Share Your Inspiring Stories

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Everyday, I will share a story from either one of my subscribers or someone random who decides to share it. Your story can be about anything. How you reverted to Islam, how you became a practicing Muslim, how you overcame things in your life, how you became a better person, things that will help others from what you’ve been through in your life. These stories will, insha’Allah, inspire people around the world and help them with what they are going through and relate, as we are all humans and we can always relate to one another.

These are the rules:

1. No cursing or swearing

2. No exposing of your sins 

3. Send a picture that describes you or a picture that describes your story

4. 300 words or less 

Why no pictures of yourself? Due to sihr (magic) and ayn (evil eye) we thought it be best to protect people from harm but the best protection is salah, Quran and reading your daily adkhars (supplications)

Insha’Allah, I will do my best to share every single one of your stories as long as you follow the rules.  If, I do forget, please don’t hesitate to remind me because I am only human and I forget.

If you ever need advice, you can always email me

Now, do you have a story? Want to share it?

Email me at: mshabazz33@gmail.com

Also follow the account on Instagram, as I will be posting the stories on there and asking Islamic related questions, so we can be stronger in our deen (religion).

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“Where do I even start. Your book is AMAZING!!”

Assalamualaikum!

Where do I even start. Your book is AMAZING!! Wallahi. I am going to admit that I have not finish reading it completely as I’ve been busy but I try to read it whenever I get the time to, insha Allah as my work can be pretty stressful, so reading a book definitely takes my mind off from work, especially a book like yours.

I love the way you write or wrote your book lol. It’s definitely a book that would benefit so many people. My favorite chapter or well chapters lol, had to be The Past, Your Blessings and there’s a few more that I really liked as I felt a certain….what I could say is “connection.” You know like when you read a book, and you go, YES THAT’s IT! Lol. I don’t know how to explain it, but I hope you get what I mean.

I had a lot of mixed emotions as I read through your book. I was smiling, laughing, crying (not cry as I was sad lol. Maybe I am just a cry baby)!

I could go on and on about your book lol. Your book should be amongst those Best Selling books out there.

Hope I didn’t bore you lol.
I really enjoyed reading your book and can’t wait to finish it!

Normizan Raffie – Singapore 

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Do I Write For Money? To Be Famous? To Be Praised?

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Several times in my life, I’ve heard many people say that I write for money, to become famous, to pick up chicks or to be praised. Now, there is absolutely nothing wrong with writing for money because people pay for talent and skills but on the other hand, being praised for my writing cannot be done because it doesn’t come from me. Allah subhana wata’ala has blessed me with this talent so the person that should be praised in this is Allah subhana wata’ala.

I don’t write for recognition nor do I write to become famous. Im passionate about spreading positivity and helping others. I’ve written over 300 articles in less than 2 years on this blog and not once did I ask for a penny from someone. I’ve given away over 100 copies of my book. When someone emails me for advice, I picture myself in their position and how I’d handle it. Money is not my motivation. Recognition, being famous or being praised is not my motivation. I do this because I want good for others just as I want good for myself.

Money is infinite, while time is limited so I put an effort towards benefiting others. When you are in service to others and helping them, it is the most valuable currency there is because the feeling is irreplaceable, while money is replaceable. Im committed to wanting better for others despite someone thinking Im getting nothing in return. I know Allah’s rewards are greater than anything in this world so Im happy with that. I look towards the future and hope to change more people’s lives InshaAllah.

I will never stop because there is more work to be done. An expression, a smile, a positive change in attitude, confidence is something money cannot buy and it is Alhumdulilah what my talent offers the world. Im not a superhero, Im just a regular person who believes good can be accomplished with the talent we are blessed with. I don’t mean bad for others, I just hold a vision and view life is more than just what money can buy and how rich you can get. You can be rich but can’t buy happiness, while happiness can be taught and appreciated with the life, lessons and the people you’ve been given. Im for a better world, a better tomorrow so I hold onto positivity and am optimistic about absolutely everything.People say I get excited too quickly but I’d rather that then to be sad and disappointed quickly.

