We all have choices in our lives when people began to enter our lives. We have a choice to either let them stay or let them go but in some situations, we let them stay because we have those thoughts and feelings, even when they screw up, they will change. The mistake we seem to be making too often, is allowing those same types of people entering our lives all the time. In hopes, they change. In hopes, that our fantasy of a fairytale ending will come true. In hopes, that things will go over smoothly and life will begin to bloom beautifully like a flower.
Nothing changes, except the condition of our hearts and minds. Each time you cry over this person, your heart aches. Your mind begins to create a scenario where you’ll end up lonely. Those sleepless nights only extend for a much longer period of time as you think of the person, who is not thinking of you. We all are able to control somethings in our lives. Some signs are given through ishtikhara (seeking goodness in Allah) and some signs are there as soon as they become apparent but we become blind over this lust, that we call love.
Walking out of a bad situation, when you know your heart aches, your pillow is wet, and your days become more depressing because that person, is the only one you want and it is their attention you crave. While your attention is only noticed when they want to be noticed and then they get angry, when you dish out what they’ve been offering. Do not be the door in their lives. Rather be the exit that leads you to more doors and more signs. That will allow you to be loved the way you feel, you need to be loved and appreciated .
No one deserves to be taken advantage of. No one deserves to be thrown aside, then picked up and dropped again as the other person pleases. You are in control of certain situations. You are in control of who should exit and enter your life. The person who causes misery, hurt and only needs your comfort when their life is boring or dull, does not deserve to be there. You are better than that and you know you deserve better than that. Don’t give your tears away to a person that does not care. Don’t sacrifice your sleep for a person who doesn’t want to be apart of your life. Don’t chase a person who doesn’t respond, you are not beggar. You are a person built with qualities that are golden in the eyes of so many but you only think being gold in front of one, who doesn’t deserve you. You are a person built with unique gifts that would be accepted and loved by so many but the one you spent your unique gifts on, doesn’t appreciate you.
Be the solution for the problems. Don’t cause them to pile up for someone who doesn’t neatly pile them sort them with you. You deserve better. Walk out of that persons life and be the reason and solution for your happiness which you deserve.
Allah SWT will provide for you. Don’t EVER lose hope because one is lost while billions are waiting to be found and touched by you. You are the cause of hope, happiness, excitement in other people’s life. Don’t lose it all because of one person who doesn’t deserve you and never has appreciated you. Chin up, smile and say you can do it. There is nothing like reassuring yourself when life is falling down and you are staying positive.
Insha’Allah, things will pass over just as rain passes over and then there is sunshine. Behind every cloud. After every night, there is sunshine. Don’t ever lose hope. Love who you are.