My Book

 

 

 

 

 

I’ve always planned to write a book as this has been one my goals in life. I’d like to let you all know that I am currently working on a book and insha’Allah, it’ll be either released this year or early next year. I’ve written several chapters and it’ll be a self-help book, as many of the articles I’ve written are self-help articles, that help you become the strongest version of yourselves. Here is the book cover. I can’t wait to release it in the near future, insha’Allah

 

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Allah SWT Is Guiding You To Better

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I think a lot of us get caught up when an individual does not remain in our life. No matter how hard we try to convince them. No matter how good we are to them. No matter what we do for them, things never seem to workout. But we fail to realize that Allah SWT has set us up with the people we need in our life, that will help us become successful, that will help us become better people and also help us learn lessons in our lives. We continuously think to ourselves, how come? Why not? Why me? But it is Allah SWT protecting you from a greater evil and doing His best to guide you away from it. Your heart may be inclined to decline the on going things but each situation has painted a clear image that shows that situation is just not what you hoped it to be and what you once dreamed of as there are better things to come forth in your life to replace it. You may not understand what is going on but not everything is clear in the beginning and eventually, you understand that this situation that is happening now, years later, was actually better for me. Life will never be one straight road. There will bumps, there will be holes and there will twist and turns to protect you from several things that are for the greater good of your soul, mind and heart. To guide you a better life and to make you the strongest version of yourself. Do your best not to hold on to what was never meant to be but look forward to all the things that have been meant to be and all the things that will be in the future. Be optimistic and smile. You only have one life and you only have 24 hours in a day. Don’t waste it thinking of what was never meant to be but spend in thinking positive of your situation and how it is protecting you and leading you to better things.

Dealing With Rejection

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Rejection is apart of life and not everyone is going to like you, not everyone is going to hate you and not everyone is going to want to fall in love with you. There is no such thing as “love at first sight” because that isn’t actually love at all, that is lust. Lust is a temporary feeling, a desire that appears and gives you a feeling or a sensation you think is love. Love will never appear at first sight, nor will it appear through several sights. Love develops through time.

Being rejected sucks and it is one of the worst feelings but you have to understand, we all are attracted to each other differently. Your beauty, your looks may not be attractive to that one individual but will be attractive to many other individuals but you are thinking, that doesn’t matter, I only want that person but guess what? The reality is, it’s not going to happen. Now, you can attempt to force them to like you but you are looking extremely desperate when you are doing that. If someone is genuinely interested in you, there is no need to force someone to get your attention because they already have it. Don’t force them to like you because if they see you are desperate, you can be taken advantage of and that is worse than being rejected. You are going to get played and end up with a bigger broken heart.

Just because you were rejected doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you. It’ll obviously hurt you a bit but there is nothing wrong with you. You aren’t ugly, you aren’t stupid, you aren’t whatever you think you are because it is not true. You just aren’t for them and they aren’t for you. You belong in someone else’s life that is why it didn’t happen between the two of you. You are going to be beautiful/handsome to someone else and they wont find another person as attractive as you.

You will be rejected several times in your life. Look at all the jobs you were rejected from but you didn’t give up and feel hopeless did you? No, you didn’t because you wanted to either make money or start a job in your career. It is apart of life and not everyone is going to apart of it, especially the person you want. That’s the harsh reality and don’t expect me to sugar coat it for you but really and truly, there is going to be someone else who is going to fall in love with you for 30 or 40 years and probably more longer than that depending on how long Allah SWT gives you two a life for and end up in Jannah together. Take it as something good and not as something bad. You’ll be fine…seriously, you’ll be fine.

Do Not Be Hasty

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Do not be hasty to get married because there aren’t many proposals coming your way.

And do not be hasty to get married hoping someone makes you a better Muslim, while you are not practicing right now to become a better Muslim.

And do not be hasty to get married hoping someone will wake you up for fajr, wake up for fajr now, so you wont need another to help you with that as well.

And do not be hasty to get married to run away from your problems because your problems will still either exist or increase, do your best to solve them, so you wont be burdened with more.

And do not be hasty to marry any individual that comes your way because you think you aren’t good enough, because that individual may end up making you feel that way, instead of what you hoped.

And do not be hasty to marry someone who is not upon the correct aqeedah (beliefs), upon the Qur’an & Sunnah because you may think, they will later but they may never, only for their beliefs to hurt your kids.