Life is the most beautiful thing we have been blessed with so why not smile more and appreciate life? We all are chasing the so called bigger things. Mansions, luxury cars, jewelry but these are actually the smaller things in life. The bigger things in life, we forget and that is ourselves. We become occupied with what the world will think of us and how they will praise us when we earn materialistic things while we are never happy. Im happy with my simple life and white t-shirts and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

Im one of the most approachable people you’ll ever come across. Im sarcastic and my nephews and my entire family think Im weird but that is who I am. I’d rather offer people a memory of a smile and a laugh, instead of something bought off the shelves. The shelves are not filled with unique items but you, yourself are and what you offer others is something no individual can build and sell. Im just a regular person who has battled depression, overcame negativity and turns it all into gold, a lesson to make people’s lives better, Alhumdulilah. I could never thank Allah subhana wata’ala enough for everything He has given me. Everything the Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) has taught us is the best of blueprints to living a happy and simple life.

No matter what happens in life, I don’t let things deter me away from my goals and spreading positivity because I know what it feels like to hear the negative things and how much it broke me down over the years. I used to write to escape a world that would hurt me but now I write for people like me or those who need a voice to remind them to keep going in life, that nothing is impossible and everything is within your capabilities as long as you believe in yourself. Allah subhana wata’ala will always help you find a way, as long as you help yourself while turning to Him. Im not an idle Muslim, I am just a Muslim living to the best of my abilities and tapping within my skills and abilities to help others in life. It may come with nothing like money, praise, awards, but it comes with happiness, relief and escape for others reading my work.

My name is Malik Shabazz. Well………. not really I keep my identity hidden like Batman but this is what I’m about and why I do what I do. This is for the sake of Allah subhana wata’ala and for you.

Should I Quit Being A Practicing Muslim?

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People who are practicing see others who aren’t practicing Muslims but have everything going for them, so they consider not practicing. They have a secure job, wealth and seem to be happy while those who are practicing, seem to be struggling on a day-to-day basis, just trying to get by. If we look at Pharaoh and Musa (peace be upon him), you can see the status of two individuals. Musa (Peace be upon him) who worshipped Allah subhana wata’ala, called to tawheed (oneness of Allah) but didn’t have an abundance of wealth. While Pharaoh called to worshipping himself, challenged Allah subhana wata’ala and had an abundance of wealth. It goes to show, that wealth isn’t everything and just because you are wealthy doesn’t mean you are given a high rank in life. Perhaps Allah subhana wata’ala is testing you with your wealth. And just because you aren’t wealthy, doesn’t mean Allah subhana wata’ala doesn’t love you and your rank is much higher, while you worship Allah and turn to Him. No matter what your circumstance in life is, do your best to practice and don’t allow shaytaan to turn you away from the rememberance of Allah. A person with riches that doesn’t practice, is not rich due to the low level of eman (faith) but a person who practices and isn’t rich, is actually rich with eman (faith) which will weigh heavily on the scales on the day of judgement.

“They Are Just Haters, Always Judging Others”

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It is easy to sit there and say “we are judging one another”,” you are a hater”, “only God can judge them”, “who are you to judge”, while people transgress in sin. Im not a perfect individual, I commit sins all the time, everyone in the world does but this isn’t to say, we shouldn’t stop one another from committing them. Instead, today, what we have are people that defend people who commit sins openly, they cheer them on, encourage them and tell them, people are “haters”. Why would an individual who understands the deen (religion) hate on another person who is committing minor or major sins which are being written down and then being taken in account for on the day of qiyama (judgment) in front of Allah subhana wata’ala?

We are actually not hating on you or being sheikhs, we actually care enough to tell you such and such is a sin and it is better if you leave it. Why would we waste our time, “hating” on something that is going to cause you harm? As Muslims, that doesn’t make sense, does it? Of course, there are real haters out there, who will want to bring you down, want to destroy what you’ve built but if a person is a true Muslim, they wouldn’t want that to happen. They will actually want you to succeed in this life and in the hereafter.

The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) said: “Love for your brothers what you love for yourself.” [Bukhari & Muslim]

Then Muslims look at one another and then say, they are extremist Muslims because they carry these beliefs . Then we have people who say, they are modern Muslims because they carry these beliefs. We are just Muslims, under one banner, one unity. We want goodness for each other.

There will always be those who are harsh with their advice, lacking etiquette’s and understanding on how to advise, who will say, “it is better you take off your hijab if you dress like that.” or “it is better if you stop praying if you act like that” and even those who make takfeer, calling other Muslims disbelievers. This is not right the way to advise and approach a Muslim, rather we should advise as if we are in that position, advise for the sake of Allah subhana wata’ala and not wanting to score brownie points with women or men and being gentle with our tongues.

