ever! Prove me wrong and I am going to say, wallahi to it! If you are having marital problems, night prayer is your solution, get up, you and your wife. What affect will it on children in the future? Many times, children go astray even if you raise them well. However, one of the most memorable things a child takes with him, even years later and I can tell you this from my experience in dawah, they’ll say, ahh, wallahi you’re right. I used to always see my mother and father get up at the end of the night in prayer. It’s something that sticks to their mind that usually gets them back on the right track if they go astray.

The Prophet Muhammad (peace & blessings be upon him) said: “If a man gets up at night and prays (even two rakat), they will be amongst the zakireen.” [Abu Dawud]

Who are the zakireen? Flip the pages of the Quran to Surah Ahzab and you are going to see. “And those men who remember Allah and those women who remember Allah, Allah has prepared for them forgiveness and a great reward (high ranks in paradise).”

How beautiful is it to spend the night with Allah?

There are those who love to spend the nights flipping through the channels on their T.Vs. There are others who like to spend their nights browsing through the internet, hours and hours go by while they’re doing it. Some with girls and others with alcohol. And some with vain matters that are probably not haram or halal. Then there are those of the few of the few of the very few who truly love Allah and choose to spend their nights with Allah, the AlMighty. And rest assured, let me tell you this, the biggest indicator and hint to see if Allah loves you and if he’s pleased with you, see if you consistently pray the night prayer. If you consistently wake up for the night prayers, know you are in good status with Allah. Let me repeat because this is important. The biggest indicator of how pleased Allah is with you, is if you pray consistently the night prayers. It is only the special people who are allowed by Allah to spend those precious moments during the dark nights with Him.

A man told Ibrahim Ibn Adham, he said, “I cannot get up at night to pray. Why? I want to do qiyam (night prayer).” He said, “you commit the sins during the day, you will never be able to get up at night and pray.” Standing before Allah during the night time is an honour sinners are unworthy of. Sufyan At-Thawri (may Allah have mercy upon him) said, “for five months I couldn’t get up for the night prayer because of a sin I committed.” And if you look at the life of Sufyan At-Thawri, what could he have possibly done? A man, who is amazing in his character, in his ibdah, in his knowledge. A man came to Hasan Al-Basri and he said, “I sleep well, I rest well, I have no illness, I prepare the water by my mattress so I can get up for the prayer of qiyam but I never get up for qiyam.” So Hasan Al-Basri said, “your sins have shackled you. Your sins during the day, restrain you during the night time.” The rule is the sins of the day restrain a muslim from the honour of praying during the night time. Abu Jaffar said, “I went to visit Ahmad Ibn Yahya”, so he said, “I went and I’ve seen Ahmed crying.” Abu Jaffar said, “why are you crying?” Ahmed said, “I missed the night prayer.” He said, “that’s okay, Allah wanted you to rest.” Abu Jaffar said, “the more I tell you him and comfort him, the more he cries.” He said no, “it’s because of the sin I committed.”

Qiyam is responding to the call of Allah. How can you not respond to the call of Allah when Allah calls you? It was collected by Bukrahi, that the The Prophet Muhammad (peace & blessings be upon him) said: “The Lord descends every night to the lowest point of heaven, when the one third of the night remains. Is there anyone who calls upon me? Anyone who calls upon me so I can answer?” Allah is calling you as if He needs you and you’re the one who needs Allah? The hadith continues with Allah saying, “is there anyone who will ask me that I may give him?” People snore away as Allah is asking them if they need anything. The hadith continues with Allah still saying, “who may seek my forgiveness so that I may forgive him.” Qiyam must be an essential part of your life my brothers and sisters. It must be essential.

When Allah was preparing the Prophet Muhammad (peace & blessings be upon him) for the ultimate task ever, the guidance of humanity, what did he prep him with? He prepared him with the task of making tahajud fard (obligatory) upon him. This was fard in the early stages of the Prophet Muhammad (peace & blessings be upon him).

