In my previous article, I discussed three types of people who can drain your life away and these types of people are unnecessary for your life. They will drag you away into a bottomless pit and leave you there. If you haven’t read it, insha’Allah (if Allah wills), you can read it here it: https://mshabazz33.wordpress.com/2015/01/07/3-types-of-people-you-dont-need-in-your-life/
In life, we look to surround ourselves with a supporting cast of people but not everyone is going to be supportive of you, your goals and your dreams. They would rather let you drift away from everything and not let you achieve nothing because they are more than likely under achievers who doubt the potential Allah subhana wata’ala has blessed them with.
We don’t know how long we are going to live and life can be short, so why not have these five types of people in your life? Wouldn’t you want them? So now, you are curious, aren’t you? Of course you are. Insha’Allah, I will list five types of people you need in your life. These people are essential and more important than flintstones vitamins in the 90’s.
1. Positive & Optimistic
It is absolutely essential, I mean important to have positive and optimistic people in your life. When you feel down about something or your day isn’t going how you thought, these individuals will bring you up, rather than tare you down. You will constantly see them with a smile on their face and importantly, they will remind you of the blessings you have been given in your life. If they are going through something, they will always say or more than likely say, “Alhumdulilah (thanks to Allah) everything is good.” They rarely complain about their life because they know whatever good happens is by the will of Allah subhana wata’ala and they see it as a blessing and whatever bad transpires in their life, they say Alhumdulilah and are patient.
The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) said: “Amazing is the affair of the believer, verily all of his affairs are good and this is not for no one except the believer. If something of good or happiness befalls him he is grateful and that is good for him. If something of harm befalls him he is patient and that is good for him” [Shahih Muslim]
The believer, a Muslim is optimistic and is positive about things to come in their life and no matter how their day goes, they know good and bad is from Allah subhana wata’ala and nobody else.
2. Honest & Truthful
How many of us have had people lie to us only for us to get hurt or not see what we are able to achieve? Im sure, many of us have. They tell us all the nice things, fearing they will hurt us but they only hurt us even more because they couldn’t open up and tell us the truth. Honesty is important in a friendship or marriage because without it, you will not grow and the friendship or marriage will not grow.
Having honest individuals in your life is definitely a must have. Without honest people you will not grow to be the strongest version of yourself. These people no matter how close you are to them, they will tell you the truth because they want good for you. People who don’t want good for you a lot of times, will lie to you in your face, only for you to fall flat on your face. Hearing nice things about you is great, being praised sounds nice but if it doesn’t come with honesty, it isn’t the truth. Sometimes it’ll hurt, actually a lot of times it’ll hurt because we don’t believe what they are saying, thinking they are just “hating” but if we actually sit down and think about what they have said or advised, it made a lot of sense. A true friend will never lie to you if you ask for advice and a true friend will never lie to you, if they want you to grow. Being honest and truthful is apart of Al-Islam.
Allah subhanan wata’ala says in the Qur’an
“O you who believe! Be afraid of Allah, and be with those who are true (in word and deeds).” [al-Tawbah 9:119]
And also, The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) said: “You must be truthful, for truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man will keep speaking the truth and striving to speak the truth until he will be recorded with Allah as a siddeeq (speaker of the truth). Beware of telling lies, for lying leads to immorality and immorality leads to Hellfire. A man will keep telling lies and striving to tell lies until he is recorded with Allah as a liar.” [Muslim]
Having truthful and honest people will keep you on the right track, while having someone lie to you will stunt your growth and will only enable you to see half or even maybe a quarter of your potential in life.
3. People Who See Potential In You
I am going to be honest here, not many people want you to achieve or accomplish your goals. They would rather see you fail or even take your spotlight with all the hard work you’ve put in. If you look through out history, it has happened to many people and the biggest lie you’ve ever been told is that, Thomas Edison invented many things, when in fact, he didn’t. He actually used people to invent things for him and then stole, then patent their inventions and then took credit for it.
People who love you for the sake of Allah subhana wata’ala, will tell you they see potential in you, rather than steal your inventions or ideas. They will encourage you that you are not a waste of life nor is your talent worthless but it will actually help the world. These individuals are not selfish (not many around) because it doesn’t benefit them in anyway. Of course, they could become rich off your ideas but how guilty would they feel? Not only that, they also fear Allah subhana wata’ala as they will have to answer to him.
When you help others in anything or even help them see their potential, you are being rewarded it.
The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) said: “The people most beloved to Allah are those who are most beneficial to the people. The most beloved deed to Allah is to make a Muslim happy, or to remove one of his troubles, or to forgive his debt, or to feed his hunger.” (Mu’jam Al-Awsat)
Being told you have potential and someone showing you your potential is one of the best feelings in the world.
4. Those Who Remind You Of Achieving Jannah (Heaven)
It is easy to be taken away from the remembrance Of Allah subhana wata’ala as we are occupied with many things through out the day. If it is not work, it is school, if it is not school, then it is video games, if it is not video games, then it is social media or something else. No matter what, there is something going on in our lives that will take us away from the remembrance of Allah subhana wata’ala. Next thing you know, we end up missing all our salah (prayers) and end up regretting it.
Having someone around, whether a friend or a spouse reminding you how it is important to get close to Allah subhana wata’ala is by far the most important thing you’ll need in your life. While we are out chasing making ends meet, our spouse or friend is reminding us, we need to turn to the one who created you five times a day, in order to make your ends meet. They will encourage you to get closer to Allah subhana wata’ala, in order for you to be successful both in this life and in the hereafter. Having a spouse who does that will make you a winner because essentially, your spouse will become your best friend whether you want to believe it or not.
The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) said: “A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her noble ancestry, her beauty and her religion. So win the religious woman; (otherwise) you will be a loser.” [Bukhari]
Your husband, who will be your best friend should also be of religious character because the ultimate goal is eventually jannah (heaven), so get there with them and marry someone like them or even have a friend that will remind you of it.
5. Those Who Respect You, Your Time & Love You
We all want to be respected, appreciated and loved for who we are. It is one of the best feelings in the world but how often do we get taken advantage of and get taken for grated? Quite often.
An individual who respects you, values your time and shows you that they love you, no matter what has occurred in your life will accept you as you are. They will not waste your time nor will they be afraid or shy to show you that they mean a lot to you and love you. Whether it is your brother in Al-Islam or sister in Al-Islam or even your wives in Al-Islam. They see you are apart of this beautiful ummah (nation) and we are all as one. We don’t oppress one another nor do we hate or rip off one another.
The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) said: “A Muslim is a brother of another Muslim, so he should not oppress him, nor should he hand him over to an oppressor. Whoever fulfilled the needs of his brother, Allah will fulfill his needs; whoever brought his (Muslim) brother out of a discomfort, Allah will bring him out of the discomforts of the Day of Resurrection, and whoever screened a Muslim, Allah will screen him on the Day of Resurrection . ” [Bukhari]
He also said: “A believer to another believer is like a building whose different parts enforce each other.” The Prophet then clasped his hands with the fingers interlaced (while saying that).” [Bukhari]
This particular individual, will always value you, your efforts and just see you as you are, a human. Skin tone nor disability separates one of us as we are all one ummah and will always be. It is what makes the religion of Al-Islam beautiful.
Now that you know what you need in your life and what you don’t need in your life, this will help you become the strongest version of yourself, insha’Allah (if Allah wills). I have also written a self-help ebook which covers many negative and positive topics like many articles on my page which will help you insha’Allah. It can be purchased here https://payhip.com/b/3FdM and you can read full reviews on the site.
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