If an individual takes time out of their day to advise you, listen and don’t automatically think, they are “haters” when they are probably trying to prevent a sin from happening continuously, which you thought was permissible. Know your deen (religion) so it prevents you from acting out in certain ways, where you don’t have the thought “they are judging me.” We aren’t perfect believers and we never will be but through correcting one another through kindness, care and sincerity we can attain a bond and say, this individual is my brother or sister in Islam.

Will Marriage Solve My Problems?

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Most people now-a-days are eager to married and begin their lives with their spouse to be. They imagine all the fun things they’ll do together, plan on having kids and going on vacations. How their spouse will encourage them to be better Muslims and even help them wake up for fajr salah, as it seems it is the most difficult to do for people. While in other cases, people are looking to get married for all the wrong reasons, hoping it “cures” them.

People often message me or email for advice and most instances, it is about wanting to get married to an individual (read When Do I know When I Am Ready To Get Married?). Most of the emails or messages pertain to them not being emotionally and mentally ready but are persistent on wanting to begin their lives with another individual. They believe, whatever on going problems they have, getting married will automatically solve all their problems and they will live happily ever after. Often, this is not the case as it turns for the worse and I usually get emails or messages like this:

“Brother, I made a huge mistake, they aren’t the right person for me. I thought getting married would solve all my problems but it didn’t, it made things worse. WHAT DO I DO??!?! WHAT DO I DO?!?!?!?”

Or

“Brother, I was emotionally attached to someone else and I was unable to get married to them, so I decided to marry someone else but a few months after marriage, I don’t think they are right for me because I still have feelings for someone. I thought, being with them would make me forget about them but it hasn’t. I don’t love this person. I don’t have feelings either.”

Too many times, people plan on getting married because their lives are miserable, they have nothing going for them, they are lazy or because they see someone else getting married and desire it too. Only for them to be put in a position where it does not benefit them, doesn’t solve their problems but only worsens their situation, which escalates into something much bigger. People think, marriage is like the wave of a hand and everything that used to exist in their life will disappear. Your past, your pain, your emotionally distress, your depression and everything else. It is like taking a tylenol and your pain disappears within hours.

Do people not understand that marriage is a life time commitment? It involves someone else giving their life, their time, their feelings, all towards you because they want to love you and spend the rest of their life with you. They come to you with honest and sincere feelings, while you, come with a baggage full of your past, hope to dump it on them, only for you to pack your baggage again and move else where because unpacking wasn’t the right idea.

You have to understand, marriage involves you being more mentally ready, rather than being physically. Everyone is physically ready because we are all attracted to one another in different ways but if you are not mentally ready, dealing with so many things in your life, you will not be ready for marriage. You hope and think, this individual will “cure” you, will understand your problems, will solve them but they don’t, then what? You want to get up, walk away because it hasn’t solved a thing, rather made you feel worse because you weren’t mentally prepared. On the other side, the individual you married loves you, thought you were prepared to share your lives together, only to find out, you were there for other reasons, rather than just loving each other for the sake of Allah subhana wata’ala.

Before you ever decide to get married make sure you are mentally prepared and ready. You’ve learned to let go of your past and you are not depressed. There isn’t baggage coming with you. You hope this individual doesn’t solve your life’s troubles and problems. You aren’t doing this because you want to forget about someone you had feelings for. People work on their physically selves tirelessly, putting on make up, working out, being healthy but don’t work on letting go of their past. They don’t work on being better version of themselves, hoping their knight in shining armour or princess comes to rescue them of their woes and worries.

Remember, when you get married, it is not about you anymore, it is about the both of you. Sharing feelings and memories. Growing together and loving each other. Do so with the right intentions. Marrying for the sake of Allah subhana wata’ala and not marrying hoping someone will take your misery away, when they may not and only make you more miserable.

When Do I Know When I Am Ready To Get Married?

With over 10,000 reads and over 900 shares on social media, this is my most read article/blog post. It has benefited many people alhumdulilah and insha’Allah, it will benefit you too.

Think & Be Positive

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Asalamwalikum (Peace Be Upon You). Many people ask themselves or people the question, “When do I know if I am ready to get married?” The question you have to ask yourself is, why are you pursuing marriage? You have friends that have just gotten married and you are caught in the hype? You are genuinely looking to get married? You are fascinated by marriage? There are a lot of reasons why people intend to get married. Your intention has to be right whether you are young or old. A lot of times, especially with young people, they think they are ready for marriage but they are not and it causes a lot heart ache in the long run and it may or may not affect you psychologically for the next person who may have pure intentions for marriage.