In order to be successful in any job, in any task, in any situation, you need to succeed during the night with your spiritual communication with Allah, that’s why Allah ordered the Prophet Muhammad (peace & blessings be upon him) to do that. You give parts of your life to yourself, to your family, to your work, we all give parts of our life, to school, to social events, we give parts of our life to leisure events, we give parts of our life to rest and comfort. Doesn’t Allah AlMighty deserve to be given a part of our life? And he should be given precedent and priority over everything!

Make the decision now. I say make the decision now. Make the oath now, make the pledge. From now on, I am going to pray qiyam to Allah the AlMighty.

Do it now!

By: Shaykh Ahmad Musa Jibreel

My Anchor

myachorThere are days where the world feels like it is crushing me. I feel extremely exhausted and I just want to give up. Sometimes tears form in my eyes because of all the pressure and burden in my life. I constantly look for ways to relieve this stress in my life. Some people recommend drugs. Some recommend alcohol. Some recommend music. I know none of these things have a resolution for my problems, instead, they’ll just cause more problems. Gaining a form of addiction, a high, an escape that leads to more sadness and becomes unforgiving and relentless. It destroys your life in every possible way, so I avoid every type of haram (forbidden) Allah has commanded. There is salah and it’s something irreplaceable. It relieves this tension and lets everything you feel on your shoulders, pushing you down into sujood (prostration) to your creator. Alhamdulilah, it could never be replaced. It’ll always be number one. Some people will eat their misery away, indulging in their favourite foods. Ice cream, cakes, cookies but me…..
I cloud my thoughts with only one thing. I await the journey everyday, as I lace up my sneakers, thinking of what to do today once I enter the arena. This arena is not for everyone. People come and people go. This for those who have heart. Who are disciplined. Who are able to be consistent and push their limits. They look at themselves in the mirror and constantly want to improve. Some have “new years resolutions” that become unresolved, while others don’t have a resolution and just embed it into their lifestyle. It helps them breathe. Break the chains of the mind. Give them one more chance to improve themselves. It builds character and an unforgettable experience that only those that can bare the patience of it all. There is no end result because it becomes a part of you. Everyday, you enter the arena, you strive to improve. You sculpt and build a masterpiece that only your genetics allow. As I enter this arena, everything in my life becomes forgotten. It becomes an after thought. It is as though, nothing exists anymore. My mind becomes set on what I’m about to engage in. I block everything and everyone out. It’s just myself and this iron. Sometimes you’ll conquer it and sometimes it’ll conquer you. It can be unforgiving at times, making you doubt yourself but you want to prove yourself and prove to it, you’re the boss.
The gym, these weights, this iron, is my anchor. It is my drug. These weights, make me stronger but more so, allow me to escape from the harsh realities of this world. It allows me to free myself of the negative people and the thoughts that could bury me. It allows me to let go of these tears and anger built up from the burdens in my life. The anger is no longer suppressed. I free myself. Just as I free myself from the shaytaan 5 times a day praying salah, I free myself from negativity by lifting my pain away. It is my anchor, my drug. My pain reliever. I turn it to it several times a week, almost everyday. I come out pumped full of blood, goto sleep and wake up in pain. My body hates it but I love it. It’s a love and hate relationship but the love is more. They say, Im wasting my time but I say, I wouldn’t waste my time anywhere else. I love these weights and people don’t understand how much it means to me but I keep going. I’ll never stop building myself. Breaking free in a halal (permissible) way. No drugs. Just weights, sweat, pain and fibres ripping and stretching. This is where I come to escape. This is my anchor.
What’s yours?
(Inspired by: Dwayne Johnson)

Do Not Say If


Whenever you make du’aa (supplication), do not say “if” such and such happens. “if” such and such is given, please let it happen Allah. Do you ever study for a test or exam and think through out the entire test, if you pass? Some may but if you’ve dedicated hours of studying, you go into the test or exam full of confidence, full of positive thoughts. Just as you prepare for that exam and beam of confidence, knowing you’ll do well, when you make du’aa have confidence and be positive that Allah will answer your du’aas with success.