And do not be hasty to get married hoping that individual changes because changing for another individual will be temporary, make sure they have changed because the need to change for themselves.

And do not be hasty to get married hoping someone loves you, while in the meantime you could love yourself because they may never love you, instead destroy you.

And do not be hasty to get married because others seem happy on the surface but deep down inside, they are hurting and behind closed doors being abused.

And do not be hasty to get married because being patient will bring the right individual and being hasty may make you regret your decision. Have tremendous faith in Allah SWT that the right one will come. Do not sign your life away with regrets but sign with relief, confidence, being upon the Qur’an & Sunnah, being a practicing muslim that loves yourself and insha’Allah, you’ll live a happy married life.

Food For Thought III

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Think good of yourself and receive your trials in life as a blessing and take things you are turned away from as blessings. Be confident in yourself because no one else can be confident for you. For there are many things about yourself that others love, that you hate but they wish and pray they could have. You are an unlimited potential that limits yourself from the confine of your mind, being trapped and afraid of how the world will react to your intelligence, to the skills and abilities Allah SWT has blessed you with. The ugliness inside of you needs work more than the ugliness on your face because it will disappear in a few years but the ugliness inside of you, on your heart will remain for decades or however long you live, which will ruin the person you are.

No heart turns cold or bitter unless you want it to. Your experiences are nothing but lessons to enable you to grasp the reality of this world and what you are really here for. You strive for this world but Allah says: “This world is nothing but play an amusement.” And there after in the same verse, Allah SWT says: “But far better is the house in the hereafter.” [6:32] Your success will begin with your salah and the hardest things to achieve always give the most joy, so begin with Fajr salah and bring ease to your day.

Your capabilities are boundless but you must remain attached to the success bringer and only is He who can give you success. Never be arrogant with what you have nor feel superior to anybody, as what you may be given as a blessing, may turn into a trial due to how you handle it and show others. Your skin is just a colour, a pigment to the eye, just as your face but that is never telling of the person you are, so be good to others no matter the treatment they put you through.

Never chase anybody in this life because those who are meant to stay, will stay regardless of your downfalls and struggles but those who are meant to leave, will leave because they were never meant to be the piece to complete your life’s puzzle. Be as you say you are and do as you say, do your best to keep your word, so you remain a trustworthy individual. Say the truth even if it is against yourself and against those closest to you, as this is what Muslim is supposed to do.

Don’t wish ill for nobody because wishing ill for others will bring ill to your heart and blacken it. Pray for others, wish them good, just as you have been given good. Don’t take advantage of the vulnerable but give them guidance to show them the way. Don’t say nothing about others they don’t like because your good deeds will be needed on the day it matters the most.

Your time is your most valuable asset, so spend it well and only give to those who will receive and treat it well. Love those who show you endless love and do your best to give it equally, as they show you how valuable you are to them. Life is full of worries and stress but one sujood makes it all better, so keep your salah close and tears for the one who can give you an end to your hardships.

Smile as often as possible because each day you wake up is a blessing others have not received. Eat well, treat your body right and see it give you your rights. In the end, you only have one life and 24/hours, do not waste it worrying and complaining cause you have so much to give and live for. Spend it well, goto towards success (salah) and see your life become easier as you are leaving everything to the one who has given you everything.

26 To 27 – Lessons I’ve Learned

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Yesterday, I turned 27. Please don’t write happy birthday. Here are some lessons I learned.

Im too nice and eventually that gets the best of me. Im too forgiving but I learned it’s best to let people go who aren’t a positive force in your life. If they break you down now, they’ll always break you down later.

Your heart and mind will always conflict, so you look to outside sources to reassure what your mind has made up, even then, it is difficult to do what is right, even if it is hurting you.

An ugly personality with a beautiful face, is still ugly. No amount of products or surgery can change that.

Wisdom does not come from age but it comes from experiences.

Extract lessons from your hardships to teach others on how to be the strongest version of themselves. Your ability to teach is undermined by the ability of your mind.

No one in this world is ugly. No matter how many people will tell you that, it is up to you to believe it or not. Be confident in your looks and how you were created.

Your body is an amanah (trust) so treat it with care. The better you take care of it now, the more it’ll benefit you when you are older. Go workout, get in shape and stay determined. A flower does not grow in a day and your body will not change in a day. It takes time and a lot of effort.

