Why People Walk All Over You

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We’ve all several times in our lives had people walk all over us and we think, what gives? What did we do wrong? So we sit there and think over things we possibly did wrong and cannot come up with a single thing, which obviously leaves us very confused. We are extremely nice, generous, sincere and then people take advantage of us, just wipe their feet all over us as if, we are a mat for the dirt on their shoes.

I’ll tell you why people walk all over you. It’s because you have given them each and every single opportunity to so they do it as often as possible. You are afraid of what they might say when you stand up for yourself. You are afraid of how they may react when you say no, so you never say a single thing, instead you follow their lead like a robot hoping to please them, when they’ll never be pleased by what you’ve done for them.

Don’t you think, if they were happy with you, they would appreciate what you’ve done, instead of taking advantage of you? Of course but that’s not how life and some people work. No matter what you could do for some individuals, they’ll only take as much as they can from you and leave you in the dirt, especially in times when you need them.

You need to stand up for yourself. You need to speak your mind and you need to say no when it is most fitting. When you say yes every single time, they know this person is easy, let me do whatever I want to them, so you end up getting hurt, putting yourself aside for their needs. You have to understand, you are also important and trying to please everyone in this whole world will never be possible and some people can never be pleased no matter how much effort and kindness shown to them.

Want to stop people from walking all over you? Learn to say no. Stand your ground. Speak your mind. Don’t be afraid to lose people like this because they do not add value to your life. Walk away when you have to and don’t be a candle that lights others but extinguishes yourself.

Struggling To Find A Job?

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Struggling to find a job? Don’t worry me too. For the past 2 years, I haven’t had a steady job. The current place I work for is on call and those calls are random and very few at times. I’ve tried every possible avenue. I’ve changed my resume three times, had people apply to different positions for me and even recommend me at their workplace but nothing. It seems, my full time job right now is to look for work and apply to various positions which i think I’d qualify for. My resume is filled with experience, from customer service and even managing and marketing a place for three years. You would think, a man who writes excellently on his statuses and blog posts would be employed and have such an easy time finding something. Not my case. I’ve applied to entry level jobs, basic customer service telemarketing jobs, retail jobs, warehouse jobs, you name it, I’ve probably applied for. As I take a deep breathe and try to relax, I just become overwhelmed with stress and do my best not to grieve over things that are not in my control.

No matter who I explain my situation to, they’ll offer me advice and some will even put me down and pin the blame on me, as if I haven’t made any effort and I am not doing anything to change my situation, even though that sounds extremely ridiculous. Like someone really doesn’t want to work, to earn a living, to provide for a future wife and give things to their kids that they never had, right? Sounds stupid, doesn’t?

Allah subhana wata’ala does say in the Qur’an:

“And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient.” [Surah Al Baqara – 2:155]

In this time, all I can be is patient, continue to make an effort and Insha’Allah (if Allah wills) my situation will change. If you are someone like me who is currently going through the same thing, be patient and know that Allah subhana wata’ala will not put you in a position in your life which you cannot handle. Be strong, become a better Muslim in this time, ask for forgiveness, give sadaqa (charity) from the little wealth you have and don’t give up. I know how hard it is and I know how much you just want to give up and not do it anymore but something is very close and it’ll come to you. Know that in this time of difficulty, Allah subhana wata’ala only tests those whom He loves and know, you are loved by the creator of the heavens and the earth.

Bad times don’t lasts forever and whatever you are going through, no matter the difficulty, the situation, it’ll be over soon. Only ask Allah subhana wata’ala to overcome and get through this situation and nobody else. The one in control of everything, will insha’Allah, give you everything when it is good for you and when the time is right.

5 Ways To Be A Successful Muslim

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1. Plan Your Day Around Your Salaah

You want to be successful in life, with your marriage, your kids, your businesses and other things you have planned in the future. Just as the maudhan, the person who calls to prayer, who makes the adhan says: “hay ya alal falaah, hay ya alal falaah” meaning come to success, come to success, you have to come towards the success which is the hands of the creator of the heavens and the earth. You will be continuously chasing this life and may become successful with materialistic things but true success is in the heart, connected to the brain. Whatever way your heart feels, your mind will react and salaah, prayer has been the way to having a positive and content heart which will lead you being successful with everything else.

2. Surround Yourself With People Who Have Goals

Many of us want to accomplish our goals but have not surrounded ourselves with like minded individuals who strive for similar things. You have surrounded yourself with people who lack ambition, who are negative towards their own success and eventually lead towards their own demise. Do you ever see successful entrepreneurs, business owners, surrounding themselves with people who lack ambition? Who have no vision? More than likely you don’t. Successful people surrounded themselves with liked minded individuals who share a similar vision and want to be successful in the end.

3. Appreciate Life

There are so many things we may feel we lack in life or need in our lives but Allah subhana wata’ala has given us everything we currently need in our life to be successful. I want you to re-read that. That’s right, you currently have everything in your life, at this current moment which is beneficial for you and is not there to destroy you but rather help you come closer to the giver of success, Allah subhana wata’ala. You need to appreciate this because there many others who don’t have the life you have and wish they could have it. Appreciating your life is being thankful to Allah subhana wata’ala and being patient towards other things that will come your way insha’Allah. Be positive and optimistic.