When you do feel like you’ve done well enough at work. You feel like you’ve excelled in your position and you feel you deserve a raise, you don’t doubt you’ll get that raise. You don’t doubt you’ll be compensated for your work but you feel confident enough knowing you’ll get it. You feel confident asking your boss because of your abilities and the skills have proven themselves.

Allah is Al-Alim, All-Knowing , All-Hearing, Al-Bashir and capable of anything in this world. When you make duaa, you are engaging in a conversation with the creator of the heavens and the earth. The one who controls everything in front of you. The one who is able to relieve your hardships and ease the burdens in your life. Don’t ask with “IF” and don’t ask with doubt but ask with confidence, positivity and ask knowing they’ll be answered to benefit your life.

I know it takes long and sometimes, a lot of times you feel like your du’aa isn’t being answered but, you are doing an act of worship and turning to Allah that will change the condition of your life. One du’aa, will change the course of your life. Don’t ever stop asking and the next time you make du’aa, don’t say if. Ask with confidence. Have a clear mind and leave everything to Allah. It’ll happen when it’s meant to happen and know that every time you go and make du’aa, you are doing an act of worship and getting rewarded for it. You either are being turned away from something, which your du’aa has been answered or you are being led towards something and your du’aa has been answered. Allah is the best of planners.

Life In 2015 & Progressing To A Better Life



It’s been a while since I’ve updated my blog. Have I been busy? Yes, I have but that is no excuse to not post content on my blog regularly. People alhamdulilah (thanks to Allah) have benefited from my blog through out these years it has been here. Sometimes, I do want to write but, I have nothing to offer so I don’t want to force myself. Last year, 2015, was a really crazy year. A lot of things happened, things in my life changed, I set goals for myself and accomplished many of them. One of them was my book “The Strongest Version Of Yourself.” It was downloaded alhamdulilah, over 175 times by people around the world. Reviews came in and it was unbelievable how Allah allowed me to write these words to help people change their lives and benefit from them. Did the book exceed my expectations in terms of people reading it? I think it did. I’m just a regular individual. Not a professor, a english major, psychologist, just a regular person who wants to change the world through words. I continuously strive to do that everyday. No matter who it is, whether it is my nephews, cousins, new person at the gym, I want to be able to inspire them, motivate them to change their lives for the better.

2015, was a year where Allah did test me a lot and as of right now, 2016, Allah is still testing me. Imagine being tested for over a year or more, try 3 years, how many of you would have given up? I know many people who would blame Allah for all the problems in their life. They wouldn’t think back to the sins they’ve committed through out the years and perhaps those sins, the ones you thought were minor and you thought to yourself that Allah is forgiving, which He is, and you ended up doing it anyway, then Allah punishes you or tests you, in order to remove your sins, in order for you to turn back to Him. What is beautiful about being tested and turning back to Allah in trials and tribulations, you are doing what every single Prophet of Allah has done. You are being tested, just as Allah tested Musa (peace be upon him) with Pharaoh. Just as the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was tested with the people of Quraysh. It’s hard to fathom sometimes that Allah has chosen you out of all the people within your family or friends to try you with such trials, in order to remove your sins and elevate your status. When we are being tested by Allah, we don’t think of the positive outcome. We always ask ourselves, why me? What have I done to deserve this? Instead, we need to think, Allah is removing the sins I’ve committed and elevating my status as a Muslim.