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5 Types Of People You Need In Your Life

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In my previous article, I discussed three types of people who can drain your life away and these types of people are unnecessary for your life. They will drag you away into a bottomless pit and leave you there. If you haven’t read it, insha’Allah (if Allah wills), you can read it here it: https://mshabazz33.wordpress.com/2015/01/07/3-types-of-people-you-dont-need-in-your-life/

In life, we look to surround ourselves with a supporting cast of people but not everyone is going to be supportive of you, your goals and your dreams. They would rather let you drift away from everything and not let you achieve nothing because they are more than likely under achievers who doubt the potential Allah subhana wata’ala has blessed them with.

We don’t know how long we are going to live and life can be short, so why not have these five types of people in your life? Wouldn’t you want them? So now, you are curious, aren’t you? Of course you are. Insha’Allah, I will list five types of people you need in your life. These people are essential and more important than flintstones vitamins in the 90’s.

1. Positive & Optimistic

It is absolutely essential, I mean important to have positive and optimistic people in your life. When you feel down about something or your day isn’t going how you thought, these individuals will bring you up, rather than tare you down. You will constantly see them with a smile on their face and importantly, they will remind you of the blessings you have been given in your life. If they are going through something, they will always say or more than likely say, “Alhumdulilah (thanks to Allah) everything is good.” They rarely complain about their life because they know whatever good happens is by the will of Allah subhana wata’ala and they see it as a blessing and whatever bad transpires in their life, they say Alhumdulilah and are patient.

The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) said: “Amazing is the affair of the believer, verily all of his affairs are good and this is not for no one except the believer. If something of good or happiness befalls him he is grateful and that is good for him. If something of harm befalls him he is patient and that is good for him” [Shahih Muslim]

The believer, a Muslim is optimistic and is positive about things to come in their life and no matter how their day goes, they know good and bad is from Allah subhana wata’ala and nobody else.

2. Honest & Truthful

How many of us have had people lie to us only for us to get hurt or not see what we are able to achieve? Im sure, many of us have. They tell us all the nice things, fearing they will hurt us but they only hurt us even more because they couldn’t open up and tell us the truth. Honesty is important in a friendship or marriage because without it, you will not grow and the friendship or marriage will not grow.

Having honest individuals in your life is definitely a must have. Without honest people you will not grow to be the strongest version of yourself. These people no matter how close you are to them, they will tell you the truth because they want good for you. People who don’t want good for you a lot of times, will lie to you in your face, only for you to fall flat on your face. Hearing nice things about you is great, being praised sounds nice but if it doesn’t come with honesty, it isn’t the truth. Sometimes it’ll hurt, actually a lot of times it’ll hurt because we don’t believe what they are saying, thinking they are just “hating” but if we actually sit down and think about what they have said or advised, it made a lot of sense. A true friend will never lie to you if you ask for advice and a true friend will never lie to you, if they want you to grow. Being honest and truthful is apart of Al-Islam.

Allah subhanan wata’ala says in the Qur’an

“O you who believe! Be afraid of Allah, and be with those who are true (in word and deeds).” [al-Tawbah 9:119]

And also, The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) said: “You must be truthful, for truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man will keep speaking the truth and striving to speak the truth until he will be recorded with Allah as a siddeeq (speaker of the truth). Beware of telling lies, for lying leads to immorality and immorality leads to Hellfire. A man will keep telling lies and striving to tell lies until he is recorded with Allah as a liar.” [Muslim]

Having truthful and honest people will keep you on the right track, while having someone lie to you will stunt your growth and will only enable you to see half or even maybe a quarter of your potential in life.

3. People Who See Potential In You

I am going to be honest here, not many people want you to achieve or accomplish your goals. They would rather see you fail or even take your spotlight with all the hard work you’ve put in. If you look through out history, it has happened to many people and the biggest lie you’ve ever been told is that, Thomas Edison invented many things, when in fact, he didn’t. He actually used people to invent things for him and then stole, then patent their inventions and then took credit for it.

People who love you for the sake of Allah subhana wata’ala, will tell you they see potential in you, rather than steal your inventions or ideas. They will encourage you that you are not a waste of life nor is your talent worthless but it will actually help the world. These individuals are not selfish (not many around) because it doesn’t benefit them in anyway. Of course, they could become rich off your ideas but how guilty would they feel? Not only that, they also fear Allah subhana wata’ala as they will have to answer to him.

When you help others in anything or even help them see their potential, you are being rewarded it.

