Can Women & Men Be Friends? I will list 5 reasons below why women and men cannot be friends. In my belief, I don’t think a man and woman can EVER be friends. You see how EVER is in capitals? You must be crazy, especially if you are a man or woman, thinking “well, she/he is just my friend.” Eh, WRONG lol! Now, why have I come to accept this belief? Well there are several reasons why.
This is a simple one and I’m sure everyone knows this and if you don’t, then you haven’t been paying much attention to your interactions with the opposite sex, that is if you do. Im sure, we all have had interactions with the opposite sex on many occasions. If you are going to nod your head and say, “no, no, no, no, not me.”
If you are a man or woman and you have friends of the opposite sex, there is a very, very, very high chance that one of them likes you. It doesn’t matter whether they want to tell you or not or they are in a relationship, there is something about YOU that they like. It could be your personality, how you two have great chemistry and get along with each other, you are very attractive. All this is in their mind but you don’t know.
Often at times when Reason #1 comes into play and they’ve admitted to you and you wonder, well…. what do I do now? Do I tell them I like them too? Do I not say anything? Do I keep my mouth shut? Do I say, we are just friends? Most people know the song by an artist which takes me back to my rap days… “OH BABBBY YOOOOU!! YOU GOT WHAT I NEEEEED! BUT YOU SAY IM JUST A FRIEND! BUT YOU SAY IM JUST A FRIEND!!” Yeah, that’s right, she/he says you are just a friend. You really like the person for who they are. You’ve heard about their past experiences with the opposite sex and how they’ve been hurt and you just want to give best of you to this person but you are just a friend. No matter how nice of a person you are, no matter how much attention you get from this person, you are JUST A FRIEND.
You are just a shoulder for that person worries, woes, and filling in a boring, gap in their life. After that, GOODBYE TO YOU!!!!! Yes, you are being used by the opposite sex because you are an absolute PERFECT shoulder, that anytime anything happens you get the call as if you are Batman/Wonder Woman ready to rescue them from their woes, worries and boring life. They may even be in a relationship but you are the one that listens to their problems. You give the advice and everything but when it is time for you… it’s “Oh, I’ve been busy” or “I am busy.” If you want to continue being that shoulder for that person, then you are more than welcome to. Oh yeah, you are like that welcome mat on people’s front door step, everyone gets to step on it whenever they want to come in and leave. Do not become that individual. Stand your ground and say “LEAVE ME ALONE!” Be blunt!
After giving you Reasons 1-3, which seem negative, well there is more negativity to come. Let’s say, Reasons 1-3 are working great, you two are happily in “love” and ready to get married. Due to the decree of Allah SWT, is not happening. No matter how much you try convincing the parents, the cultural barriers aren’t an issue, it just isn’t happening. You’ve done ishtikhara and things are just falling apart. What happens now? You are heart broken and can’t move on with your life. Depression kicks in, more worries, you can’t accept the decree of Allah SWT.
Don’t become friends with the opposite sex. Either you are in it for a gain and benefit or the other person is. One person wants something, the other doesn’t. You want to further the progression in the friendship, get married, live a great life, the other doesn’t. NO MATTER WHAT, feelings are always going to get attached. Denial, denial, denial only because they fear of being rejected by the person they like and want. So stay away from the opposite sex to guard yourself from falling for them and then getting heart broken or used. You may say, this does not happen then you haven’t seen nothing yet or it is just hard for you to believe. Trust me, it does happen and it will happen as long as you are friends with someone who is attractive with a great personality or even a crappy, a-hole personality. You are ugly, she is beautiful. You are beautiful, he is ugly. You are attracted to her, she isn’t attracted to you and vice versa. If she doesn’t want you move on and stop being such a sucka. There will be someone for you, just not her or him. Don’t get used. Be smart and steer clear of the signs they give, especially if you aren’t interested. No point in playing them and affecting them, which will turn out bad for them. Do to others what you want done for yourself.
And if you are Muslim, you already know what it is. Non-mahram. If you aren’t serious about each other, cut the line playa!!!