When Allah does ever test you, don’t think it’s because Allah doesn’t love you. Allah loved the Prophets so much, he tested them with things we could never imagine. Sometimes, tests are not only hardships. Don’t be mistaken because your life is easy, Allah is not testing you. What about Pharaoh? Didn’t Allah give him so much wealth, control and yet, he never turned to the creator of the heavens and the earth? Didn’t he rule over his people and bragged about everything was from him? Then, when he was drowning and he knew death was coming, he turned to Allah in those moments and it was too late. Now, Allah has preserved his body as a sign for the believers and non-believers, to remind us to turn to Allah and that His signs are true. We have people in this world, who ask for so much in the times of hardship, when it is received, they turn away from the one they turned to, then the blessings they’ve received turns a test for them. Don’t be the one who turns to Allah in uneasiness and when it is removed, you turn away but constantly turn to Him and give thanks.

Life is about walking through fire, through obstacles and still coming out on top with your head high and who knows when these tests will ever end but know, in these times, Allah is sculpting a person that is being prepared for a better future. For a better hereafter. Not everything you want in this life will be given but the rewards in the hereafter, are something the eyes have never seen. This doesn’t mean you quit, you give up and stop being able to progress but you keep striving for a better life. One day, it wont be about yourself anymore. You’ll have a family, a wife, husband, kids and you’ll need to provide for them. Not only financially but with your mind. With your character, personality, your knowledge which you have attained by the grace of Allah. Always look to achieve your goals. Write them down and look at them often. See where you are in life and see what you are doing to attain them. It’s not going to be easy and some goals wont be accomplished, not because of your hard work and persistence but because Allah is the best of planners and whatever is good for you will happen, even if you think its good for yourself. Don’t put a negative thought in your mind. Keep going for it. You might be 60 one day and that goal you wanted to accomplish finally does.

Look at the lives of some successful people like Stan Lee, Henry Ford and Chris Gardner. These individuals were well into their 40’s and continued to try everyday to bring their dreams into reality. Your time will eventually come. You just always need to be the hardest worker in the room. Many times, people wont see the hard work you are putting in but every fruit eventually unearths and reveals itself to the world. You will eventually have that opportunity and that only depends on your drive and determination to change yourself. Always be determined and look forward to a promising future ahead. You never know what may come if you give up now. Your goals, dreams and accomplishments are waiting to be completed. Eventually, it’ll take place but for now, work hard, make duaa, pray your salah, wake up for tahajjud and even after you achieve what you set out to do, rinse and repeat to be successful in the hereafter too. Life isn’t only about now but it is also about being prepared to meet Allah.


Before You Get Married Know…..


Some very important advice for those who intend to get married

Know what Islam teaches about marriage extremely well and what is permissible and impermissible in the marriage contract and what you and your spouse can agree to. Some families think that people are ignorant about Islam and they can implement whatever they want in the contract and ask for unrealistic conditions that are obviously from jahiliyaa (pre-islamic) and people will just agree. Some people also put high prices on their daughters for mahr and other things in hopes that one day, there is a divorce and the ex-husband has to pay a lump sum. Some families get their daughters married hoping, a divorce happens one day, so they are entitled to riches due them following something that isn’t even from Islam. It is absolutely sick that parents intend to marry their daughters hoping they get a divorce, so they can leave with money or gold. As if, their daughters are an item and a price tag has to be agreed to either on the mahr or during a divorce period. Whatever you and your spouse agree to in the marriage contract is what you abide by. Your parents can threaten you with a knife, call you disgusting names, hit you but know that Allah is protecting you just as you are protecting your rights in Islam, which He has given. Don’t allow no family, no matter if they are kings, princess, prime ministers, presidents, to walk all over you and ask you to agree to unrealistic and unislamic demands that could never, ever be met. This is why it is so important to know the deen (religion) so when it is time for you to get married, you know what is permissible and what is not. You know your rights and you give each other their rights. And always, always, always, put your spouse first. Fight for them, be with them and don’t allow any man or woman to abuse them, even if it is their own family. Speak up, stand your ground, be firm and be blunt, protect each others honour. Grow to love each other, respect, and spend time with each other in order for you two to adapt to each others likes and dislikes so you can better understand each other. Pay attention to each others needs and don’t expect the marriage to be only about you and then your spouse. Marriage isn’t about yourself but it is about the two of you and Allah has given the husband and wife rights that they must honour. Don’t abuse them, be at peace, make amends, wipe away tears, give hugs, be compassionate, merciful and forgive each other. Don’t hold any grudges either. Most importantly, put Islam first and insha’Allah, you will be successful.