Keep your circle of friends small and keep those who are loyal in. Everyone else is just to keep you company.

Hardships are never to break you down but to make you stronger. Tough times don’t last, tough people do.

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Learn lessons from those who have been through more than you. You’ll learn from what they did right and you’ll avoid what they did wrong.

We are all selfish in some ways. Lessons are learned through realization not from those who are judging you.

Learn to love yourself first because self love will always exist, while a secondary love is temporary.

Always encourage those around you. Help them overcome their fears. Not because you expect them to return the favour but because Allah’s blessings are greater.

Always smile, joke around and enjoy yourself. There are others in this world who have less than you but appreciate everything more.

Everything is by the will of Allah, so no matter what you decide in life, if it is not meant to be, it wont be but best believe, it’ll be replaced with what is meant to be.

If your hardships aren’t bringing you closer to Allah, then your hardships will always exist. Get closer to the one who created you by putting your head on the floor and see your hardships depart.

Choose your life partner wisely. If they don’t pray salah, if they drink and understand the Qu’ran differently, then they aren’t for you.

Any woman can wear a hijab and any man can grow a beard but it is the actions that count, not the image presented.

And finally, be in service to others but not as a slave. You are a slave to Allah and not a slave to money. Correct your relationship with Allah SWT and you’ll be successful in everything you decide to do.

Men & Educated Women

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Men do not have a problem with educated women but they have a problem when women try to over power them, are arrogant, egotistical due to their education. Just because you’ve decided to get your certificate/diploma/degree/masters doesn’t mean you are superior, it means you’ve committed enough time and dedicated yourself to something you’ve wanted to achieve so congratulations!
Now, on the other hand, you do have some men, culturally influenced men who dislikes a woman that is smarter than him, then this man is someone who is not confident in himself, as intelligent individuals should be comfortable around those who are also intelligent as well. It creates intelligent and stimulating conversations, where two people can learn from one another.

No man or woman should feel superior due to what they have achieved in life, instead they should be supportive of one another and not feel threatened by the opposite sex. Your rizq (sustenance) is going to be provided by Allah and what people often at times forget or don’t know, is that sustenance not only deals with money but it deals many others thing and what you’ll earn in life, intelligence, being smart is one of them.

Don’t feel threatened because a sister has decided to get an education. The first person to found a higher learning system was actually a woman, so remember, if it wasn’t for a woman, many of you wouldn’t have a university/college to go to. This also doesn’t mean women should stick their chest out and be egotistical or arrogant because of what they’ve earned because remember, Allah SWT guided you to earning that, so be humble.

Men, be supportive of women and be accepting of a woman who earns more than you, if she decides to work, that earning is from Allah and not from you, it is also her money according to Islam. If she is smart, alhumdulilah because you honestly don’t want a dumb woman who will raise your children one day.

Men and women need be balanced with what they are learning. Learn about worldly matters and things that will benefit your deen (religion), eman (faith) as well. It will make your dunya (world) and akhira (hereafter) easier to attain.

Just be humble and be accepting of one another achievements in life. It will benefit both of you in the end. Be happy, stay humble and never be arrogant of what you have because it can be taken away.

5 Things Weightlifting/BodyBuilding Has Taught Me

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1. Everything takes times.
No matter how bad you want something in life, no matter the type of shortcuts you decide to take, your life is going to take time to show your fruits of success. A flower does not sprout in a day and your body, no matter how much you eat, no matter how much protein you absorb, your muscles are going to take time to grow.

2. You must be determined and focused on your goal.
You will have days where you will feel lazy, where you don’t even want to get out of bed. You may be going through something horrible and just want to give up but if this is what you want and you want it as bad as you want to breathe, you will always make an effort and make no excuses to get that goal completed.

3. You must be disciplined.
There is no slacking off! There are no days where you give only 50%. Everyday, you must invest 100% of yourself into the gym, into life to be where you want to be. Paint a picture in your mind. Write your goal down and develop yourself into accepting and accomplishing it by sticking to it by any means necessary. If you are not disciplined, you will not get what you want because you have to keep working at it.