The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) said: “The people most beloved to Allah are those who are most beneficial to the people. The most beloved deed to Allah is to make a Muslim happy, or to remove one of his troubles, or to forgive his debt, or to feed his hunger.” (Mu’jam Al-Awsat)

Being told you have potential and someone showing you your potential is one of the best feelings in the world.

4. Those Who Remind You Of Achieving Jannah (Heaven)

It is easy to be taken away from the remembrance Of Allah subhana wata’ala as we are occupied with many things through out the day. If it is not work, it is school, if it is not school, then it is video games, if it is not video games, then it is social media or something else.  No matter what, there is something going on in our lives that will take us away from the remembrance of Allah subhana wata’ala. Next thing you know, we end up missing all our salah (prayers) and end up regretting it.

Having someone around, whether a friend or a spouse reminding you how it is important to get close to Allah subhana wata’ala is by far the most important thing you’ll need in your life. While we are out chasing making ends meet, our spouse or friend is reminding us, we need to turn to the one who created you five times a day, in order to make your ends meet. They will encourage you to get closer to Allah subhana wata’ala, in order for you to be successful both in this life and in the hereafter. Having a spouse who does that will make you a winner because essentially, your spouse will become your best friend whether you want to believe it or not.

The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) said: “A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her noble ancestry, her beauty and her religion. So win the religious woman; (otherwise) you will be a loser.” [Bukhari]

Your husband, who will be your best friend should also be of religious character because the ultimate goal is eventually jannah (heaven), so get there with them and marry someone like them or even have a friend that will remind you of it.

5. Those Who Respect You, Your Time & Love You

We all want to be respected, appreciated and loved for who we are. It is one of the best feelings in the world but how often do we get taken advantage of and get taken for grated? Quite often.

An individual who respects you, values your time and shows you that they love you, no matter what has occurred in your life will accept you as you are. They will not waste your time nor will they be afraid or shy to show you that they mean a lot to you and love you. Whether it is your brother in Al-Islam or sister in Al-Islam or even your wives in Al-Islam. They see you are apart of this beautiful ummah (nation) and we are all as one. We don’t oppress one another nor do we hate or rip off one another.

The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) said: “A Muslim is a brother of another Muslim, so he should not oppress him, nor should he hand him over to an oppressor. Whoever fulfilled the needs of his brother, Allah will fulfill his needs; whoever brought his (Muslim) brother out of a discomfort, Allah will bring him out of the discomforts of the Day of Resurrection, and whoever screened a Muslim, Allah will screen him on the Day of Resurrection . ” [Bukhari]

He also said: “A believer to another believer is like a building whose different parts enforce each other.” The Prophet then clasped his hands with the fingers interlaced (while saying that).” [Bukhari]

This particular individual, will always value you, your efforts and just see you as you are, a human. Skin tone nor disability separates one of us as we are all one ummah and will always be. It is what makes the religion of Al-Islam beautiful.

Now that you know what you need in your life and what you don’t need in your life, this will help you become the strongest version of yourself, insha’Allah (if Allah wills). I have also written a self-help ebook which covers many negative and positive topics like many articles on my page which will help you insha’Allah. It can be purchased here https://payhip.com/b/3FdM and you can read full reviews on the site.

Also, thank you – jazakAllah khair to everyone who shared their ideas with me, to make this article happen.

JazakAllah khair for reading and share it with others.

Being A Muslim Is About…..

Think & Be Positive

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Being a Muslim is about being positive to the upmost, so being a practicing Muslim it means to be positive. If you were to look at Islam in its different aspects, you would find it’s all about empowering the individual, to giving direction in life and to set you in a direction where he knows, no matter what happens he still got hope and he’s got a chance until his last breath. Therefore, since our breaths are numbered we have to make sure they are spent in the right way and every breath is taken in a way that only makes us grow and come closer to our Lord and to be people who contribute in society, who spread a message that truly everyone needs to know the reality of it because truly it comes with solutions in all aspects and specifically we are talking about being positive.

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3 Types Of People You Don’t Need In Your Life

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We all have certain individuals in our lives who don’t benefit us but oddly enough we keep them around. Days, months and years go by and these individuals take everything out of us. We eventually become mentally exhausted and drained with them around all the time. Sometimes we know who they are and sometimes we don’t know who they are.

In this article, insha’Allah (if Allah wills), I will give you 3 types of people that you don’t need in your life. Now, you may think, I don’t want to be harsh, I don’t want them to feel bad, I don’t want to get rid of them and many things will pop into your head but seriously, just read

1. The Negative Ones

The negative ones are the type no matter what happens in their life, they will constantly see negativity in it. They could be given a million dollars, a home with no mortgage, no debt and still some how, they’ll find something negative about it. These types of individuals will literally put your life into the ground just by how they think of everything. Not only think but how they express themselves.

