Who Are We To Hold Grudges?

Asalamwalikhum (Peace Be Upon You). In the Name Of Allah, The Most Beneficent, The Most Merciful.

As I sit here reflecting on my past, I came across in my mind, a lot of things that have transpired of the years and I’ve come to ask myself many times Allah is Al-Gafur (The Forgiving) and Ar-Rahim (The Merciful), am I right? When we turn to Allah and ask for forgiveness and we stay away from whatever bad we did, Inshallah (If Allah Wills) we are forgiven. So how come, when a person does something bad to us, we hold a grudge. We refuse to communicate with them, we give them dirty looks and speak behind their back, hoping some type of bad befalls them. Are we not sufficient enough human beings, with enough intellect and mercy, that we shouldn’t forgive people for the wrong things they did to us? Are we better than our lord, who is Al-Gafur and Ar-Rahim? So what is holding us back from forgiving people, while our Lord forgives and is merciful time and time again?

The Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) never took revenge nor did he take reprisals. Even when a Bedouin came to the Prophet  demanding that the Prophet give him some share, zakah (charity) and that man came to the The Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) grabbing his coat, saying “Give to my share!” Until a mark was made on the neck of the Prophet and his Companions wanted to kill that man. The Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) told them, leave him. The Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) smiled and said “What do you want?” The man said “Give me.” The Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) continued to give him until he had enough. This was the mannerism of The Prophet, his tolerance, his mercy, his patience, his integrity.  If that was once of us, we would have snapped and took things into our own hands. It tells us how shaytan can easily influence us and that our sabr (patience) is still lacking, our Iman (faith) is still weak. Our Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) was very easy going and was abused in many ways. Was hit with stones, people attempted to assassinate him, people set traps for him as he went for his journey but not once did he take revenge or hold a grudge.

So who are we to hold grudges? Cut off ties with people? Hope something bad happens to them? When the Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) has went through worse things us. When Allah forgives us when we ask for forgiveness and are sincere with our repentance. So forgive people for what they have done but always be aware of your surroundings. Smile and always give greetings of peace. Inshallah (If Allah Wills) we all benefit from this message, this includes myself.

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