Only Yourself To Blame


You will go through a lot of things in your life that wont go your way. Some days, you’ll feel like giving up. People will talk bad about you, even though its not true. People who you thought were friends, use you but all this is a part of you life and an experience for you to become better. Sometimes, people don’t learn much from these things and end up going through depression, isolating themselves and end up blaming others that they never progressed in life because of them. Truth is, no one held you back except yourself. If you only took the lessons embedded in these hardships, embedded in the betrayals, you’ll come to recognize that they were created in such a way, that it was only supposed to make you stronger, not weaker. You can only place so much blame on another person because of your failures but there comes a time, when you have to look at yourself. Deeply reflect on who actually held you back. You’ll come to end up pointing the finger back at yourself. A lot of things in life are Allah’s decree, there is no doubt about that but sometimes our decisions, our actions in these hardships, situations in life, are a choice we make that pave a way for us to live. You can either give up, sit in a corner, play the blame game or continue moving forward in life. Only you prevent yourself from progressing in life. Allah opens up many doors for us, many opportunities for us to seize and take advantage of but due to our bitterness, due to us not letting go of our past, we never progress and instead, stay in a bitter state. Leave your heart clean. Keep it in a pure state. Let things go, don’t hold grudges and learn from every good and bad experience in your life. Take them as lessons and not as something harmful. It can only harm you if you allow it to. Also, let negative people go and if they are family, keep them at a distance because it is haram (forbidden) to cut off ties of kinship. Make decisions that are best for you. You will experience life differently from everyone in this world and not everything happened to them, will happen to you. Know who to keep around and who to let go. Life can be easy or it can be hard but it depends on you and the decisions you make after hardships, trials and tribulations.

Don’t Wait Till You’re Old To Live Your Dreams


Ahmed Mohammed, a 14 year old from Irving, Texas, who loves inventing things in his free time, was arrested because his teacher thought the clock digital clock he created, was a bomb. How sad is that? As a society, we see our youngsters, joining gangs, selling drugs, dropping out of school, while Ahmed Mohammed is taking control of his life and inventing things to benefit society.

I know how hard it is for young individuals to free themselves from negative influences and peer pressure, to be able to develop the skills to be able to invent things, to only be themselves. If you see a young individual or even an older person, aspiring to be more than just a person who works 9-5, support them, encourage them, help them believe in themselves, just as people today, thousands, have supported Ahmed Mohammed. All a person ever needs a little bit of support to know that people care what they aspire to be. They need words of encouragement, so they can believe themselves further, so they can make it where they want to be in life. Help them accomplish their goals, don’t be a hater. Don’t be someone who can’t watch another person become successful.

If you are a person, who plans to invent something. Who plans to accomplish your goals, go ahead and do it. Don’t wait for time to pass or wait till you are old, fragile, unable to take advantage of your health and free time, to do what you loved. Life is short and tomorrow may never come. You may not live till you are 50 to see the rest of this world, so you love to travel, travel. If you love to paint, paint. If you love to write, write a book, write papers, write paragraphs, even if no one supports you in any of this. Do it because you love to do it and do it because you have been given an inspiration, a talent, a vision from Allah subhana wata’ala to pursue these things. If you are looking for results when you start, they may deter you from living out your life, goals and dreams. Everything will eventually fall into place and know, Allah is the best of planners. It is for you to do, make an effort and it is for Allah to give what is to be given in return.

Each and every single one of us has a talent, a gift, a skill that is able to change the world, change the people around us, so don’t wait for a perfect moment because there are no perfect moments. There is only a moment. That moment is now, your current situation, current place, so take advantage of it and just do it.