Allah subhana wata’ala has given us so much and still continues to give us more but some how these individuals would rather see what they don’t have, instead of what they have in their life and have been given through the years of their life. They often forget, the biggest and most greatest blessings are, one; given the religion of Al-Islam and two being able to live another day.

Allah subhana wata’ala says in the Qur’an:

They consider it a favour to you that they have accepted Islam. Say, “Do not consider your Islam a favour to me. Rather, Allah has conferred favour upon you that He has guided you to the faith, if you should be truthful.” [Surah Al-Hujurat [49:17]

If you are able to live another day, you have had an opportunity someone else has not been given instead, the negative ones will complain about their life. I understand, we all go through problems, our life isn’t how we dreamt but these people don’t give up and bring you down by how often you hear “my life sucks.”

Best thing is, don’t keep these people around for too long. They’ll want your pity, they’ll want your advice, they’ll want you to be there for them but even then, after that, they’ll do nothing with your advice. They’ll constantly look for pity and no matter how often you are there for them, it just seems it is never appreciated, so it brings you down.

Walk away! You’ve done as much as you could. They need to grow on their own, so you can also grow and relax without them.

2. Those Who Take Advantage Of You & Never Appreciate You

We go out of our way to help others because Allah subhana wata’ala created us genuine, kind hearted and lovely souls. We help no matter who comes our way, even if they did us wrong but at times, those people never appreciate what is in front of them. Instead, we get verbally abused, walked over and then at times blackmailed because we refuse to give ourselves to them again.

This is where we go wrong. We think, perhaps they may see what we’ve done for them through the years and they’ll be nicer, more kind, accepting but instead they tare us down every opportunity they get.

The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) said: “A believer does not get stung from the same hole twice.” [Bukhari]

Meaning, we never allow things to happen repeatedly.

If an individual does not appreciate you the first time or the second time and walks all over you, make the choice that you aren’t going to allow it to happen again. We are human and we are more than likely to give chances because we want them to see it but you are only causing your own misery while you do this. Don’t cause misery to yourself and don’t allow others to make you miserable. Walk away because they may never appreciate you, while you hope they would.

3. Those Who Don’t Bring You Closer To Allah subhana wata’ala

We all have friends who either are practicing or not practicing. Some are struggling to practice and will give you a reminder or speak about how they are struggling so you can relate. While others, only want to bring you further away with the things they are involved in. These types of individuals, those who bring you further away are not the type you want to keep around or associate yourself with often.

The Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him) said: “The likeness of a righteous friend and an evil friend, is the likeness of a (musk) perfume seller and a blacksmith. As for the perfume seller, he may either bestow something on you, or you may purchase something from him, or you may benefit from his sweet smell. And as for the blacksmith, he may either burn your clothes, or you may be exposed to his awful smell.” [Bukhari and Muslim]

An evil friend will only bring you further away from the remembrance of Allah subhana wata’ala, while a righteous friend, even the one who is struggling, will remind you of Allah subhana wata’ala. Do your best to associate with the righteous and even remind those who have strayed away from the deen (religion). You might be granted jannah (heaven) for it.

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4. Those Who Want You To Change For Them

Influence is a terrible thing sometimes and many times we end up doing the wrong things because we think changing who we are for others is always the best. This is not necessarily the case. We end up regretting what we did and who we aren’t just so we fit in.

Look, well, read, don’t ever change for anybody unless you want to live the rest of your life uncomfortable in your own skin. Imagine waking up feeling this isn’t really who you are and you are chained with the thought, you could be one day be who you really are? Well you can. Those who want you to change for them either have something wrong with them that they want to change or they want to have power over others. Don’t allow others to have power you, unchain yourself, break free of those chains and be exactly who you are.

If an individual is going to accept you, they will accept you as you are now and in time, whoever you become, they’ll accept that as well, as long as you don’t change for the worse.

In a society full of copy cats and clones, it is hard to stand out on your own but don’t ever follow the crowd nor change for someone who can’t accept you as you are now. Be who you are and become even better than ever. Never change for others, only change for Allah subhana wata’ala.

Insha’Allah, this article has helped you and will allow you to get rid of these types of individuals so you can be the strongest version of yourself.

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(Also read: https://mshabazz33.wordpress.com/2015/01/11/5-types-of-people-you-need-in-your-life/)