4. Write Your Goals Down

Most of us plan our life goals in our head. We dream of everything we could achieve, hoping we could accomplish it some day. Do you know that many of the successful people in this world have written their goals down on a sheet of paper and constantly reflect on it? I’ve noticed that everything I’ve wanted to achieve so far in my life, never came from something I’ve planned in my head but from things I’ve written down on a piece of paper. Then a few months later or years later, I go back to that sheet and to my surprise I have completed a few of them already, Alhumdulilah. Don’t just plan your goals in your head but write them down, look at them everyday and go and achieve it. Insha’Allah, you will accomplish it.

5. Power Of Duaa

Constantly make duaa (supplication) to Allah subhana wata’ala. He is the one who is Al-Mu’ti (the giver). Shaytaan will hope that you fail in making duaa and divert you away, making you believe that your duaa is not being answered and that leads you away from being close to having your duaa’s being answered. It is the weapon of the believer and it constantly keeps you connected to Al-Mu’ti and insha’Allah, it’ll be answered. Be patient and never give up.

Do Something You Are Passionate About

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Go do something you are passionate about. Who cares what others say. If you do things because you want to be accepted, people may never accept you for the rest of your life. Do what you love. Do what makes you happy. In the end, it is about how you feel and what you think of yourself and not what others think of you. Your own happiness and self acceptance is more important than anything in this world. The world can turn you away all they want but if you accept yourself, know nothing else matters and nothing ever will. Just have tawakul (trust) in Allah and follow your heart.

Live With Your Head In the Clouds

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Live with your head in the clouds, always be optimistic. The moment you spend worrying, thinking negatively, is nothing but life being wasted. Optimism will always take you far, while being negative, will only drown you along the way. You are supposed to have your boat carry you to the shore, not drown you half way. Don’t listen to those who put you down and don’t listen to those who tell you not to dream. It is the dreamers who make dreams come true, while those who doubt themselves give up on theirs and settle for mediocrity. Live life hoping for a better tomorrow and preparing for the worst, rather than giving up on tomorrow and enduring a life time of misery. Tomorrow is not promised, so live it without the mental barriers and always hope for the best. You don’t know what is to come along way, so never give up. What you may be going through is only a test, which is preparing you for success. Continue to be optimistic, hold on and chase your dreams. It may seem like forever but it’ll happen when you least expect it. Don’t ever settle for mediocre, you were created to be something great. You have too much potential, don’t throw it away just because someone told you, you couldn’t but learn to make things happen by planting a seed of success and making it grow. They say the sky is the limit but there are foot prints on the moon, so don’t ever listen to those who tell you how far you can’t go when this universe has so much room.

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Is This A Scam?

I remember waking up, September 11th, 2013. I rolled over to the side of my bed, picked up my phone and checked my email as I usually do every morning. That morning, I will never forget. I had received an email from a radio station in South Africa, named, “Voice Of The Cape.” I was thinking to myself, this is a scam. This is probably one of those people who send people the same thing, hoping to scam them and sucker them out of thousands of dollars. Out of curiosity, I read the entire email carefully and to my surprise, they wanted to interview me about an article that went viral on social media. I was still in disbelief and in shock that someone wants to give me a radio interview because of something I wrote. I couldn’t fathom that. It flew over my head. I was going back and forth thinking to myself, this can’t be possible. Is my article that good? Did people really like it that much, that someone from half way across the world, in Cape Town, South Africa out of all the places in the world, wants to interview me? I eventually settled down, emailed them back and agreed to it. It made my day and it still makes me happy till this day, Alhumdulilah (thanks to Allah).

The point of writing this, is to let you know that your blessings come from the most unlikeliest places in the world. All you have to do is keep working hard, be genuine with what you do and never give up. Your opportunity will eventually come around. Greatness is destined based your determination and effort. You will fail a lot of times and you will succeed too but those who never give up, will claw and grind for what they believe in and will eventually reap the rewards of their hard work and dedication.

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Perception, Confidence: Ugly Or Beautiful

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Many times I come across people telling me, they think they are ugly. They aren’t beautiful or handsome enough to get married. No one in this world has the right whether to tell you if you are ugly or beautiful. If others tell you, you are ugly, know it is an opinion but if you tell yourself you are ugly, you end up believing it, then it becomes a fact to no one other than you.

This world is filled with beautiful individuals and even the most “ugliest” people are really beautiful, shining like stars because they have something you are missing and have been missing for a very, very, very, long time, which is confidence. Whenever an individual tells them they are ugly, they brush it off because they know an opinion will do nothing for them and a person’s perception of me, are just merely words, not facts. They go on with their day, full of confidence, believing in themselves, believing they’ve been created beautifully by the creator of the heavens and the earth. They never have a lack of belief because they believe confidently in themselves that Allah subhana wata’ala did not create an ugly person in this world. They wake up feeling beautiful and accepted by their own acceptance and they don’t long for the acceptance of others, as it will vanish, while accepting thyself is by far the most important thing.

