It is easy to sit there and say “we are judging one another”,” you are a hater”, “only God can judge them”, “who are you to judge”, while people transgress in sin. Im not a perfect individual, I commit sins all the time, everyone in the world does but this isn’t to say, we shouldn’t stop one another from committing them. Instead, today, what we have are people that defend people who commit sins openly, they cheer them on, encourage them and tell them, people are “haters”. Why would an individual who understands the deen (religion) hate on another person who is committing minor or major sins which are being written down and then being taken in account for on the day of qiyama (judgment) in front of Allah subhana wata’ala?
We are actually not hating on you or being sheikhs, we actually care enough to tell you such and such is a sin and it is better if you leave it. Why would we waste our time, “hating” on something that is going to cause you harm? As Muslims, that doesn’t make sense, does it? Of course, there are real haters out there, who will want to bring you down, want to destroy what you’ve built but if a person is a true Muslim, they wouldn’t want that to happen. They will actually want you to succeed in this life and in the hereafter.
The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) said: “Love for your brothers what you love for yourself.” [Bukhari & Muslim]
Then Muslims look at one another and then say, they are extremist Muslims because they carry these beliefs . Then we have people who say, they are modern Muslims because they carry these beliefs. We are just Muslims, under one banner, one unity. We want goodness for each other.
There will always be those who are harsh with their advice, lacking etiquette’s and understanding on how to advise, who will say, “it is better you take off your hijab if you dress like that.” or “it is better if you stop praying if you act like that” and even those who make takfeer, calling other Muslims disbelievers. This is not right the way to advise and approach a Muslim, rather we should advise as if we are in that position, advise for the sake of Allah subhana wata’ala and not wanting to score brownie points with women or men and being gentle with our tongues.
If an individual takes time out of their day to advise you, listen and don’t automatically think, they are “haters” when they are probably trying to prevent a sin from happening continuously, which you thought was permissible. Know your deen (religion) so it prevents you from acting out in certain ways, where you don’t have the thought “they are judging me.” We aren’t perfect believers and we never will be but through correcting one another through kindness, care and sincerity we can attain a bond and say, this individual is my brother or sister in Islam.