Never worry over what others have to say or what they think about you. People are going to think about you or speak of you whether you are high up in society or low in society. It’s just the way people work. You take the good, the positive, uplifting words and work with them and you take the negative words, which may be true but you think it’s false, think about them because it may be that you may need to fix something about yourself and reflect on them.
Being a positive individual works wonders. Don’t not deprive yourself of success or achieving something you’ve always wanted because someone has something negative to say about you. Those people aren’t going to help you achieve your goals nor are they going to support you. They will continue to put you down because:
1) They see the determination and passion you have
2) That determination and passion is something they wish they could have
Don’t fall to peoples negative words because they aren’t going to catch you nor are they going to lift you up. That is why the Prophet Muhammad (Peace & Blessings be Upon Him) has advised us to take on friends who are good and are positive. These people will help you attain success. They’ll be loyal to you. They’ll help guide you to being a better person. As The Messegner Of Allah said: “The example of a good companion and a bad companion is like that of the seller of musk, and the one who blows the blacksmith’s bellows.. So as for the seller of musk then either he will grant you some, or you buy some from him, or at least you enjoy a pleasant smell from him. As for the one who blows the blacksmith’s bellows then either he will burn your clothes or you will get an offensive smell from him.” (Bukhari & Muslim)
So don’t ever fall prey to someone’s negative thoughts, words or the way you think society will accept you or not. They’ll always have an opinion about you but it is up to you, the listener, the reader, to accept or deny these negative thoughts and keep going through life on a positive note. The more negativity you accept, the more you’ll come to accept and fall into a hole and the more positivity you accept, the more you’ll able continue to encourage yourself to continue on that path of success.
Success depends on the mind. How you will perceive where you are going. You create a path, a goal, you set it in your mind and have 100% faith in Allah. Life will come with hardships and life will come with ease, this is the reality of it but be patient and continue to strive for whatever it may be. The mind is as powerful as you want it to be. It’s a sponge, it holds all this information, your experiences, your views, your thoughts, all in your subconscious and your conscious. The way you allow your mind to play into these moments in life, will develop your mind into a positive body, who beams with confidence, who knows that the source of life, the source sustenance that comes from Allah but with an effort within ourselves, created by a thought of completing goals and attaining success. This is all with a positive mindset you must create. No one else is going to create that positive mindset for you. If you believe you can achieve then you will achieve. A person can only speak to you and attempt to make you positive but it is up to you whether you want to be or not.
Be a confident person and believe in your abilities because you are intelligent and you are capable of surpassing and achieving goals you’ve set in your life. Be confident at all moments in your life by having complete faith in Allah, as He will carry you through whatever problems or issues you are having. It is important for the Muslim to have this belief. Without this belief, you’ll be affected by the whispers of shaytaan as he is just like a bad friend, who continues to discourage you from being a greater or a better person. Who continues to encourage you to sin and not worry about the consequences and have fun.
So remember, set your mind not as an obstacle but as something that will help you over come obstacles in life. Set your mind not as a place for negative thoughts, for drilling you into a ground of depression but set your mind as a place that you will drill the belief of achieving success and a grounds for positivity. You are as you think you are and you are capable of what you think are capable of but at the end of the day, life belongs in the hands of Allah. So always smile, encourage others to do good and to think positive and be sincere about your advice. May Allah give us all a mindset that will help us achieve our goals and our dreams with the most positive belief.