4. I am different from others.
I may see many people being successful with their physique, with their lifts, with their gains but this does not mean they are better than me, this means, they’ve just put in more time and dedication. I cannot make any excuses as to where I am today, instead, I need to put in the time and effort, just as they have. Some are blessed with good genetics and some aren’t but this doesn’t mean, I blame my genetics, I just have to work hard to be where I want to be. We all grow and develop differently.

5. No matter how tough your life can be, never give up!
Just as you struggle to push that 1-3 rep max, you must consistently work your life with the same effort and energy. There will be pressure and there will be so many times where your life becomes difficult, just as it is difficult to push that weight. Just as you are able to push through it, you will be able to push through life’s toughest moments! Everything in life, when it gets tough, is just like that bar, that weight you are trying your hardest to raise above you, to push out of the way. Take life for what it is, continue pushing and have the never give up attitude. Don’t ever let it crush you!

Set Your Kibr (Pride/Arrogance) Aside

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I could never comprehend why some people think their culture or race is superior to others? Wouldn’t you think if your race or culture was superior compared to everyone else’s, you wouldn’t have to work a single day in your life and you would just lounge all day because you are the “chosen” people? You wouldn’t have to worry about a single thing because you are superior compared to everyone else because you are the “chosen” people? The reality is, you are not superior to anyone, so why are you so full of pride over your skin colour, race or traditions compared to everyone else’s? Do you not see that you live just like everyone else? That you turn for help to the creator like everyone else? That the creator made you nations and tribes so you may recognize one another? Isn’t that what Allah SWT says in the Surah Al-Hujurat? So where do you get this idea that your race, culture or traditions are better? Does a person’s skin colour matter more than their character? Seems so in people’s minds. Someone could have the worst of character but since their skin colour matches theirs or the language is the same, they seem to be better. How illogical is that? Do you not understand that thinking this way, while living in a diverse society makes you look like a fool? How closed minded can people be? They want you to accept them for their skin colour, traditions or race, while at the same time rejecting yours but when you don’t accept theirs, they scream racism and want to seek “justice” against your doing. Hypocritical!

Im fed up with how society treats minorities, when the same minorities are doing what the majority do to others. I thought we got past all the racism? I guess not. People still pride themselves over their skin colour, when x-rays show our bones are white, facts say, we are really the same. So why are you obsessed over your skin colour? Why are you obsessed with your culture? Why are you obsessed with your traditions? These things do make you different but reality is, we are really the same.

Doesn’t Allah say in Surah Al-Hajj

We created you from dust, then from a sperm-drop, then from a clinging clot, and then from a lump of flesh, formed and unformed – that We may show you. And We settle in the wombs whom We will for a specified term, then We bring you out as a child, and then [We develop you] that you may reach your [time of] maturity.

So please tell me, how you are superior to anyone else when you are formed and created the same? Then when you die, you are shrouded and buried the same.

Let go of your pride over your skin colour, culture and traditions. All it does is hurt you and especially your children the most. You are nothing but a soul in a body with an appointed time on this earth. Live it without pride and live with an open mind. It’ll make your life easier.

Why Are We Struggling To Get Married?

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Why are we struggling to get married?

First, our parents put too many expectations on your spouse to be. They expect that individual to be of your origin and from your village. Then, the degree, wealth and career choice. It’s not common for parents to worry about deen because some how it isn’t important.

Second, our expectations. Beautiful, handsome, ethnicity, what type of degree and career choice. Sometimes I absolutely hear really stupid things. like “If they don’t have a degree, how can they have an intellectual conversation?” C’mon, bruh, really? Once again, It’s not common for us to worry about deen.

Want to make getting married easier? Make sure that individual is at least practicing Islam to the best of their ability. Anyone can wear a hijab. Anyone can grow a beard but it is the actions of the limbs and tongue that matter most. If they have that, then look at them. Are they attractive to you? Do you see what you like? OK good, if they do. Next, make sure you are compatible. You two get along. Can make each other laugh and smile. That individual is open minded and understanding. They have goals. Long term and short term.

Money? It is needed but not an excessive amount. Degrees? Cool if you have, cool if you don’t. If that individual doesn’t have deen, then you as a Muslim, they aren’t right for you. Deen is what will run the family and raise the kids. Without it, you are lost. You need that individual to be upon the Quran and Sunnah, not upon misguidance and innovations.

Easy as written? I wish! let’s make it easy then. As parents and spouses to be.