Life happens and we don’t always get what we want. Sometimes it’s for things we worked so hard for and some things we’ve been praying for but nonetheless, it doesn’t go our away. We beat ourselves up over it, thinking if I did this or if I did that, It would have been mine or we end up envying the individual who got it over us. We tell ourselves it is not fair and we feel like life it at it’s worse and it can’t get any better.
Take a second, relax, breathe. I know you wanted it so bad but did you ever think that it may not be good for you? That there is something else in the future for you? That this door of opportunity that you thought closed, actually opened another? That your skills, assets, learning experience is in place for a MUCH better position in this life?
Anytime something doesn’t go your way, think ahead in your life, not behind. This allows you to think positively for the future. We may not know what is in store but it allows your body to relax and breathe a little easier knowing that there is always something better. You tried, you did your best but it wasn’t for you. Know that you aren’t a failure and no matter what event has occurred in your life, there is something better. Whether you believe there is a higher power or not.
Islam allows us to think further ahead and not behind us. Islam tells us that the believer to be grateful and tells us to believe that ALL the affairs, events in your lives have been good for us.
The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) said: “Amazing is the affair of the believer, verily all of his affairs are good and this is not for no one except the believer. If something of good or happiness befalls him he is grateful and that is good for him. If something of harm befalls him he is patient and that is good for him” [Shahih Muslim]
Sometimes we do need to see further out, rather than thinking too deep within. It is not the choices we have made but it is Allah subhanawatala telling you, there is something better for you. Life is a beautiful blessing and the beauty gets distorted due to the way we think about “missed” opportunities, closed doors or so called “failures.” Every single door that has closed has opened another but we are too blind, too caught up on the closed door to see the opening of another. Next time you think something has been missed or you failed at something, know this is not the end but there is something greater intended for you on the other side.
And Allah knows best.