What people who feel are ugly do, they long for the acceptance of others. They live off the compliments, making them feel beautiful. While those who have already accepted themselves, appreciate the person in the mirror and are not looking for compliments from others, asking to be accepted and being told, they are beautiful or handsome.

What people who feel are ugly need to do, is have firm belief that Allah subhana wata’ala created them beautifully and there has not been in error in their physical selves. They should not compare their beauty to someone else’s because little do they know, they may want something you have. Instead of longing for acceptance and being told they are beautiful, they need to tell themselves, they are beautiful. It is not egotistical, it is not being a narcissistic or stuck up, it is called confidence. You need to wake up and tell yourself, you are beautiful or handsome and that an opinion from someone else, especially negative, saying Im ugly, are just words that don’t reflect who I am as a person.

Beauty is not only in the physical but it is also about the person you are. So a person that may look beautiful or handsome from the outside, may actually be ugly on the inside, this may in fact, rot their appearance when they speak because of the lack of manners they carry. Instead of constantly working on your physical self, work on the inner part, so when you do become old, wrinkled, your personality will speak for you, which will emanate beauty from your soul and the words you speak.

Being beautiful or handsome is all about perception and the only persons perception that matters, is yours, so make sure it is a good one filled with confidence. You can paint your face on, get a plastic surgery, buy compliments and likes but if you don’t feel beautiful or handsome within yourself, those are only temporary feelings which will disappear. While accepting yourself, believing in yourself and being confident in how you were created will never disappear. It will only strengthen as you get old. Learn to accept yourself and be confident, it will change the world around you and help you feel better every single day, insha’Allah (if Allah wills).

A Personal Choice

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Sometimes, you need to make a personal choice in order for your life to get better. You can hope, wish, dream, write things down but everything in life requires an effort from you in order to get things moving. You think you need permission from an individual in order to get your life straight. You think you need permission from an individual in order to chase your goals. You don’t need permission from anyone, you just need confidence and firm belief in Allah subhana wata’ala with a positive mind set that things can change.

We all aspire for change in our lives but it will always begin with a choice and an effort. Don’t allow others to make a choice that you will regret living with but make choices that will benefit you and never, ever, follow the crowd. Learn to stand out on your own. It’s mind boggling that people aspire to be like others when Allah subhana wata’ala created only one of you. The way I see it is, people influence you and you take what they’ve shared and turn into something. You don’t become like them and create more and more clones. Originality is so rare today, that when we come across someone who is original, they are labeled as weird and sometimes, people are weirdo’s.

Stop allowing others to dictate your life, your work place, your train of thought and be something of your own. Be who you want to be, as long as is within the limits and boundaries of Al-Islaam. Break barriers, don’t stay within them. You’ve been given intelligence that you don’t put to use because you are so afraid of the after effects that don’t even exist, then you wake up disgruntled with how life is going, only for you to do the same thing you hate to do everyday. What kind of life is that?

This is why, whatever you decide to do in life, make sure it is a choice you are willing to live with and if you can’t, then you’ll end up waking up with no purpose and no where to go. Be driven by passion, plan your day around your salah (prayers) and insha’Allah (if Allah wills) you will be successful. Success begins with a personal choice, so make sure it is you who is making the choices in your life and not someone who doesn’t care about you or wants you to work like a robot and be only driven by money. Money will always be there even after you are gone but you wont be, so do your best to live a memorable life. Do things that you’ve never done before. Challenge yourself. Take risks and most important of all, put Allah subhana wata’ala first then do whatever it is you’ve set out to do. Have a purpose, live out your vision and don’t let anyone stop you.

Muslims Inspired – Story #2 – “The only time in my life I felt loved was when I turned to Allah”

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One day I met someone that changed my life. For a moment in time I felt peace. I was more than happy. This one person made me see I had my whole life ahead of me. What I didn’t know was that empty promises will eventually wear. I was misguided by his words and the waswasa of Shaytan. I felt good with him because no matter what was going on, we’d talk about it. But, due to several events we were no longer able to. We’d fight and we were no longer so forgiving towards one another. Everything was happening so fast. Surprisingly when that individual walked out of my life, I cried for less than 5 minutes. I realized that maybe the only way to not have your heart broken is to give it to the one who’d never break it. The one to whom your heart really belongs to. I never prayed to Allah or asked Him for help and yet He still loved me enough to turn me back to Him. Somehow I knew that it was because of Allah’s love and mercy that I was even able to realize what exactly I was missing from my life. How I’ve never had someone who had loved me unconditionally. I was ungrateful for everything. You can’t expect people to never leave you. That one individual I spoke about earlier really made me feel like he was here to stay. I was left baffled by this idea that all my life I kept turning to things. The only time in my life I felt loved was when I turned to Allah. It was no doubt from Allah.” – A.K.

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